Ranty Pants Series: Tending your own flowers.
It can be very discouraging to look over the fence and see what the 'other' person is doing. Things can get a bit pear shaped if your nose gets out of joint because they appear to be:
a. growing bigger flowers
b. having more fun than you
c. further along or 'doing better' than you
d. you feel you are superior and they are 'doing it wrong'
What is happening to your garden while you are straining your neck over the wall?
Your energy is being diluted. Your mission is being ignored. Your flowers are wilting. In some circumstances, the wind can go out of your sails while you go into resentful mode.
Now of course, you have something to learn from resentment, and I always find getting that lesson sorted fast is really, really good.
Because you are devaluing your own goods, gifts and opportunities while the other garden is being paid attention to. And you DO have amazing gifts.
If you can examine that resentment and realise that it is your teacher, you will discover the person who looks more successful, may be calm on the surface and is paddling like hell under the water.
They ARE earning their rewards, and people sometimes work very hard to make things look effortless for a while before they break though and start flourishing . Perhaps you could approach them in a loving way and ask them how they do it.
The thing to consider is this - their business is not your business, unless you are honouring it and showing it grace. You don't get points by putting it down, and your message can become a bit garbled - and you can lose your best focus, love energy - while you hold resentment.
Get back into grace and then grace is all around you.
Weed your garden, chuck out the resentful thoughts, and then water, give love and your own flowers WILL grow.
And sooner, rather than later, you will have more seeds to sprinkle.
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach