Parents with a child who have a slight touch of Aspergers sometimes describe them as a 'socially awkward kid' - does this list add up for you?
Here are a few of the social differences you may have noticed:
If you just went through that list and said Yes, Yes and Yes - a little part of all these things is normal. If you've already found yourself worrying about any of those things over time - or if you have a child that has been diagnosed with Aspergers/ASD - the following information may be of help to you.
You may already know Aspergers was 'identified' in the 1940s by Hans Asperger, a Viennese paediatrician who noticed a specific set of Autism-like behaviors and difficulties with social and communication skills in boys (this is important) who had normal intelligence and language development. And we hear the stats on Aspergers are huge around the world and growing.
What do soldiers have to do with it?
The 'old soldiers' aspect of what we are seeing in these children is important.
I'm seeing a pattern emerge in my work - children's systems body/mind/spirits are carrying programming or energy from a past life in a war. In some cases, it is creating a kind of old fashioned mentality, difficulty with change and a disconnection.
As far as I can see - Hans Asperger was probably witnessing children (reincarnated) from the first World War - which explains why most 'Aspergers' children are boys. (Over 10 million soldiers died in World War 1 alone.)
Many had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - they suffered injuries, shell shock, certainly don't like orders being barked at them, are sometimes depressed, have had poor nutrition, (i.e. eating only ration packs or suffering starvation) and have suffered all the atrocities that soldiers in the trenches had to put up with.
They had to disassociate themselves in that time from what they were doing - and so have a slightly disassociated air now. Authority, buttons and boots are a problem as they are related to uniforms, being suppressed, following orders may have led to death - and fear comes as they are getting ready to go out in the world. Loud noises, well that's fairly obvious, bombing or being shot at relates to danger.
We now have kids coming through from other times too, some have been civilians killed in war - boots and buttons again, scary and overwhelming symbols, some targeted with napalm - which seems to show up on the 'now' skin as eczema type issues and/or in the gut as toxic digestive system problems and high sensitivity to chemicals. The list is long. They went through the Depression etc.
How to help?
We heal the past and release the energy of the soldier from their young bodies and reintegrate them into childhood.
The clearing of the discordant energy brings harmony to life and allows the child to be more of a child.
Imagine how you'd feel if you were piggy backing a person (who'd been through a war) around?
Can you see how it fits?
A single session for children affected in this way can make a difference - and the work can be done by distance - it can be done with the parent present, not the child.
What if energy work seems a bit weird?
There is always going to be someone who doesn't believe in reincarnation or past life work. We can't help that - sometimes the concept seems a bit much, I hope I have outlined enough of the 'symptoms' to provoke consideration and dialogue, and that the people who really want to help their kids can get past the unusual nature of the work. This work has a positive effect, and changes children's lives.
The RESULTS are the most important part.
It might seem weird, but making a difference in just one child's life is an absolutely wonderful thing, and hopefully the secondary learning that comes out of this, is that we now, more than ever, need to find ways to reach peace.
#1: If Hans Asperger started diagnosing people in the 1940's then some of these 'kids' I'm talking about - are actually adults now, so if my description at the top of this page sounds a bit like you, or your nearest and dearest, please also consider a session or contact me for more info.
#2: I had instant feedback on this, a lady who contacted me and said 'That is my son to a T, even the upright walking which I had never connected with Aspergers. I cannot help but wonder if he was from a different time - at kindergarten the only activity that interested him was making swords and his interest in weapons was such that he could often identify mistakes in movies.'
For bookings and session availability, more information or to discuss your child's needs (or other behavioural issues), please email me here to check what other work may be suitable.
Hi Eilish, I am excited that you would like to speak about my work. You are the 4th person that has asked me if it was ok, and just the second person I have said yes to.
For me, it is important that the person who speaks about my work understands that it is real and really does help people.
1. How would you describe what you do?
I am a change maker, I'm here to teach people that miracles are a part of every day life.
I use words and energy to bring peoples health and their lives and relationships into a harmonious (or well) condition. I am a healer, and Reiki Master and Teacher and a public speaker, who works on stage to give healing to people in groups.
2. How did you get into doing what you are doing now?
I was introduced to Reiki (pronounced Ray Key) healing, which is a form of energy healing through transference by hand of the Practitioner to the body of the patient (or client). Reiki is a japanese word. Rei means Universal and Ki is energy. In India the word for energy is Prana and in China the word for energy is Chi. Some people will have heard of the energy of Chi. It is more well known.
3. How long have you been doing what you are doing now?
I have been a Reiki Master and Teacher since 2008. But I found my old school reports from childhood, and I have always been kind to people, helpful and nurturing. In 2004 I collected 15 tonnes of food, clothing, shovels rakes and household items for Cyclone ravaged Niue Island and my collection helped to save the birds and the fruit bats. So I am a humanitarian too. I also do Free Hugs in Auckland and have hugged thousands of people over the last few years. About 600 in a few hours when the Rugby World Cup was on in 2011.
I have developed a new healing technique, one that is so simple everybody can use it and I am here to teach them how.
4.Did your upbringing influence the career path you took?
My upbringing was really sad sometimes and also quite scary and so, yes it did, in a funny way. I always want to make people feel better and I want to inspire them to be brave and well, by showing them how I made myself well and survived.
When I was 9 I had encephalitis and nearly died, and I also had glandular fever, and my father who was quite scary to me for most of my life, committed suicide a few years ago. I learned a lot about life, by having a tough life, and some of my teaching comes from that, so it makes what was a very hard situation into a sort of gift.
5. What is your job all about? Could you give an example?
One man I worked on recently had two treatments with me and now he doesn't have to go to the chiropractor twice a week just to get pain relief for his back. He feels like he has a brand new back. He went to the chiropractor for 10 years.
I teach people to do what I do and a lady recently told me she healed her husbands racing heart by using my technique.
On my testimonial page www.debx.co.nz/testimonials.html
there are loads of stories about how I have helped people be well.
You could interview one or two for a comment if you wanted to.
Some people I work on have been to other health professionals, or have been in pain for years and after they see me their pain is gone.
I release pain from the body, mind and spirit. Lots of stress release, but also I have a great deal of success with sore backs, eyesight and old aches and pains. People say they feel lighter after treatment and many feel younger, and some feel taller!!
A lot of my clients call me their miracle lady.
6. Does what you do influence your home life?
It makes me a really weird mum. I don't believe in illness the same way other peoples mums do, so we don't need to go to the Doctors very often!
I have a treatment room at home, and because I work with energy, I can work all over the world via Skype, my home is my clinic and also my office. Sometimes I work in my hammock. :) The only traffic jam I get is when my cat is asleep on the stairs.
7.What do you feel your purpose is?
My purpose is to show people how simple healing is, how wonderful life is, how amazing and strong they are, and to help them when they feel lost. I am here to teach them how to use the power of their own words for wellness, to reveal tools for them to change their own lives, and to help them question their beliefs about their limitations. My work is almost like magic.
8. What/who are you inspired by?
I am inspired by everyone - Einstein, Gandhi, Mother Teresa. I love the talks on www.Ted.com strongly advise you watch Janet Echelman because she is an amazing creative, and also watch Elizabeth Gilbert's great speech on Her Genius. I am inspired by the Dalai Lama, by kindness - love, courage, and freedom. By the trees, the grass the sky. By colour and light, and by nature. I love the sea. I once hugged an Oak tree, and it dropped its whole autumn leaf canopy at that exact moment all around me, so thousands of leaves swirled down around me. It sounded silent and whispery like it was snowing.
I love science, and quantum physics, and can show you what I see if you have some time over the next couple of days.
9. Could you tell me a bit about your paintings?
I love to paint. I don't often use a paint brush. I move colour around until I feel I am finished with the work I am doing. So my work is abstract and my hands get very dirty!
Sometimes my paintings look like big wings or feathers, and people tell me they feel really uplifted by the colour in my work.
I paint to heal people. and also because it makes me feel wonderful too.
If you would like me to give a demonstration of my healing work, I can do that, I have also got a few photos on my website, you are welcome to take them from there, or if you want some I can send them to you.
The Dalai Lama was once asked what his religion was, and he said his religion was kindness.
Einstein said 'You can either choose to live your life as though nothing is a miracle or as though everything is a miracle.'
I choose everything. Over and over and over again.
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To the Darling Girl in All Of Us... Don't settle for Crumbs, Reach for Your Inner Goddess, Your Champion Will Show Up When You Do.
You are not here for crumbs, you are here for the whole loaf.
You are currently riding the wild horse of fear and feeling the earth shifting beneath your feet and it's causing you to forget yourself and your magic. Stand still. Breathe. There is no value in pursuing a partner who is running the other way. Be Brave. Your life partner will run to you, stick beside you, and here's a little heads up... your life partner will invest in you. Not necessarily with money, with something much more valuable.
He will NOT remove small parts of who you are by chipping away at you.
Your life is a big thing to share with Mr Chip, Chip, Chip (who by the way, is only demonstrating what could be healed inside himself - but that's not your responsibility). Chipping away is all about whittling someone into 'shape'. As you can imagine, there is only so much of someone to whittle.
What's left after a lifetime of chipping?
There is one word you need to learn on the first step of the road to remembering you are the whole loaf.
No. No. No.
No. No. No. No.
No. No. No. No. No.
These are for you if your boundaries are being overrun, if you're forgetting who you are and you need to put your foot down and reclaim your power.
Your power is regained as you head away from a situation that does not honour you.
When a woman chooses a partner who does this, she is asking for the partner to reveal to her her value.
The partner shows this by creating situations designed to trigger her up and OUT. She takes so much until she says 'NO, I am MORE than this.' And she frees herself and bit by bit, the chips of her that have been stolen or scared away, come fluttering back. Or she doesn't. And she becomes deadened to her magic.
This relationship often creates a dramatic, threatening cycle. "If you don't do this, you'll be in trouble" triggering childhood behaviours out of fear or parental programming.
Befriend the wild horse, the level fear is related to the level of the exhilaration you will feel when you are free and riding it in the wind.
Get the message. He can't see your magic if he doesn't believe in magic, but it's crucial that YOU do.
You ARE magic darling girl, and you need to hear it, feel it and see it in order to flourish. Everything else is a lie.
You are brave, you are strong, you are creative, you are wonderful and you deserve to laugh all your days and know without doubt that you are dearly loved.
Modern media tells us those champions are thin on the ground, (this is not actually true, there are LOADS of men here with honour, integrity and chivalry who protect and care for women well) but one of the reasons why many men DON'T step up, is because they either don't have a model for it, or they've been groomed by that same media to believe women are difficult to figure out and impossible to please.
It's not rocket science though is it?
Women parrot that because they are fed it too and most women don't have any idea how precious they are.
Sometimes you will hold onto what you have in the now because you are too scared to walk alone.
Mr Chip, Chip, Chip might not be a monster all the time, but those high points you hang out for
can end up being your emotional heroin in an energy struggle that is debilitating and hard (but not impossible) to get away from. (I'm speaking from experience.)
I say go visioning, to the end of your life, and ask yourself if you want to arrive there as the woman who has faded away from being chipped into nothingness.
Do you want a loving outcome?
If your answer is yes, then to be dearly loved you must start with yourself.
So, here is an exercise. Close your eyes, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth and say NO about 20 times. Imagine you're standing in a hula hoop and it's blocking all the 'stuff' that's been coming at you.
You are there by yourself and you are safe.
Then hold your arms up high and allow/vision/imagine light to come flooding down your arms and through your body.
Breathe, a huge deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Put any residual fear that may come bumping in, aside for one moment into a big imaginary holding tank, and breathe again, saying YES to your own magic.
Yes. Yes. Yes.
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes'
Now ask/intend to know what you need to do next in order to top up your own tank.
What would YOU like to do for yourself that invests in who you are as a person?
How can you develop in order to be MORE you, not less you?
How do you reach a loving outcome?
Loving outcomes are only reached by loving measures. There is no low energy, doubt, fear, worry, stress, revenge, no 'I'll show him' energy, it's all about what's beneficial, gentle, beautiful, what takes you to the edge of your comfort zone and stretches you beautifully.
How can you grow?
I have a beautiful client who listened to me years ago, I could see her twinkly sparkly magic, and so could lots of people, but she was just on the edge of that awareness, and starting to look beyond the crumbs.
I told her 'The Goddess sits still' a line I learned from my amazing friend Nilamani.
It means the woman does not run after a man. She instead develops herself. Once she is shining brightly in her own self realisation, her champion can see her and in the meantime, she is enjoying her own magic and so is everyone else around her.
Nilamani told me this when I was single. And I listened. Stopped running round, trying to fill the space in my life, threw my arms up in the air and said 'OK I will stop trying.' I went home and worked on myself.
My champion saw me shining and showed up.
My lovely client made her vision board about her lovely man and what she wanted her outcome to be, and then she went surfing, paddle boarding, to a fitness boot camp and did all sorts of WONDERFUL things to grow and become her shining self.
During the week, she wrote this...
'Haha.. Deb Rowley, a little time ago, I made a Vision Board with you... 2 actually.. put them up on the wall.. looked at them often.. hoped, dreamed.. eventually the blue tack didn't keep them up.. they found a new home under my bed.. having a clean up, I found them.
There were 4 gorgeous rings.. a perfect man.. and happiness, flowers and unconditional love.. looking at what I had stuck on my vision board.. all have come true! I got the ring.. the prince,(it said love right under my nose) and he was sitting there the whole time!! Lol. I get flowers.. and I sat and waited..and waited in my goddessness... and he finally found me!!! Worth the wait... and well worth making a vision board!! Lol. Thanks for making me make it.. really does work!!'
'I threw myself into sooooo much.. went out..never turned down an offer of a night out.. I didn't go looking for a man.. I was still trying to love myself.. while sitting in my goddess.. rebuilding.. while realizing I was pretty damn special... and Matt found me.. so it does work.. I get flowers on a regular basis.. he cooks for me.. everything I asked for in my affirmations on my morning walks..lol. they work too.'
They work because she took action.
She came to those important words 'while realising I was pretty damn special' and there is HER magic.
Can you say this about yourself in a loving, gentle way without any bitterness or self recrimination? Yes? WONDERFUL.
No? That's WONDERFUL too - because now you know what you need to do.
Here and now is where you start - before you do anything else, start right now...
Some ideas for you...
Paddle boarding, surfing, reading, writing, drawing, learn a language, go to meditation classes, listen to podcasts, watch youtube 'how to' videos, develop your non dominant hand (throwing and catching), join a quiz team, start a part time class or course, learn about a country, something in history, research genealogy, do yoga, find a mentor, go to the art gallery, join an archery club, learn how to sail, go do some free hugging, start a blog, become an expert at something unusual, volunteer, see a need and fill it (this is how people sometimes become millionaires), design a beautiful memory board, create a vision board, visit an elderly friend and make a book of their stories, start a travel fund for 2020, GET A PLAN, rediscover your inner child, forgive yourself for all your past 'mistakes', learn how to cook italian, french or mexican food, (unless you are italian, french or mexican, then cook some other kind of food), GET OUT OF THE FREAKIN' HOUSE, make an art journal, join toastmasters, paint with your fingers, de-clutter, change your mind about something that's been holding you back, confront a fear and rock on through it, make a LOVE TANK - real evidence of the people who see your magic, learn a natural therapy that empowers you, change your language to positives and say 'cancel, clear, delete' when you catch yourself being mean to you, rise above stuff that isn't your drama, turn off the TV, stop buying magazines - or at least realise that airbrushing flaws out of beautiful women makes them almost unrecognisable to themselves - they've got cellulite too, listen to your intuition, go on half a dozen short road trips, travel on a train, sculpt something, start a walking group. Find the other people in your community that feel the same way you do - you're not the only one!! JOIN MY NEWSLETTER, and come to one of my inspiring talks. Practise, practise, practise.
Move and create shining trails of light all over your life. Move so you can gently rest and relax. Move into your Goddess space and CLAIM it with grace, and the knowledge you are magical - and if you do that, I will joyously celebrate with you.
And men, if you are reading this, (and got this far - BRAVO) and you'd LOVE your partner to be your Goddess or you need to know more about becoming a champion, and sharing your life with a fabulous, empowered, shining Goddess, this year we are running Relationship Magic & Loving Outcome Workshops. (Relationship Healing is one of my favourite, favourite things - and it's not as hard as you think it is.) Stay in touch. Because your world is made SO much better by a woman who knows who she is and is ready to love deeply and well.
Do it with my love and my blessing.
Because when you shine, you light up my world too.
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This set of one on one sessions is an interactive program of chakra cleanse and rebalance, energetically clearing you, releasing and restoring you.
We work through strength, creativity, confidence, love and self love, expression, mindfulness and opening to your mission and humanity.
This program is a clear out of all the little things and maybe some big things you've been carrying for yourself and others, a connector to useful resources and a BIG RESOUNDING YES for all the things that thrill your body, mind & spirit.
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Contact me here by email or on 021 726 276 (if you are in New Zealand) - or 00 64 21 726 276 if you are an international client. Testimonials to my work are here.
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