We are winding the clock back 5 years. It's 3am.
I wake. I have a huge amount of information in my head and I can't get back to sleep.
It runs over and over and over. I find myself imagining conversations with people, thinking of people that have passed away, situations that did not come out the way I wanted them to, and then there is the information. The ideas. Trotting through my head. Some really amazing pieces of jewellery I could make. Some articles that would be good. Some jobs I need to do tomorrow. The amazing money spinner idea that could pay all the bills and make me a millionaire.
I toss, turn, stress out. And wake in the morning, knackered.
The millionaire idea? Gone. Jewellery? Gone. Article? Gone.
The feeling like I have had a herd of creatures passing through my head in search of a waterhole... 100% present. Argh.
I plod on with my day. Remembering at some stage that I saw my grandfather and he told me I would 'see' many things.
The millionaire idea? Still gone. Bugger. I rehydrate. (And do it all again the following night)
Coming back to present tense, medically speaking - the 3am wake up call can be linked to your blood sugar and adrenals. So if this commonly happens to you - look at your diet. However if you have all the diet boxes ticked and this still happens, bringing with it all the mind traffic...
Other key factors in restlessness/early waking can include:
Things that can help promote sleep are:
In extreme circumstances, say night terrors, for example, a house clearing or past life clearing may be required. While this might seem a bit weird, I can assure you it has been very beneficial to many people. House clearing often has many unexpected benefits, not limited to better sleep - it can often help relationships between partners or children, can sometimes help the house to be warmer, and life can just feel lighter. Commonly my audience members go home after a healing show and sleep like a log. Why? Because often the stress they were carrying has been cleared, and because it's energy work and it travels over distance - their pillow has cleared too.
Possibilities are endless once we take a look.
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- previous blog post Sleep Series: Banishing the BogeyMan
- related post - Sleep Series: Sodalite
A child that doesn't want to go to bed might be scared, unsettled or feeling rejected or abandoned, and the BogeyMan (strange and unrealistic as it may seem) is a common denominator.
Recently a blog article in the US asked bout the creepiest things children say, and many of them discussed a man they could 'see' when nobody else could.
Do you remember seeing the bogeyman? Or being scared that a hand might reach out from under the bed and grab your ankle? I do. I was petrified, and wish I knew then what I know now.
This happens a lot for kids. That man (or woman for that matter) may not actually physically be in their room, but he/she is actually in their perception, (visual, feeling or mind) and so does need to be moved...
After all - if there was a stranger in your room, would you be comfortable sleeping?
Moving unwanted visitors is done by house clearing.
A session includes energetically clearing the room, helping you tune in to the specifics, giving you tools for healing emotional or painful feelings or situations for your child, creating more connection and wellness for you as a family.
Firstly - it's you who absolutely has to sleep. Shattered parents are stressed parents. Many people believe parenting by default means disrupted sleep. What if this was not true for you? When your child feels safe and sleeps well, your chances are greatly improved.
So the odds are - setting your child, and his or her room up for better sleep is going to positively affect you.
Let's chase away the BogeyMan and get the whole family off to sleep.
I have to tell you a little story about a crystal called sodalite.
A lady (lets call her Dawn) came to visit me one day and asked me what advice or healing I could give to her for her mother, an elderly lady in a retirement village. As older people sometimes do, she would wake after only 2 or 3 hours sleep. And was lucky if she had more than 4 hours a night. She was shattered and her body needed resetting.
My newest discovery was sodalite. Oh the joys of a sound sleep!
I shared it with her daughter, told her all you had to do was pop it under a pillow - she bought a crystal from me and off she went to see Mum. I didn't hear from her again until about 3 weeks later. She rang and asked if I had more crystals because her mother had 'used that one up'. They were astounded and delighted to discover the crystal had provided night after night, (17 nights in a row) of unbroken sleep.
I wasn't surprised. In my experience, sodalite stills the mind, provides peace and settles tension. But I had a chuckle. You can't 'use the crystal up', but you can certainly load it up, and loaded up it was. I told them to rinse it in clear running water. It continued to work perfectly.
Dawn came back and brought one for each of her mothers friends and one for herself too.
Sodalite has helped children sleep through the night too. It can also be worth it's weight in gold to sleep deprived parents.*
It's value is immense, but it's extremely well priced and you could get a small handful for under $20. If you haven't discovered the benefits of sodalite, give it a try. It's wonderful stuff. Try your local crystal shop, or give me a call if you are stuck.
Sodalite is great to combine with other crystals, such as rose quartz, howlite and blue calcite. A super peaceful collection.
*Sodalite has also been known to cause extremely sleep deprived people to sleep through their alarms. Please ensure yours is turned up loudly.
I got the message to share posy, a bunch, a collection of blogs together, so here we are...
Love is Easy here
What are Signposts? here
Find out how past lives can create unwellness or phobias here
Using your will for wellness here
I love a healthy sceptic here
Davo's Back Restoration feedback here
Unnecessary Unwellness - is this affecting you? here
Windy's feedback here
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I started the day with Drew Dudley. Which sounds weird, but it brought on a day of miracles. And I'm ending it with this...
We are not here to be harsh on each other. I believe we are here to learn as much as possible about each other. To tell stories and keep our humanity alive. To love people that we don't even know. To share kindness and realise, recognise the miracles that surround us every day.
I believe we are here to stand up for what resonates with us. And to give each other grace, encouragement and a safe, peaceful place to rest.
We don't all get it right all the time - but what is right? What is wrong? What is perfect? Who are we to say? And who are we to judge.
What's right for me might not be right for you.
I know that I wish each and every one of you well.
And that while I have a conscious breath in my body I will continue to do so in the hope that my loves reaches around the world and has a positive effect every day.
One of my first miracles today was Drew - tweeting me and telling me he liked my phrase 'biffing people out of my ballpark' and that he is going to use it in his leadership programs that he runs in Canada.
He is an incredible speaker and educator on leadership, as well as a dedicated humanitarian.
I am super chuffed that my words will go to people on the other side of the world. Even more fabulous is that they are strong words, designed to create inner strength, through standing up for something you personally resonate with.
I am ok with biffing people out of my ball park. And so, I hope are you. We don't have to be perfect, but life is easier if we resonate with the people around us. We have a choice to do so, in fact, for most of us, it's our right. Challenges are good too, but there are ways to make sure they are in line with necessary growth. Banging your head against a brick wall, doesn't make it less brick, it only brings concussion.
Sometimes you need to find (or even create) a door.
Anyway. Sometimes it's just about loving yourself.
I am rounding out the night with this beautiful song: Love is easy.
Apart from anything else - it's our wedding song, so totally perfect for everyone.
Dance. Sing. EnJOY.
But most of all, love.
You're beautiful. *Don't argue with me about this tonight. I have my ranty pants on.
I used the term signposts last night and just want to clarify that term.
'Signposts' are like markers on your life pathway. They are the repeated thoughts you have, the little hunches, the numbers that constantly pop up. (I see 777 and 222 often on number plates)
Songs come up for me too.
Signposts are sometimes the voices of friends, saying 'you should be on stage, you should be a hairdresser, you should work with people' for example. We don't always notice them, but they are always there.
We often find it impossible to see our selves sometimes and we get nudges - I call them signposts and they literally say "if you don't like it here - this is the way you can go."
You may dislike your work. Nothing really changes, but suddenly it becomes much worse. You share that with friends and they say "I always feel amazing when you help me get through a bad patch, or you always uplift me when I'm down' and you think 'well that's not helping me - I am still having a bad time at work' but your friend has actually just given you a clue about who you naturally are.
That clue is a signpost. You get in the car and all the songs are about 'you make me happy' You switch them off in a huff. You're not happy.
But you just missed another signpost.
You're back at work growling and all your Angels are around you.... saying 'well we are trying to tell her it's not the right place, we made it feel a little bit wrong, we got an earth angel to give her clues about how well she helps people, and now we are playing her music to cheer her up and tell her but...'
Truthfully you always wanted to be a counsellor, a psychiatrist or an occupational therapist, but when you suggested it, someone (often a grown up) poo-pooed the idea and so you went into something else that seemed more sensible.
This happens to countless people, and one of the reasons why is fear,
another could be timing wasn't right, and of course, nothing is the wrong thing - everything gives you experience, it all brings new people to you and helps you along your path.
It's never too late to train though - and the good news is you can study a raft of things to enhance your own natural gifts. It takes time to build into something new, but if your eyes are open and you are willing to be moved into your right space, little courses, classes or amazing books and mentors will show up.
With practice you will notice your signposts more easily. With practice you will accept them (the ones that feel most relevant to you), take the small opportunities and maybe some large ones - and allow them to unfold on the path that best resonates with who You are - naturally.
Life is what you make it.
Who are You?
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- prev blog post - fears, phobias, PTSD here
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach