Hiya, I'm Deb.
You've probably landed here because of some of my writing in social media.  
I want this page to be:
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- A clearing tool that helps you move some fog and regain some mental bandwidth. 
- A place that celebrates your differently wired amazingness.
- A little oasis for you in the middle of a time that might feel challenging.
- A place where you can find the voice you need to share what you're going through. 

It's for you to learn more about yourself, feel seen, acknowledge the special things about yourself, try some of the tools if you want to. 

Take it in bite sized pieces. Come back as often as you like. x

I write A LOT, and if you have any feedback or want to share, you're welcome to email me. 

Email Deb

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People with ADHD often have these traits. How many resonate with you? 
- Being creative
- Problem-solving skills
- Ability to experience a childlike joy
- Knowing people need space
- More compassion less judgement about others capabilities
- Seeing the beauty in art music as a wholly immersive experience
- Hyperfocus makes you learn more about a subject
- Sense of humour
- Strong survival mode or ability to panic manage when others need help.
- Ideas mode is sometimes on high beam
- Good out of the box thinking and problem solving
- Not following rules sometimes leads to breakthroughs.

TOOL - The Red Carpet Process 

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Great storytelling often comes from the desire to explore all the details of a situation. People with neurodiverse brains can be accused of dawdling or getting caught up with trivia, but they're often assimilating a great treasure trove of information around a subject.
​British comedian Billy Connolly is a storyteller with ADD​, who struggled at school, believed he was stupid, yet demonstrates obvious genius in leading others through a narrative. 

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​TOOL - BRINGING FOCUS HOME:
​Our energy responds to our thoughts. 
Sometimes our energy is out wide like a pancake. 
It can feel like everyone rides over it and flattens it out and we have no energy left to do anything.

Gently ask: 

'Where am I?'
'When am I?' 

Take a breath and feel your hand, your chest, and the ground you're standing on, or the bed or chair you're in. 

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CALMING IN THE BODY: 
What I've discovered in my work is, we almost always have a lingering 'shock' energy sitting in our energy fields from some time in the past. This shock energy can be close in to us, or a bit further out, but it's cycling around triggering an undercurrent of fear. So we may be distanced from that shock, by time or space, but that shock has still got a bit of our energy 'real estate' and our hyper vigilance energy is pacing back and forth in it, almost like a sonar, scanning for alerts.
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Sometimes we can get it to settle by doing this:
Sit still and observe it. 
Sending yourself love (you could put your hand on your heart).  
Have a glass of water if you notice you feel a bit dehydrated.
Sometimes it's important to tell ourselves it's safe to be 'in' our bodies.

You can breathe a cycle breath of slow energy in and out and use 'I am safe, right here, right now' as a mantra. 

This is a tool I call a 'bridge' practice. Each time you use it, the bridge becomes stronger, and when you are practiced, and you want to bring more calm in, you'll probably find you can just think 'calm' or 'safe' into your body and it will settle a bit (or a lot). 

SIMONE BILES, ADHD, AND THE ENERGETIC GENIUS OF DIFFERENT THINKERS:

SIMONE BILES, ADHD, AND THE ENERGETIC GENIUS OF DIFFERENT THINKERS:
It’s time for us to choose wellness over EVERYTHING else. Oh yes, even the Olympics. Let’s talk about Simone Biles for a second before we get on to my next project. Simone Biles has been trolled before and of course, it’s started again right now.
Choosing to stop when the weight of the world is on you, is an epic stroke of brilliance for wellbeing. Gymnasts can actually die from their injuries and a woman who pulls that much power and torque through her body is asking it to act like a whiplash.

Simone talked about having ADHD a few years ago after Russian Hackers leaked anti-doping information and told the world she tested positive for Ritalin. I sincerely hope she stays away from social media trolls because in the world of gymnastics especially, and the horrendous pressure and abuse they’ve been under in recent years, there is an extreme need to shut up and listen when people ask for help.
When people choose themselves instead of being a tool for the ego of others, they need support and a plethora of kudos. Powerhouse swimmer and winner of 22 Olympic medals, Michael Phelps, has ADHD. It can provide the hyperfocus needed to be an extreme athlete or achiever.
For some people, to live with ADHD is like going to the Olympics EVERY SINGLE DAY.
ADHD people are trying to process an enormous amount of energy through the human body.
Straight-line thinking people are processing a manageable amount of energy through the human body.

 Straight line thinkers trying to help ADHD people can get very frustrated thinking ADHD people don’t want to be helped, because they don’t seem to take it on.  And the truth is, their SLT process doesn’t work because of the difference of volume and capacity an ADHD person is working with in their own heads.

In my work, through the years, I have worked with many people who have ADHD, and more recently I’ve realised I have markers for it too. This helps me understand how I understand them so well, AND why self employment in a field where I often switch tasks is perfect for me.
I’ve been told to niche myself and concentrate on one thing and now I know why the thought of doing that makes me think it would kill me from boredom. It’s a straight line thinkers way of ‘doing it right’. Give me variety or I’ll explode.

If you think you might have ADHD, chances are you speak quickly, make lightning fast moves from one topic to the next, and seem to live life louder or with LOTS of content.
You have a super fast computer. Sometimes too fast for the human body which can easily create an overload. At times you may feel like your brain fires at light speed and at other times you may feel you have to push it by hand through a selection of cognitive cul de sacs, getting nowhere at all.
On some topics, you’ll have a near photographic memory, and on others, perhaps you’ll struggle to remember where you put something two moments ago.
It’s a strange ride.

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​I wish people could understand these things:

1. All humans are energetic creatures and some of us, extremely sensitive. We respond to energy, whether we are straight line thinkers, or big energy people.
2. Energy work can help people with ALL SORTS of issues, ADHD and thinking included. This includes people with brain trauma, concussion etc. Thinking straight doesn’t always come easily, even to people who mostly do think straight, we can all have foggier days.
3. Energy works clears fog. Lots of energy work clears lots of fog, past trauma which may take up brain space, and helps with mental support and emotional energy. 
4. Emotional trauma creates mental weight. Energy work provides a forum for the person to be heard, lightened and in many cases can give them back the feeling they are piloting their own space, rather than than being the unwilling passenger on a wild ride.

The thing is, ADHD is all about multiple streams of consciousness, or thought, coming all at once. You’ve got to choose which one you listen to, and some are pushy. This means you can look like you are present, and you’re away in another thought stream (and therefore reality) all together. On returning to the present time and moment and task, whatever went on a minute ago is not something you connected with. Straight line thinkers are more present and have more access to focus as they are literally receiving one thought stream. This is great for them, because we need them to build structures and strategies and get work done. In ADHD energy, the multiple thought streams can be debilitating at times, but can also help immensely with layers of life, and dreaming/perceiving/knowing.

There was a boy in my school called Stephen. Stephen had too much energy in class and unfortunately that looked like bad behaviour. These days, it would be great if we’d just had a stationary/spin bike there and Stephen could have pedalled enough energy to run the school while his mind had the peace to concentrate on lessons. What happened to Stephen? Because of the extra energy in his brain making him busy, tapping, knocking to get it out, he got the strap, daily. I don’t know where Stephen is now, but his big energy brain at the wrong time in history ensured that his self esteem was probably pretty whacked around too. I’m pretty sure if you are in your late 40’s and look back at school at the kids who were like a bee in a bottle, they’re the ones who had to get out of school early. Where did they go? Well, most of the ones at high school, went off and worked as tradesmen and got apprenticeships while they were still in their teens. I noticed them, being paid to learn in a job they had a natural aptitude for. A lot of them bought homes when they were young, while other straight line thinker good kids who went off to university paid back their loans and worked a couple of extra jobs. We need both types of people, they innovate in different ways and make the world wonderful.

I was recently looking at the storytelling capabilities of people with ADHD, start a chat, drop into a story, go from that story to another and meander back to the original point of the chat and I had a realisation - BILLY CONNOLLY DOES THAT, and it’s what I loved about him the most in my younger years. One of the reasons why I loved his shows so much was this - he told stories like embroidery, and that’s actually how I do.

ADHD people often overshare, delivering SO MUCH CONTENT that others would cut through and give bullet points on, and it’s because they are energy rich. They are feeling and seeing every detail on the way to the conclusion and they want you to have the whole energy experience so you know as much as they do. They sometimes retell the story in almost the exact same words and detail over and over again.

ADHD has been held in the general consciousness as a boys issue. Bad behaviour, kicking things, shouting, getting sidetracked, not listening, forgetfulness that looks like not caring. A ‘troubled’ child came to my sons school from another one, and had a hard time assimilating. One of his energy struggles came out as a bit of writing on a wall in a classroom. My sons school was a place where no child had ever done that. Pretty soon EVERY child knew THAT child was a ‘bad kid’.
I went to a friends house one day and he was there, standing by the TV, utterly transfixed by an underwater documentary. I looked at him and asked how he was and he turned to me and said ‘Do you know, one day we’ll make power from the underwater volcanic vents in the sea?’ And that was not what the doco was about - it was basically a FISH show.

I looked at him and recognised something. When I was young, I had told people we would definitely speak to each other through TV screens like George Jetson did with his boss, and that we’d have remote controls for TV’s too. Not with wires, which came a couple of years later - but cordless remotes. I was scoffed at multiple times for this. I don't know where that boy is now, but I sincerely hope his genius broke through and he got to be a scientist, or an engineer, because that's what he could/we could all benefit from him being. 
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Someone has to dream inventions for them to be possible and they are often the result of a big energy thinker, dreaming into seeming impossibility, helped by straight line thinkers who can bring things to fruition.

Girls with ADHD, do their level best to fit in, in a world that doesn’t make room. They can suffer EXTREME anxiety, while trying to hide the broken brain feeling and silently punishing themselves for being different. Because they don’t necessarily flail their arms around and punch a hole in the wall, you can’t see it.

Straight line thinking kids can sometimes be like homing pigeons on a neuro-diverse child, zeroing in on them because they are somehow different. That can be where bullying comes from. Neuro-diverse kids are working with so much biofeedback, they feel open and vulnerable. Their energy fields have less natural blocks in them, like an egg that has a softer shell. The energy of taking power, socks it to the gut of a gentle person, and that’s where they lose theirs around a bully. Yes, it does create a sore stomach, they’re real. Hyper vigilance of trying to keep yourself safe in a place that feels a bit foreign uses up a lot of mental bandwidth.

ADHD markers look like bad behaviour, fidgeting, not listening, forgetting, can’t follow directions, seem to have trouble with simple tasks. Procrastinator, dawdler. Executive function is tricky, but sometimes not tricky enough to look like it needs professional help.
In boys, it can mean a bit of lashing out and that’s sometimes what helps it get to a next level and to some help. Girls can cruise under the radar.

In my energetic world, I see there is a massive call for the clearing to help with the overwhelm, and the understanding to help families to not feel completely unsupported and out of their depth. If a family understands this is big energy trying to find it’s way through a human being and HOW HARD THAT MUST BE to navigate, they’re not going to scream at a child and tell them they are bad, they’re going to do what they can to help that energy load be lighter. And that’s what the children need. More than anything.

They need you to ask gently, ‘How does this feel for you?’ They need you to use intentional listening. Not ‘DO THIS, IT’S EASY’ and ‘WHY ARE YOU NOT LISTENING?’ It’s not about straight line thinking, it’s about a child with a hundred bees buzzing in their head while you give them directions.
They need their energy to come back to the home port of their bodies from the myriad of places it currently is.

‘My brain feels broken.’ ‘I can’t think straight.’ Silence. ‘I don’t know.’ ‘I don’t have an answer for this.’

That’s what you’ll hear. And you’ll hear ‘I have a sore stomach.’ ‘I don’t want to go to school.’
You might get silence when you think they should speak, engage and answer someone; and you may have already formed the habit of answering for them without realising it. If you’re a straight line thinker you probably want them to be like you and you may feel like you’ve failed somehow.

Heck, you may be like this too, and recognising yourself in what I’ve written.
However, if you feel like this is all a sad story, it’s not. This is all about helping you see what’s happening AND providing tools for help, and clearing for support.
Nothing is more true than this: If we know how to handle the energy, we can make magic happen. Once some of the challenges are taken care of, or eased, there is creative genius available and a clearer space for it to come to fruition. We don't all have to be out there in the workspace, but breathing life into the ability can do wonderful creative things, just ask Justin Timberlake and Will.I.Am. 

So here I am. I work on/for children and adults who ‘can’t think straight’. People who have a brain freeze when they sit exams.
We don’t heal away ADHD, it’s got some wonderful magic in it. You might not be neurotypical, but as I see it, you're neuromagical. 
​We move the overwhelm and fog to help the diverse brain do good things and help the body to feel like it’s a much easier place to inhabit.

In the coming days, I’ll be adding a number of helpful things to this page. There will be a one minute process for you to do to quiet your mind. Anyone can use it, but if you have a mind that works like a train station, I hope you find it calming.

There are a number of things I recommend for people with big energy. And I’ll be listing them here too.

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Interesting links: 
Great perspective on sport and how to live well - https://www.additudemag.com/famous-athletes-with-adhd/
Billy Connolly - http://www.adders.org.uk/news53.htm
What is ADHD? - ​https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15253-attention-deficit-disorder-without-hyperactivity-add-in-adults

Self-care options for helping to live life with more ease:
1. Meditations are essential.
2. Connecting with the earth. Walks, running, biking, kayaking.
3. Downloading thoughts through drawing or journalling, or just writing down and throwing away or burning it.
4. Crystals to help are:
Fluorite for helping the flow be right between heart and mind.
Charoite and Lepidolite for helping brain function and stopping fears from triggering default/symptom behaviours.
Rose Quartz and Rhodonite for helping to heal the heart and also heal old dispues and aid relationships.
Chrysoprase for restoring the inner song.
Sunstone for healing the inner child.
Black Tourmaline to help block other people's dense energies.
5. Using kind words to self soothe and repair old pain.
6. Practicing returning to peace from turmoil. Asking 'What does my body want now to bring me closer to peace?'
7. Less unprocessed food, lots of greens and coloured fruit and veg.
8. Forgiveness work. Not necessarily saying 'I forgive' but at least saying 'I no longer want to hold UN-forgiveness in my body.' That makes it a non-personal way to just clean up the aura.
9. Daily practice of yoga, Tai Chi or some even basic body movement, roll around on the floor, roll neck and move from side to side, flex and stretch back, arms and legs.
10. Practice or develop radical self love and self awareness. 'What am I doing to myself in this moment?'
11. KNOW other people have this, you're not the only one.
12. Breath work. A bit of time each day sitting and bringing in long, slow breath, holding gently, letting it out slowly.
13. Use lists for everything that gets easily forgotten.
14. Use phone timer reminders.

15. Giving yourself permission to be creative. Take a creative class to use up energy.
16. Therapy, CBT, Energy healing, Neuralink, Cranial Sacral work, back adjustments etc. And of course medication too if it's needed.
17. Making sure you take care of posture as much as possible.
18. Paying someone to house clean if it's not your forte.
19. Practicing work/ease rituals each day to give a little structure (helps to write a reminder down and put it somewhere you can see it, then, make a phone alarm reminder to go there).
20. Practice doing some kind of puzzle, meditative, crosswords, word puzzles or pictures - jigsaws. A committed bit of time working on something is good.
21. Remember some days it will be easier to choose something from the list and other days it will be harder and that not doing it is ok too.
​22. Praise yourself for the mini achievements and maybe write them down when you remember and pop them in a jar, so on the days when you feel like doing nothing, you can see you are an achiever too.

If you want to try an ADHD test, this one is good as it give you the option to answer in increments.