Whats the buzz? Actually Black Tourmaline is absolutely fabulous for blocking OUT the buzz.
If you are a sensitive person, and find large groups of people a bit of a sensory overload at times, Black Tourmaline could be your new BFF. (That's 'best friend forever' if you are over 20.)
Black Tourmaline repels energy overload, sieving out negativity and reducing the energy drain on your nervous system. Whether it's the buzz of people's energy, the buzz of electronics, or some other energy overload that is causing you stress - that stress is reduced greatly or even completely cleared, by holding, or wearing Black Tourmaline and keeping it close.
It forms a sort of protective zone around you, allowing your field to calm down and settle. You may like to use it for an extended period of time, but in my experience, it sometimes disappears into the washing machine, or rolls off somewhere when it needs to rest and spend time away from you. You'll find it again at the right time.
Some people keep a piece in front of their computers, some wear earrings to block out the overwhelm that sometimes occurs in large crowds, shopping malls or supermarkets and some use it in bracelet form.
Black Tourmaline has helped me most remarkably when a person rang and abused me on the telephone. I felt terrible afterwards, displaced, stressed, nervous and awful, and it wasn't until a few days later when I put on a black tourmaline bracelet that the terrible buzzing and draining feeling in my field disappeared completely. And thank goodness, within a few minutes, I felt like myself again.
In her books on crystals, well known Author Judy Hall says Black Tourmaline is used to 'stop psychic attack'. Now I know many people don't believe that is real - but lots of people who are extra sensitive do feel the energy of others, and so they may be susceptible to feeling other peoples expressed or unexpressed anger. The helping and supporting aspect of Tourmaline puts you back in your own zone, and nurtures you until your field is clear again.
I create sprays with black tourmaline and sell black tourmaline earrings that my clients have dubbed their 'No Gossip' earrings. These make it much easier to be in large groups, and if you are so sensitive that you get downloads of peoples life stories without asking - they can help with this too.
Here's a testimonial for the earrings:
Black Tourmaline Earrings & My Magic Power Zone
Deb introduced me to black tourmaline to enable my energetic 'space' not to be overwhelmed with city living, hustle bustle and general energy frazzleness.
I tend to get drained from lots of city driving, lots of city bustle and mall frazzle-energy in general. To go clothes shopping is one of my least successful activities, but I'd been wearing the black tourmaline earrings for a few days, so I ventured out.
I found that I was able to be in my own space, to take my own time, to have time to make better buying decisions and after 3+ hours had a successful collection of clothes for the working months ahead. Normally just over an hour would be my limit, with me feeling out of sorts, but with the earrings, I had the capacity to find my zone, without getting 'spazzed out'.
I now wear the earrings most days for work, just so I am not subjected to unnecessary frazzle, and to help be a bit more grounded too. Definitely a great & fashionable tip!' - Rebecca
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CUT THE LABEL OFF. I've been writing rants about depression quite a bit lately - haven't printed any yet though - but obviously now it's the time to do it. I am totally comfortable with telling you that I have been 'triggered' into another one by the death of Charlotte Dawson.
Charlotte Dawson had a HUGE heart. And she was highly sensitive.
She did GREAT things for some people - lots of people, and she stuffed up sometimes too. She wasn't totally PC - could also be mean, bitchy etc - but only the perfect person is qualified to condemn another. She was real. No matter what she put on her skin, how much plastic surgery she may have had, she was as real as any other person. We are all real.
And she suffered. And man did she ever suffer being a bit of a tall poppy. Despite the fact that she often felt like a failure - she was an achiever.
Why have I posted a picture of a mountain instead of Charlotte? You'll find out below - and anyway - she is probably already all over the place in your newsfeed - so I don't have to.
She may have passed, very tragically today, but she has also given a gift. She has instantly become an even more poignant face than she already was for cyber bullying, media bullying and mental wellness.
People will debate, reminisce, reason and argue. People will say 'oh no, it was such a waste' but they weren't living her life, and they don't know how she felt. It was her journey to walk, and now she is finished. Some will scoff and others will hold compassion. But I think more will hold compassion.
She has held up a torch to darkness, to an underbelly we don't like to look at. This will be a change maker for many people - and in that way she gives even more meaning.
People who suffer often 'feel for others'. Sometimes too much.
I am not speaking on behalf of Charlotte, but I am aware that constantly pushing yourself, having to 'perform', self criticism, caring too much about what others think, the inclination to make the world a better place, to save/repair/fix people - all these things can make you extra absorbent to the stagnant, dirty or heavy energy that flies around looking for a resting place.
It is possible for some people to take on so much 'stuff' from other people that you don't know where they start and you end or vice versa - in the public eye, this is often a hazard.
No matter who you are, if you have had life trauma, hardship or arrived on the planet without your spiritual umbilical cord nice, bright, shiny and fully intact - you may be prone to being depressed.
If life has not gone the way you wanted it to - same goes.
If you repeatedly stare down the black dog, or feel like you are stuck down the hole, and you tell yourself that you are D-Pressed - you certainly have a 'situation'. But a situation is a space, a platform, a place, and you can move from there - even just inch by inch.
You can tell me it's a chemical imbalance - but I know it's energetic. Hyper sensitive people who continue to surround themselves with thoughts/things/food/people that crush the spirit - their wellness cannot help but be suppressed and that may well create/perpetuate or enhance a chemical imbalance.
It's likely you are not going to feel like sunshine and roses and be Mary Poppins.
Just like the chicken and the egg - the bottom of the hole, the black dog and the chemical imbalance or the shitty situations swirl around together. One creates the other and vice versa.
It doesn't matter which one comes first. It still feels horrible.
CUT THE LABEL OFF. Change your position/space/platform.
Some - not all of the media (the Press) have done an absolutely rip roaring ,STUNNING job of selling us depression. They have gone so far as to allow people to be attacked, indoctrinated, wooed even, (see drama tv etc) into believing that the world is full of terrible things/people and events. They print what works for them - I hope you don't think they all print the things that work for you. The moral compass is missing quite a lot of the time.
It can seem like the world is full of terrible things - but perspective - man it's a good thing to have.
The media has done an EPIC job of telling women there is a man shortage - that doesn't cheer any of them up - it's done an epic job of saying you have to have a 68 million dollar wedding - or have the smallest nose, biggest boobs, blondest hair, most measurable success. And you've got to be connected.
Call that thing COMPRESSION. It's suppression, oppression, repression, it's bullshit. Sometimes it's about identifying too much with pain, to too many people in pain, and just wanting to get your message across that the world has been bad to you. And that's ok for a while. Having a life crisis is your personal right. Many, many things are tough for us to deal with, but too often we just skip straight to the D word to identify our issues. That's like a certificate in misery.
Yep - if you've got that, people know how to 'get' you. And where you're coming from.
But if you were covered in bullshit (suppression, repression, oppression) - you would go and wash that off - right??
Change the game. YOU, not it - ARE the driver. You may need some training wheels to give you a hand, so here you are: CUT THE LABEL OFF.
Find your voice - EXPRESSION helps. If you must call it anything - call it COMPRESSION. This enables you to pick apart the crap and action your to-do for wellness list.
Do honour yourself and take a good hard look at what you concentrate on. If you open your mouth and complain regularly about life - do notice your words - these are your clues - and see what you can change about the situation.
By YOUR OWN WORDS you will either flourish or suffer.
DO NOT swallow the line that there is nothing you can do about it because it's bigger than you. It is not. This IS ANOTHER MYTH you have been fed. You may also believe that you have no choice - you may not turn into an instant Mary Poppins, and the world doesn't need a whole lot of them anyway, but something CAN improve. So changing that belief is your first step.
When I learned to ski - I was up the top of the Jungfrau in Switzerland. Please excuse my language, but that MOFO is 4000+ metres above sea level.
I looked down the mountain and almost peed my pants. My friend, who I was furious with for taking me so high when I 'knew' I couldn't ski, told me I only had to ski the one metre in front of me at any given time. And despite the fact that I was unbelievably mad with him, (and may have even wanted to belt him one) I knew it was true.
I did not know what I was doing, but I got down the mountain eventually using a learner technique called snowploughing. I hated it. I moaned, I bitched, I kicked up and carried on, (now that I think about it, I probably left a cloud of filthy energy there to be honest) but I got down the mountain. It seemed to take me Y E A R S. The first parts, of course were hardest. It was painful. Eventually it got easier. The following day I could ski a little bit, and the next day was better too.
(And one day later on - I could ski very well. I've wished many times to be back on that mountain.)
And in that way, bit by bit, just a few years ago, I also walked myself out of a horrible black hole too.
After years of life trauma and some horrific events. Although it obviously took longer, it was a similar kind of journey.
I never ever labelled myself and I think that was a crucial factor in my recovery. (Energy work would have been very useful - but I was a sceptic and never even imagined it was real. Go figure.)
Energy can be cleaned back to the source, and the source can be held to the light and gently loved back into balance.
You only have to ski the metre in front of you. And with someone helping you to snowplough, you can bitch, fight, moan, fuss and kick up a stink, or you can just let go and love it all the way out.
There is always help. Ask for that help if you need it. And be that help if someone else does. And know the journey is personal, and sometimes, no matter how much you want to give that help, some people cannot and will not accept it. Please be brave enough to be ok with that too. It takes a certain amount of courage to sit with another persons pain and allow it to simply be.
The world is filled with unbelievably amazing healers, YOU and I are two of them, (you may not know that about yourself yet) and all we are doing here, is helping to walk (or ski) each other home.
End of rant.
RIP Charlotte, thank you for your contribution to the planet. Peace at last. Go well.
All her life she had been hiding inside herself and nobody knew.
All her life she had wondered why the people around her that said they were her family, seemed foreign to her sometimes. People who were meant to be her teachers didn't understand her.
She felt fear and lack most of the time, unless she escaped. She escaped best to the grass and the clouds and the trees and the sky. She escaped to the whisper, the silence, the roar, the bounty and the inexorability of nature. Nature knew her best. Nature was her home.
In nature, she wished for her wings to grow back and to lift her away from this place.
Sometimes she even wished for someone to steal her.
Then she grew up. At 37 years old she discovered that people had been stealing her all her life, and she had been letting them. She had no boundaries, and gave herself away, trying to please people and make the pain stop. It didn't stop.
In her confusion she had thrown away good things and kept others that hurt. She tried to make amends. She did things for people, she gave away things, she gave away money. She waited and waited for a friend, or for a partner to see that she was real and worthy.
It didn't happen. People she loved left her, and took things. And took her for granted. Her story was awful.
Until the day she started to say No.
No built a small boundary inside her first. No protected her from further pleasing of the others.
No helped her to please herself.
All this time she thought life was about giving and she realised she had starved herself by giving in the wrong order. She said No again and again and took her time doing things for herself.
The others were angry. They accused her of being selfish.
And she was. She withdrew the energy streams she had been sending out everywhere and she sent them into her heart where they belonged.
The others raged. She had pulled out their power lines, their plugs and hooks. It hurt and almost drained her of courage.
She wavered a little, feeling bad for them, but listened to her heart and realised if she did not serve herself, they were going to suck her dry of all her goodness and she needed to survive. She no longer felt responsible for their happiness. Her shoulders grew lighter. Her heart grew full.
She was self-ish. There was no one left. But she was free.
It was incredibly liberating.
And then the flow started. At first it was a trickle, little by little the people came, seeing she valued her Self, they acknowledged and responded to her value. She invested in herself by blessing the ones who were present before and who taught her to value herself, and the ones who understood came back.
She kept moving forward into an ever increasing stream of new people, new adventures and wonder.
The flow of people coming to her became a deluge and she realised she was not only worthy - she had a purpose and the purpose was to free the others.
She discovered that all the self doubting in the world was in fact, real selfishness because it caused light to be dim, and only held others back from their healing and growth.
She finally understood, she was birthed in love. No matter where she sprang from, how life shaped her, she chose to be here. She was not what had been 'done to her', she was an immaculate idea, divine in her inception, and so she shed the tight constraining bonds of the chrysalis that was her story, grew her wings and claimed the parts of herself that frightened others. She was creative, resourceful, wild, magical and amazing, no longer held back by thoughts of not-good-enough.
She had come to the planet to be a guide, a way shower, finally she knew she was a lighthouse for others, to alert them, help them to safety and to hold a space for them to grow and blossom through their storms.
She accepted her mission and opening her arms as widely as they could go, she laughed and embraced it with all her heart, exultant in the recognition that her souls greatest journey was also her homecoming.
It wasn't meant to be a walk in the park. Lighthouses are made of strong stuff.
She stepped up. And stood. Claimed her ground as solid rock and shone.
And guide she did.
Sometimes people trying to get their points across look like zealots, and nothing turns me off faster, but amongst the zealoty over the top clips I have seen, a raft of great videos and news reports go through my facebook newsfeed. And these are a few I appreciate, so I am sharing.
I am not into cons-piracy theories, I am into knowing that corporations are about profit and governments are funded by big, often discreetly gifted money. I am into knowing about what I can do to help myself and others around me.
I am inspired to look more closely at the people around me and engage with them on a loving level. I might not understand their lives. I don't have to - but they are people like me, they for the most part, have sons and daughters and family they care about. They don't want their children to die tragically or needlessly, something has to give.
Perhaps these will inspire some thought...
1. Mike Prysner - I don't know him, I don't know for certain if this is his valid life experience or merely a really well designed protest talk - but he makes such valid points, on humanity, greed, and rising above war and racism.
'Ordinary' people of volume do have great power, but not until they realise it. Remember the massive amount of people in the Egypt protest?
It's worth your time to watch Mike's talk here. (He gets a few standing ovations before the end, but they are not the end - keep watching.)
2. I am aware of the massive mental destruction that occurs as a result of trauma. I work with people suffering from prolonged abuse, PTSD and other related issues. Reawakening the spirit within us all is crucial - and in this clip, the moment of engagement when this ex-veteran recognises himself under the layers of disillusionment is extremely heartwarming. He moves into a new phase of life as a result.
It's a sad truth that many Vets are suffering unsupported from PTSD. Who did they really lose themselves for, what haunts them most? If they were all grouped together and allowed to air what haunts them most in a book, would anyone go to war? Would anyone send their child to war?
3. Russell Brand's great interview with Jeremy Paxman took the world by storm and is loaded with valid points that echo or rather frame the importance of the first talk by Mike Prysner. Russell doesn't have answers - he is outlining the need to recognise our power, aware of his own faults and speaking out of the space he has earned through his own work, like we all do - he has a right to have an opinion.
I agree with Billy Connolly's quote from several years ago 'the desire to become a politician should prevent anyone from ever being allowed to be one.' I don't have answers either though, just suggestions.
There are clips in my facebook newsfeed daily, clips that are not reaching mainstream media - displaying the massive amount of nuclear polluted water - thousands of litres a day, heading into the sea as a result of Fukushima. Draw your own conclusions as to why this is not being shared in the mainstream media.
Find out about sustainability and pay attention to what is going into your mouth.
About 3 weeks ago I chose to leave a full plate of sushi because the texture of the salmon in it was weird. I am not saying that it has been 'poisoned' - but it made me think - I don't know what was in it, and bad choices are being made on our behalf without any pretense of consultation. Have you seen the information about McDonalds fries having 17 ingredients? Did you, like me, imagine they are made of potatoes, oil and salt?
We don't all need to be food zealots, but if we are what we eat and we are eating food loaded with numbers, bleach and dye - don't expect to feel great.
We need to know where our food comes from, eat local, plant seeds, grow fruit trees, use farmers markets, buy organic if possible, throw away processed (I call it mechanical) food, it interferes with our brains, our children's brains and bodies - and perhaps learn how to muscle test the food we eat.
We are fresh bodies. We NEED fresh air, love, fresh food AND fresh water, and we need to know where it comes from. We need to be more involved, more engaged with what we put in, because wellness is no longer something that many people can take for granted. I don't want Nestle to deplete water reservoirs from villages in Pakistan, which is what they are currently doing.
Pay attention to what is coming out of your mouth - do be gentle and love each other without screaming about differences - strangers care about you and we see that demonstrated so easily when I ask for group healing on my facebook page.
You might not know the people who send you healing, they just do it because they are GREAT people. You pass people daily in the street who wish you well, you are unaware of them, and they may not resonate with you, but they are there all the same.
Care about yourself. Care about others. Teach your children to care about themselves and others, lead by example, and even when you are worried about life - don't teach them hopelessness, find them mentors, inspiration and discover what makes their hearts soar. The world we live in is personal and magical when we make it so. We can change it, by being mindful, by being loving, by being compassionate. We don't have to be perfect in any moment. Just engaged.
Get a mentor, find someone who inspires you to keep reaching forward, even when life feels awful, because sometimes it does. Keep common sense with you - if what they say really has you questioning - don't blindly follow. I've heard a lot of crap come out of people who stood up and said they had all the answers.
We all know there is a kind of crash already happening, it's via an obvious misalignment of us - people with new ideas and new needs crashing into the old archaic, establishment way of doing things. It's a good crash, a radical positive lifestyle change, coming in on a tide of dyslexic children, who don't fit the system and are more feeling, sensitive people. It's coming in on a web that connects people globally, on a wave of people who are disenchanted with the way government doesn't work, it's coming in on a wave of life changing love reaching the planet.
The change is coming in with you. As Sting said - Love is the seventh wave.
All you have to do is place one foot in front of the other and keep your eyes open and take care.
Peace begins with us.
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50 ways energy healing has helped my clients
I worked in a weight loss centre in the UK for a while.
NutriSystem was new in the UK and had come from the US. (Here in NZ we don't know NutriSystem so well, but we are familiar with Jenny Craig, who worked for NutriSystem, before she started her own centres.) While I was there, I met a guy who airbrushed model shots for magazines.
He told me not to bother trying to recreate what I could see in magazines, because it wasn't real women we were looking at. He had morphed out more scars, acne, birthmarks, moles, dimples and so called 'fat' than he cared to remember, and drawn in more than a few sets of hip bones. He invited me to see the photos of the real women's Before Shots, and I didn't go, but thinking back now, I can see how profound such a viewing would have been. They were beautiful women, but not perfect.
Click Here to see why this kind of look is often impossible to recreate, because the model wouldn't even recognise herself. Take a look at what intensive editing can do for your figure.
Want longer legs? Here's how you 'can' have them in a moment.
No actual 'perfect genes' required. No pressure - and no reality either.
How do you think this model feels about her own perfectly lovely body after she sees this shot in a magazine?
Feeling amazing is a precursor to looking amazing.
Don't go on a D I E T, rearrange those letters and go on an E D I T.
Edit your lifestyle for real, work on your inner worth, your self talk, your values, take the pressure off, let go of your burdens, your past, edit what you dwell on and what you dwell in, edit your expression
- and S M I L E.
- prev post freckles are so magical here
Do not complain about your life until you investigate the ideas you have.
Make sure your ideas serve your wellness - if they do not - THROW THEM OUT. Get new ideas or leave room for the birth of inspiration.
Bitterness will never make you better, or better than anyone else. Avoid toxic conversations and situations.
Understand that when two people are angry and you don't like it - you are the one who needs to do something about it. More anger feeds the war, put your weapons down. And leave the battleground.
The idea that someone has wronged you is sort of spiritually flawed because every step of your journey has been your teacher, if you did not learn from it - it's guaranteed you have another lesson coming.
Learn fast - requiring the same lesson over and over is not bad luck.
Know that if 'love' requires selling yourSelf short - it's not love - and do something about it.
Be a friend to yourSelf. If you have no friends and you don't like yourSelf either - you know where to start.
Embrace every day as a delivery vessel for new possibilities.
Recognise and honour your values and your virtues.
Dream a dream and take some steps towards it.
Be just a little braver than you think you can be.
Feed your inner child as often as possible.
Light a candle for yourSelf every day. (or when you remember)
Find something to be thankful for.
Do something for somebody else.
Make praise one of your hobbies.
Speak your truth.
If you love someone - tell them - a moment of such courage could change your life forever.
If someone doesn't love you - move on. The person who will love you is
waiting. Taking the ghost of your old partner into your new relationship is one
of those ideas you need to examine.
Remember you have a purpose on this planet.
Know that miracles already surround you.
See the beauty in small things.
Heal yourSelf in nature. At least go for a walk, hug a tree, swim in the sea or lay on the grass.
Share your stories of hope and love.
Act on your hunches.
Smell the roses.
Paint with your hands.
Meditate and rest when you need to. (you need to often)
Love wildly, passionately, deeply, gently, loyally and often.
Give your smiles away.
Surrender everything you can do nothing about. And surrender all your pain and all your (perceived) unhealed relationships.
Find out who you are. Do that NOW. Your joyfulness heals the planet. If you don't know how to start finding your joy - observe puppies and small children playing with water.
Get over yourSelf.
Give with grace.
Receive with grace.
Be pleased to know the end of the world is not today.
You have both less time and more time than you think. So hurry up and... slow down.
Eat honey. If 2000 year old honey is still edible and if 'you are what you eat' is really true, then honey IS the bees knees.
You are each and every one of you a gift filled with gifts. Treasuring yourSelf will help you to honour your gifts.
Drink more water.
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Here is a little dabble with 'what we put up with' from negative people.
If people don't like you or if you have
a consistent experience that feels sharp, pointy or draining with a friend
- I give you permission – in case you are not - o relieve yourSelf temporarily of your good manners (just put them to one side) and take a
good hard look at a couple of things:
A. Why your 'friend' (and we could insert family member or partner here too)
feels the need to download on you or bring you down.
B. Why you are allowing it to happen.
Because here is what I have learned...
Someone once labelled me a 'people pleaser' and I felt it was a very negative
judgement. I worried about what was wrong with me and after I investigated myself, I realised the lady who called me that, was a negative person and was challenged by the fact that I liked people and people liked me.
She was a grumpy lady. Not to everyone. To me. All I was doing was making her a cup of tea - I wasn't deliberately trying to 'please' her. And nothing I did was going to please her - she wasn't WIRED for it.
Ejecting her from my field eased life immensely. I continued to do nice things for people - I am here to share kindness - and eventually realised that she had given me a gift.
My boundaries weren't strong enough and I was an over-giver.
Giving to a person whose hobbies include ungrateful fault finding is not necessarily helping them or you. I had the right to be who I was and she had the right to be who she was. If she wanted to be different or happy, that was her responsibility - not mine.
If she could label me - I would not label her, but I could certainly define her role in my life. Name calling isn’t nice, but definition gives you a platform to work from.
It was a relief for me to let her own her own grouchiness.
And I could step back from it. Maybe she might learn from it too, maybe not, but - and this is crucial here - her learning was not my responsibility or any of my business.
Neither was helping her and so stepping back without being unpleasant, was best for me.
In ejecting her from my field I had exercised my right to be selective over the
good manners I had, good manners which were causing me to believe that I should stick around while she was being awful. These were simply my programming and beliefs disempowering me.
Once I stood up and internally said “Hey Honey – that’s not my stuff” I discovered my
internal compass worked better. Another gift. The unpleasantness ceased to flow over me. See how this works?
And now, I can say thank you for her gift. It helped me discover a stronger part of me.
Are you doing your ‘duty’ sticking around with a consistently negative person, and blaming yourself, when you could just let them own it, deal with it – (or not) and be free to be yourself?
Or are you raining on someone else’s parade because of your own pain? Can you stop and investigate what your real issue is? There might be a good opportunity for growth in it.
Are you no longer a match for the friends around you?
People do leave your life. Sometimes letting go or stepping back necessary, but painful, - it doesn’t mean you don’t love them, it just means it’s time for you to broaden horizons and have different experiences.
Don’t cling, there is always a gift in letting go - it opens your arms to receive more.
And as you know when one door closes another door opens and it's true what they say "what other people think of me is none of my business."
If you are having trouble letting go or wanting to grow stronger boundaries in a painful space - I work with that. Email me for more info via the button below.
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach