Threads of Life She sinks inside herself. Discouraged and lost in regret and self recrimination. And finds she is not alone. "Have you come for the dance?" he asks. "What dance?" she replies, "I don't understand. I don't know who you are. I can't see a dance, all I can see is black and dark, I've stuffed things up and been stupid, and people have done bad things to me and to each other. Terrible things happen. Life is tough." "Ah", he says. "Those people are teaching each other and you too. Teaching about love and pain, about how you can all make better choices, they are teaching how to think on your feet, how to have faith, how being saved at the last minute is a very real thing that happens, and about how you can cause great harm to yourself if you don't speak up. There are no mistakes, you are just learning." She catches her breath. He has her attention, after all, she has nothing else to do. He explains. "It is a dance because each person is crucial to complete a cycle. Each one is a link in an infinite chain reaction, weaving their way in and out, like a pattern in a fabric, and in that way they are dancers. The man that gives way for the rushing woman, is in the right place at the right time to save someone's life. The woman who gives a gift to the elderly neighbour, thwarts an opportunistic thief, who sees a kindness in action, and is inspired to change his mind." He goes inside himself for a moment and reflects, finding the words. "Sometimes tragedy opens the door for great kindness and a sense of stronger community. Even though It can be difficult, it's important in these times to remain open to good. These people who create wonderful things for each other, are all picking up their threads of life. The Threads of Life are very, very important. They are the same ones that provide people with nourishment from their spirits. When the threads are scattered, knotted or broken, life cannot flow as easily. This is what closure does, sometimes it causes people to wander and stretch their threads very thinly, but they can always be called back, unless it's their time to pass from this world. In cases of death, the thread is snapped completely, as the body is not needed any longer." She absorbs, and seeing how this opening and closing has worked in her life, she nods for him to continue. "The threads roll over and under each other, as the people go about their business. In this way, a blanket is woven by humanity for humanity. Faith is shared, created, restored. Possibility is birthed. Connection between people is the music for the dance, making unconditional relationships and extending kindnesses - this creates harmonious, beautiful music and makes the blanket soft. There are enough weavers now, and many more arriving daily to make this blanket enveloping, inviting and nurturing. Some call themselves Lightworkers, but really it is all kinds of people doing and sharing good. Story tellers, artists, carers, gardeners, builders, mothers, fathers and poets. They sprinkle the blanket with the warmth of heart and courage, the magic of moonlight, starlight, the lilt and uplift of sunshine and daisies. And with the most important thing - the promise of a new dawn." He pauses to see if she is still with him, and sees that her minds eye is filled with images, carried on a blissful journey of creating, imagining and remembering, a vivid landscape of love and caring. A softness has returned to her. He smiles. Her vibration is rising as he speaks. "Theirs is a sacred task, for they are removing the compression that has been laid down upon humanity. Wouldn't you agree that sharing love and wisdom has always been the greatest grace available to mankind?" She nods again. "This blanket is ready for you now. Do you take your part as a weaver in this magical dance?" "Yes." The faintest whisper. "Then there is nothing for you to do but allow the memories of your kindnesses to wash over you. To illuminate your life by engaging with the kindnesses others have done, for you and for all of humanity - and to allow this to also wash over you, and bathe your threads. Breathe and allow. As you do, they are becoming lighter and lighter, silvering in the sunshine of this infinite grace." "Sit now and feel the warmth of the blanket. Feel the light cleansing you and drawing away false ideas of wrongs, slights, and limitations. This light is love. And by your own remembering that you are an expression of this love, you are freed." And with that, she understands that they are One. This is not her alone, this is 'us'. She rests, wrapped in gratitude and the softest of blankets, with a full heart, inwardly experiencing the raw beauty of the dance - and she smiles - as she wonders what took her so long. In the distance, there is music.
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Sessions are for helping you feel like you again. Each session is very individual, it's what you need it to be - in order to bring you into your strong, well, empowered self - in a clearer, brighter, lighter space. Bringing you back to life… and to love. It's about resetting the body to harmonious balance. A session lifts heaviness, removing that 'stuck' feeling and instilling confidence in your abilities to create a great life. There is guidance within the session, (you can ask specifically for a reading) and sometimes there is a little homework too. Depending on the length of time we have, sessions may include these things and the possibilities can be huge…
I work in a high trust environment, so this is a positive and proactive space for you to 'get things off your chest' without judgement, an open space for perfect release and renewal. I see inside the body and work with universal energy, colour, sound, intention and holograms to facilitate this life change. I'm a Reiki Master/Teacher, a Colour Therapist, an Elohim Practitioner and have also been gifted other healing abilities through life experience. The pace your body is able to process and integrate all this work dictates how much we achieve. If you are really, really ready - your body works like a thirsty sponge. A Reiki session is a great follow up to this procedure. The ideal way to approach your session is with the mindset that you are really ready to move forward - and when you've got that, the rest of it flows quite organically. Before you come, you may like to create a mental list of the things you'd like to 'let go of'. Notes and recommendations are often supplied from the sessions. Sessions work alongside allopathic medicine. Some testimonials for my work are here. Are you ready?
Life is for living, loving, laughing and leaping over hurdles. Sure you have to work… but what is the work all about if jumping for joy is not on your to-do list? Your Homework choices are: 1. You - tomorrow - 10 star jumps (or jumping jacks) - in the doorway - at work or at home - facing the world. 2. Make a tin can telephone with string and talk to a friend. 3. Make silly faces at kids on the bus. 4. Make mud pies. 5. Paint with your hands. 6. Investigate glitter or glue for no real reason at all. Stick something to something else. 7. Ring someone up and tell them you love them. 8. Roll down a grassy hill. 9. Go fly a kite. 10. Write "I love you" in lipstick on your mirror. 11. See if you can kiss your elbow. 12. Make up a funny character for a children's book. 13. Take your inner child out for a swing. 14. Make your food into faces before you eat it. 15. Press all the buttons on the thingummies that make music in a FRIENDLY toy shop. *If anyone says you are silly for doing it, tell them it was part of your Play Therapy Prescription from Doctor Deb. **Do NOT taste the strawberry scented soap - it doesn't taste like strawberries - I have already done this experiment for you. (Ok - ever hopeful, I did do it twice just in case I was wrong the first time) MWAH!!! (I just tried to kiss my elbow.)
No pushing, no extreme stuff, be mindful of your capacity and you will feel different. Connect with the ground and feel it strong and firm under your feet. Build up to 36 if you want to - don't rush there. Try three cycles first, then nine and go from there. If you start then, like I often do - get distracted - write the numbers 1 - 36 somewhere and focus on each number as you go. Count on your fingers if all else fails, and if you have 36 of them, I'd love to know. The idea is that we are gently moving stale energy (and releasing that which no longer serves us) out of the body and bringing in the new and fresh. Any clearing you do helps you and all the people around you and regular practice helps you strengthen and brings benefits to your body. The new fresh air we breathe in has the stronger life force energy in it - especially if we are outside. Inside the house, the energy has slowed and is recycling around, this is why it's important to open windows and doors. More lively energy brings you better life force. Breathwork is used all over the world to balance mind and body, and has been known to help focus and also with pain relief. (Think birthing for example.) You are breathing out the ideas and thoughts you have, and bringing in the energy of universal consciousness. This energy is stronger and clearer near water and is also contained in water, this is why we get great ideas in the shower or the bath, why the air is fresher at the sea and near lakes and waterfalls, and why we have more of a flow when we are hydrated. We are what we think, and also what we drink! Fresh is best. Have a try with the breath exercise and let me know how you get on.
The Lighthouse.
All her life she had been hiding inside herself and nobody knew. All her life she had wondered why the people around her that said they were her family, seemed foreign to her sometimes. People who were meant to be her teachers didn't understand her. She felt fear and lack most of the time, unless she escaped. She escaped best to the grass and the clouds and the trees and the sky. She escaped to the whisper, the silence, the roar, the bounty and the inexorability of nature. Nature knew her best. Nature was her home. In nature, she wished for her wings to grow back and to lift her away from this place. Sometimes she even wished for someone to steal her. Then she grew up. She discovered that people had been stealing her all her life, and she had been letting them. She had no boundaries, and gave herself away, trying to please people and make the pain stop. It didn't stop. In her confusion she had thrown away good things and kept others that hurt. She tried to make amends. She did things for people, she gave away things, she gave away money. She waited and waited for a friend, or for a partner to see that she was real and worthy. It didn't happen. People she loved left her, and took things. And took her for granted. Her story was awful. Until the day she started to say No. No built a small boundary inside her first. No protected her from further pleasing of the others. No helped her to please herself. All this time she thought life was about giving and she realised she had starved herself by giving in the wrong order. She said No again and again and took her time doing things for herself. The others were angry. They accused her of being selfish. And she was. She withdrew the energy streams she had been sending out everywhere and she sent them into her heart where they belonged. The others raged. She had pulled out their power lines, their plugs and hooks. It hurt and almost drained her of courage. She wavered a little, feeling bad for them, but listened to her heart and realised if she did not serve herself, they were going to suck her dry of all her goodness and she needed to survive. She no longer felt responsible for their happiness. Her shoulders grew lighter. Her heart grew full. She was self-ish. There was no one left. But she was free. It was incredibly liberating. And then the flow started. At first it was a trickle, little by little the people came, seeing she valued her Self, they acknowledged and responded to her value. She invested in herself by blessing the ones who were present before and who taught her to value herself, and the ones who understood came back. She kept moving forward into an ever increasing stream of new people, new adventures and wonder. The flow of people coming to her became a deluge and she realised she was not only worthy - she had a purpose and the purpose was to free the others. She discovered that all the self doubting in the world was in fact, real selfishness because it caused light to be dim, and only held others back from their healing and growth. She finally understood, she was birthed in love. No matter where she sprang from, how life shaped her, she chose to be here. She was not what had been 'done to her', she was an immaculate idea, divine in her inception, and so she shed the tight constraining bonds of the chrysalis that was her story, grew her wings and claimed the parts of herself that frightened others. She was creative, resourceful, wild, magical and amazing, no longer held back by thoughts of not-good-enough. She had come to the planet to be a guide, a way shower, finally she knew she was a lighthouse for others, to alert them, help them to safety and to hold a space for them to grow and blossom through their storms. She accepted her mission and opening her arms as widely as they could go, she laughed and embraced it with all her heart, exultant in the recognition that her souls greatest journey was also her homecoming. It wasn't meant to be a walk in the park. Lighthouses are made of strong stuff. She stepped up. And stood. Claimed her ground as solid rock and shone. And guide she did.
Marianne Williamson says 'We will inhabit the world we wish to see and that is why we must never lose sight of love.' But what is love? Love is only what it means to us. Everything on earth means what it means to us personally. It has as much importance or as little importance as we attach to it. It's all around us, yet - we sometimes need to tweak our eyes a little, tune ourselves to perceive a little, if we want to increase our spiritual vision. We already have a network of symbols. Hearts are love. Clouds herald rain, rainbows mean the sun is coming. Wool to me, means warmth and comfort, wool to a sheep farmer might mean hard work and profit. Dogs are loyalty - unless they are snarling - then they mean keep out. Consider some of the symbols you have and already use daily. Each persons symbols come from their own life experiences, so they all have subtle differences - and there is more than one way to look at the signs, symbols and messages that are everywhere - so really - it's about getting clear to look. Putting ourselves in a space of grace first, so we can simply receive, instead of pushing and thrashing to get some kind of outcome. A fearful space brings a fear of the signs that come, and a loving space brings a better experience. #1 Sit in a quiet space. And if the only quiet space you have is in the bathroom - go for it - it's a great start. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. You do not have to get a result in this exercise. Simply say to yourself (internally) "I am willing to see." And imagine you have parcelled that up, in an envelope with a stamp on it - and you've sent it in some kind of imaginary Angel Powered Post Box. That's it. Let it go. #2 Admit to yourself that you need help. And then tell your Higher Self, your Angels, God or Nana, you are ready for that help. As simply as this "Angels, I am willing to accept the help you send me." #3 Take any steps that you feel guided, pressed upon, compelled to take. Carefully listen to hunches. Notice recurring thoughts, and instead of pushing them away, ask yourself - is this for my higher good? Discern whether you have been disregarding them due to fear, and if so - does that fear hold a key to healing for you? Write the thoughts down and take appropriate action. The action process is an instigation. The allowing process is an invitation. The active listening process is a validation. Love, faith, some devotion, constructive action, and dedicating yourself to service are all a part of welcoming miracles. So while you are sitting, after you have completed this process, place both hands on your heart and just warm it with love. Once you start to feel a fullness, send any excess out to your home, your family, pets and friends. As an ongoing process, intend to receive 3 big signs on a journey - perhaps the journey to work. I asked for a song (to confirm I was doing the right thing) while I was on my way to my Reiki 1 Learner Healers course, and at the top of the Reiki Teachers driveway - that song played on my car radio. It blew me away. And underlined my day, my Reiki, my Teacher and my spiritual way of life was very important. So what song will you ask for? And would you please let me know if you have a little story about it? Done the exercises, but need to clear some muck out of your spiritual eyes? Book me for a clearing session via the button on the right to text a booking to 00 64 (0)21 726 276
Red is the colour of love. It's regenerative, sensual, stimulating, the colour of power, of the base of our bodies. Of security. Red is all about growth from 0 - 7 years and cares for our backs, hips, legs and feet. It is the colour of the wavelength of light from approximately 620–740 nm on the electromagnetic spectrum. What does that mean to us? We are on a wavelength too. And when our waves are a bit choppy, we need a little colour tuning. So this is the first part of that tuning. When we are lacking in energy, our bodies sometimes need red. To find out if your red balance is out. Stand up, relax, shake yourself a wee bit, flop your arms to the sides and breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Ask in your mind… 'do I need more red?' If your body wants to move forward slightly - you probably do. Go find a little bit of red from somewhere and tuck it in your pocket for a while thinking about absorbing the colour for healing. Later check in again with your body and see how you are feeling. Are you topped up? Too much red too close to bedtime might not be so conducive to deep sleeping. So if you have a big red duvet - and you are not sleeping - try a night with it off the bed - it might be 'winding you up' a bit. Don't forget to check your pockets and take out your red helper before you pop it in the wash! Have you subscribed to my Weekly Newsletter? Next week I am featuring Orange. If you'd like to join - email me here. 021 726 276
Previous post - Feel like you're driving through quicksand to get to work? Here Place your feet flat on the floor and breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth to connect. Close your eyes for a moment and feel that connection. Keep cycling your breath allowing yourself to float and drift into the lightness that envelops you. In your open hand I place a golden cloth. It pulses gently with golden light and has an energy that soothes your heart. As you unwrap it you find you are holding a handful of Pure Faith, humming its song of trust and unconditional love. Put it where you feel you need it most - in yourself or someone else. Breathe it in through your nose and out through your mouth and let the magical energy of the faith caress your soul and nurture you. EnJOY. In love and miracles, Deb X On Lorde: My son walked into the kitchen one day when I was singing away to a new song (with something about bees in it) on the radio, and just casually said "Oh that's a girl called Ella from my school. I said "no way Jack - she has to be an international artist - listen to the song." He said "I'm serious Mum, and the guys in her video are her friends and people from around school too." He showed me on youtube and I was amazed to find he was right. She had several thousand 'thumbs ups' on her song and it was Kiwis saying wow. Didn't that all change?!! I don't need to tell you she is an international artist, but todays news is really exciting - four Grammy nominations!! Wow! While her team has created something so amazing and they so deserve the credit, it's weird to think of her transplanted in such a short space of time from Takapuna Grammar to the world. And I'm sure I'm not the only local (or kiwi for that matter) who is still a bit stunned by it. I watched an interview with teenagers discussing Royals and one said 'if more music was like this, I think our youth would have a different perception of what they want to be when they are older.' Amen to that. I love how real she is, certainly not a Mary Poppins, she says what she thinks, sometimes she rubs people up the wrong way - her opinions are her opinions and she is obviously a bit bemused by some of this. 'Royals' feels like a subtle culture protest song - bringing teen life back to something a bit more real (and perhaps digestible) than plastic underwear - and just in the nick of time. Go get your Grammy's Lorde. The world needs a Pure Heroine. Awesome. Deb X There were bullies in the heart of my childhood. And all of my childhood I struggled to make friends. I read well from a very early age, and life inside my books was rich, wild, wonderful and adventurous. Life outside my books was painful. I didn't fit in. I felt unwanted, I was sensitive to many things I didn't understand, life was not very settled, I felt very awkward around people and I was a target for bullies. Why? Something was different about me. It that was just enough to get me into trouble. Secret #1 Bullies love sameness. Bullies love everyone to be the same, because when everyone is the same, then they all act the same and that makes bullies comfortable. They search out difference and poke fun at it because they feel threatened by it. Secret #2 Bullies are not happy. The thing inside a bully that makes a bully pick on someone else, feels so disgusting to carry around, that they are trying to put it down somewhere. They want you to 'take' it from them. It's a feeling, like a rottenness - not a physical object. It is temporarily fed when they make other people feel as bad as they do, but it's nearly always hungry. Secret #3 Bullies are ugly. Oh, they can sometimes look pretty on the outside, for sure. But take a close look, that prettiness doesn't run too deep, and the good news is this - if a bully keeps pulling THAT face when they look at people and treat people badly - that face just might be the (wrinkle) face that they will end up wearing when they are old. The ugliness, badness or wrongness inside you that they 'seem' to be pointing out to you - IS THEIRS - it's ALL theirs. THEY are the ones who have to fix something, not YOU. They are sometimes masquerading as clever, but being a bully is not clever. It's a waste of character. Secret #4 Bullies actually feel somehow disconnected. They try to reconnect by stealing energy from people who are connected. People who are connected are often connected to love, to nature, to kindness, sometimes they are connected to red hair, (red hair is very magical) and they can even be connected to freckles. Secret #5 Bullies can't handle it when you know the truth about them, so you have to be a bit gentle with them, even though they are bullies. You can't tell them that you know they have these secrets. You just have to remember how awful they feel and remember they are trying to eat your 'good' feeling. (If they felt good, they wouldn't do it would they?) Keep your good feeling with you and treasure it. Not everyone can deal with your goodness, kindness or indeed, if you have it, your red hair. That's their problem, not yours, your individuality is what makes the world go round - it's your own personal torch, that helps you light your path. Secret #6 Later on, some bullies are really sorry because they realise how awful they were and they were actually being bullied themselves. And sometimes they even apologise. Sometimes bullies just need kindness and someone to care about them, they can heal and so can you. You don't need to fix them though, and this is important to know. If you are consistently being bullied, get help. The bullies that were mean to me, hung around in a big group and took turns saying super mean things one at a time. It made them feel better. And it made me feel really awful, really awful, isolated and scared, but at the same time I knew something about them. I knew that the one who was meanest - also frightened the other bullies, and some of them joined her because of their fear of going against the crowd. What if she picked on them? They would have H A T E D it. And that small knowing helped me. A whole group of people who need to pick on one person are sick. Don't be a part of it. The world only progresses when someone is brave enough to put their hand up and share their different idea. Our planet won't survive if we are all the same. Our planet won't survive if we all pick on each other. If you pick on someone, they might not survive. (Ask yourself why you need to and heal that) Because whether it's school, or the workforce, in home, or out in public somewhere - you don't know what that other person is going through - and one day - they might even save your life. Your Challenge: Today think of all the ways that someone who dared to be different changed the world you live in. Think of explorers, inventors, innovators and scientists. See if you can name ten. And then go out and celebrate your difference, because you never know what you could do that will change someones world. If you know a friend who could benefit from these secrets please pass them on. The terrible things that happened to me in my life, which made me feel isolated and scared, also increased my sensitivity to people - now it has also helped me to save other people that have felt really bad. So what someone poked fun at me for, is my greatest gift. So I really mean it - celebrate your difference, because one day you will realise it's your greatest gift too. Here is a (4 minute) video about how doing something that seems small can make a BIG difference to someone else. I hope you really enjoy it. And keep this in mind: What other people think of you is none of your business - it's what you think of you, and what you do that counts the most. Let kindness be your guide. Have a WONDERFUL day. Deb X 021 726 276 |