Hanging on to something that happened a long time ago can consciously or even unconsciously happen. Tough life experiences and attitudes (negative thoughts about ourselves or others) can colour everything that comes after them if we let them.
When you go into a place of peace around those things - you feel physically lighter - a lighter spirit really does help you to feel like you have a lighter body. And not only that, but it seems to make things flow better around you.
Taking the time to do it, and making the commitment to you is key.
That 'baggage' that sometimes impacts our lives so much, can be moved. How many times have you heard a friend who is dating say 'great lady - too much baggage?' or 'nice guy - just can't let his wife go'? The things we hold definitely impact our relationships with others.
Why are we carrying it around?
The weight can be disappointment/resentment (sometimes creating arthritis) it can be disillusionment and often, people feel stupid for trusting and then having their hearts broken, and sometimes we don't know we are carrying it, but we continue to attract similar experiences because it's on our minds, or in our fields.
I can tell you this for free… I almost missed out on my lovely husband because the men in my past were still haunting me. I was still holding them - as proof that the world was full of terrible men (I had hardly any other proof) and I had to make a concerted effort to release them and face him without my fears and judgements.
When I faced him, without that energy on board, I was not only free - I WAS SO EXCITED.
And all he had done was ask me out for dinner. Most decent men would have no clue at all that such a lovely thing to do for a woman could be so terrifying, but it was. I had literally broken out into a cold sweat on the day I was meant to be going out with him.
Gee am I glad I sorted it!!
So… it's great to do a bit of a body/spirit check from time to time and see if there is anything we are letting get 'under our skin' (rashes, shingles) or anywhere we are scared to move forward (feet or ankle strains) repeated stories we tell ourselves of bad experiences, or any parts of our lives that we just feel heavy/stuck in.
You'll know if it's preventing you from moving forward, or just keeping you in a holding pattern. Check it out - even the heaviest burdens can be lifted.
What would you like to be free for?
Sometimes people trying to get their points across look like zealots, and nothing turns me off faster, but amongst the zealoty over the top clips I have seen, a raft of great videos and news reports go through my facebook newsfeed. And these are a few I appreciate, so I am sharing.
I am not into cons-piracy theories, I am into knowing that corporations are about profit and governments are funded by big, often discreetly gifted money. I am into knowing about what I can do to help myself and others around me.
I am inspired to look more closely at the people around me and engage with them on a loving level. I might not understand their lives. I don't have to - but they are people like me, they for the most part, have sons and daughters and family they care about. They don't want their children to die tragically or needlessly, something has to give.
Perhaps these will inspire some thought...
1. Mike Prysner - I don't know him, I don't know for certain if this is his valid life experience or merely a really well designed protest talk - but he makes such valid points, on humanity, greed, and rising above war and racism.
'Ordinary' people of volume do have great power, but not until they realise it. Remember the massive amount of people in the Egypt protest?
It's worth your time to watch Mike's talk here. (He gets a few standing ovations before the end, but they are not the end - keep watching.)
2. I am aware of the massive mental destruction that occurs as a result of trauma. I work with people suffering from prolonged abuse, PTSD and other related issues. Reawakening the spirit within us all is crucial - and in this clip, the moment of engagement when this ex-veteran recognises himself under the layers of disillusionment is extremely heartwarming. He moves into a new phase of life as a result.
It's a sad truth that many Vets are suffering unsupported from PTSD. Who did they really lose themselves for, what haunts them most? If they were all grouped together and allowed to air what haunts them most in a book, would anyone go to war? Would anyone send their child to war?
3. Russell Brand's great interview with Jeremy Paxman took the world by storm and is loaded with valid points that echo or rather frame the importance of the first talk by Mike Prysner. Russell doesn't have answers - he is outlining the need to recognise our power, aware of his own faults and speaking out of the space he has earned through his own work, like we all do - he has a right to have an opinion.
I agree with Billy Connolly's quote from several years ago 'the desire to become a politician should prevent anyone from ever being allowed to be one.' I don't have answers either though, just suggestions.
There are clips in my facebook newsfeed daily, clips that are not reaching mainstream media - displaying the massive amount of nuclear polluted water - thousands of litres a day, heading into the sea as a result of Fukushima. Draw your own conclusions as to why this is not being shared in the mainstream media.
Find out about sustainability and pay attention to what is going into your mouth.
About 3 weeks ago I chose to leave a full plate of sushi because the texture of the salmon in it was weird. I am not saying that it has been 'poisoned' - but it made me think - I don't know what was in it, and bad choices are being made on our behalf without any pretense of consultation. Have you seen the information about McDonalds fries having 17 ingredients? Did you, like me, imagine they are made of potatoes, oil and salt?
We don't all need to be food zealots, but if we are what we eat and we are eating food loaded with numbers, bleach and dye - don't expect to feel great.
We need to know where our food comes from, eat local, plant seeds, grow fruit trees, use farmers markets, buy organic if possible, throw away processed (I call it mechanical) food, it interferes with our brains, our children's brains and bodies - and perhaps learn how to muscle test the food we eat.
We are fresh bodies. We NEED fresh air, love, fresh food AND fresh water, and we need to know where it comes from. We need to be more involved, more engaged with what we put in, because wellness is no longer something that many people can take for granted. I don't want Nestle to deplete water reservoirs from villages in Pakistan, which is what they are currently doing.
Pay attention to what is coming out of your mouth - do be gentle and love each other without screaming about differences - strangers care about you and we see that demonstrated so easily when I ask for group healing on my facebook page.
You might not know the people who send you healing, they just do it because they are GREAT people. You pass people daily in the street who wish you well, you are unaware of them, and they may not resonate with you, but they are there all the same.
Care about yourself. Care about others. Teach your children to care about themselves and others, lead by example, and even when you are worried about life - don't teach them hopelessness, find them mentors, inspiration and discover what makes their hearts soar. The world we live in is personal and magical when we make it so. We can change it, by being mindful, by being loving, by being compassionate. We don't have to be perfect in any moment. Just engaged.
Get a mentor, find someone who inspires you to keep reaching forward, even when life feels awful, because sometimes it does. Keep common sense with you - if what they say really has you questioning - don't blindly follow. I've heard a lot of crap come out of people who stood up and said they had all the answers.
We all know there is a kind of crash already happening, it's via an obvious misalignment of us - people with new ideas and new needs crashing into the old archaic, establishment way of doing things. It's a good crash, a radical positive lifestyle change, coming in on a tide of dyslexic children, who don't fit the system and are more feeling, sensitive people. It's coming in on a web that connects people globally, on a wave of people who are disenchanted with the way government doesn't work, it's coming in on a wave of life changing love reaching the planet.
The change is coming in with you. As Sting said - Love is the seventh wave.
All you have to do is place one foot in front of the other and keep your eyes open and take care.
Peace begins with us.
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I love a healthy sceptic here
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I have just spent the morning watching a BBC Doco entitled 'Don't Grow Old.'
I loved it. It presented the work of several scientists, I agreed with some and not with others, but they all showed me some really important things.
Most important was that a strong attitude created a strong life and there was a snippet on Dr Ellen Langer's study from 1979 where she put several 'elderly' men back in time, in a house that was set in 1959, furnished with all the appropriate 1959 props - even newspapers, and caring for themselves. Some of them had current caregivers that they were not allowed to take with them into the test. It was just for a week, but at the end of the week, the results were really rather amazing.
For a couple of days, predictably, they grumbled a bit, but they had to look after themselves, so they did.
Tenacity is a great healer. The results showed some put on weight. Their brains worked better, they tested as moving faster, standing taller, and one threw away his walking stick. In 1979, these people lived as though they were 20 years younger and they became more well as a result.
My opinion. The energy of ageing was negated by introducing the energy of tenacity and youth.
If you have to do it you will.
Will is very, very important and very very underrated, not to mention widely misused.
You can learn how to use yours to bring wellness, feel younger, feel fitter, there are many ways in which people have used their will to beat the odds.
Those layers of life that make you feel less than great can be shifted.
What are you using your will for?
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'Deb I had to get hold of you and tell you about my back and what the Chiropractors have said.
As you know I've had many crashes and injuries, broken my neck twice, and my back has been terrible. I've had between 12 and 15 spots on my back that go out all the time, and because of this, I've had ten years of twice weekly chiropractic work just to get through a week of manual work.
Since I had those two sessions with you, I've been back to both Chiro's and they can't believe it's my back they are looking at! Both have checked me out and remarked that my whole spine is totally different - it has stabilised up and realigned itself - in just over a week!!
All the heat has gone out of my spine.
I have recently been working long hours on ladders again, and it's an absolute miracle that this is possible, because I have not been able to do so due to the extra strain put on the back when you stand on a ladder rung. I'm rapt with the result, not to mention how pleased I am at saving a massive amount of money and time.
It's like I have a new back. Well actually, it's really like I have a new body, I'm absolutely over the moon.
Thank you so much, I have referred you to a few people, I really hope they come.'
- Davo, Auckland
As you can imagine, I am so pleased to receive this feedback. David was referred to me. When he arrived, he told me he was a bit of a tough case. And then proceeded to say he had been in a string of accidents, broken his neck twice and taken three months to recover in a hospital from a car accident.
He is an incredibly hardworking tradesman who has been looking after himself the best way he could, while carrying on with work under difficult circumstances. I'm so pleased he came and had the opportunity to have his back restored.
For bookings or if you want to know more about how my work can help you call me or text on 021 726 276
One of the things I love most about presenting to people in my shows and seminars, is knowing that they can immediately use the tools I give them to positively affect the people around them.
And I am reminded of that often via client feedback.
I tell people how simple it is to affect their own wellness, with words, with thoughts and with action. I'm not talking jumping out of buildings, radically changing diets* and pounding the pavements - I am talking really, really, simple action.
I can't speak for you - but for me two things are super important:
1. I don't like mucking around. I like things to happen FAST.
2. Is an echo. I like things to HAPPEN. I appreciate results.
These tools are simple and I teach them because they bring instant results.
This is the just one of feedbacks I received in Auckland.
'Deb, my husband has been unwell recently with a racing heart.
He had medication for it last year, and on a Sunday a couple of weeks before your last show, he had it again for a couple of hours.
We were really worried and considering what to do, then I remembered the way you taught us to heal during one of your talks.
I used your technique on him, and the racing in his heart stopped - in his words - absolutely immediately.
We looked at each other in stunned amazement because we really didn't expect it to work!!
And it hasn't come back! We were so excited about coming to your show, we couldn't wait to tell you.
On another note - I have also suffered with arryhthmia on and off for years, and have just realised that I've not suffered from arrhythmia since I used your technique on him - perhaps I healed us both.
Thank you so much.' - Gail Craggs
The testimonial above is one part of my talk on Unnecessary Unwellness.
So many people I meet are suffering from unnecessary unwellness, and they don't even realise it.
People who have unnecessary unwellness - sometimes take unnecessary medication, (see my other testimonials) exposing themselves to side effects they could avoid - some of which are time pressures, stress, financial pressures and further unwellness.
You, or someone in your family could be one.
If you have read this and are wondering about your 'unwellness' or would just like more information, text or call me on 021 726 276 or use the button below to email.
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*diet is another pet favourite blog topic. We could all eat better.
"Here's what goes wrong: most men are really seeking freedom. We're teaching you, the freedom you are seeking is the freedom from the bondage of resistance that is always self-imposed. But most men are looking for
freedom. Most women are looking for security, security that they'll only find when they come into alignment with who they are. But they're looking for it through a
So she's looking for more security, which is making him feel less free, and he's looking
for more freedom and that makes her feel less secure. And so that's the basis of
most contention in most relationships." ~ Abraham Hicks
I Love Abraham. That is bang on. Many women take love where they can find it. They spend the rest of the time trying to jam some perfectly lovely man into the box and banging the lid down on it. He gets speed wobbles trying to fight his way out, so she quickly sits on it and nails it shut. And he doesn't want to hang around? Go figure.
When an empowered gorgeous Goddess who knows she doesn't NEED a man shows up in a space with a gorgeous man who knows how to be a rock without being OWNED - then you've got something going on. Beautiful.
I can only reference to my feminine experience of this and so I will.
I used to be so scared my man would run away, that I wanted him to stay home. Guess what? He eventually ran away. Did me (and you) a favour - because he set himself free to learn other things and made me rely on myself.
A painful, beautiful, life changing gift. A transformation even. If he hadn't done that I wouldn't be doing what I am doing now. So finally, I'm grateful.
Standing back and looking at the big picture is beautiful.
I was a self imposed doormat that transformed and grew into a magic carpet.
I'm no love guru, but this much I do know. If you get it, before he runs away and you stop clinging, he suddenly gets the freedom he needs and he may not go. The kicker is - he will only get that if you work on yourself. It's not your job to work on him, it's
your job to be the strong empowered Goddess you were born to be, creating your
own magical life. If he goes, he is not yours and you have some situation or
person coming that is much more suitable for you.
Trust in that because if you keep your attitude upright it will happen.
Bitching, bitterness and man hating will not bring you new love on any level above what you had, it simply reveals you didn't get the lesson and worse, you will very likely
end up with the same guy just with a different 'suit'. (Yes I'm still speaking from experience)
It's nobody's responsibility but yours to make YOU happy.
You can be your own new love.
Go plan some great things to do and instead of waiting by the phone, let it go to message.
And don't bag men. Or hang out with man-haters. Man-haters have a vibe all of their own and regularly take negative pleasure perpetuating their own myths by attracting
If a new relationship starts with, "my ex did this to me" and you meet that with a sad or
angry story of your own, you have little more in common but pain and negativity.
Give all that a great big swerve, do some work on yourself and be grace filled and gorgeous. You'll likely save yourself years of pain, possibly wrinkles, and maybe even money.
Getting over it and you need a hand starting anew?
Have some healing and clear the decks. There could be a great benefit in cord cutting or clearing.
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach