Hiya, I'm Deb.
You've probably landed here because of some of my writing in social media.
I want this page to be:
- A clearing tool that helps you move some fog and regain some mental bandwidth.
- A place that celebrates your differently wired amazingness.
- A little oasis for you in the middle of a time that might feel challenging.
- A place where you can find the voice you need to share what you're going through.
It's for you to learn more about yourself, feel seen, acknowledge the special things about yourself, try some of the tools if you want to.
Take it in bite sized pieces. Come back as often as you like. x
You've probably landed here because of some of my writing in social media.
I want this page to be:
- A clearing tool that helps you move some fog and regain some mental bandwidth.
- A place that celebrates your differently wired amazingness.
- A little oasis for you in the middle of a time that might feel challenging.
- A place where you can find the voice you need to share what you're going through.
It's for you to learn more about yourself, feel seen, acknowledge the special things about yourself, try some of the tools if you want to.
Take it in bite sized pieces. Come back as often as you like. x
People with ADHD often have these traits. How many resonate with you?
- Being creative - Problem-solving skills - Ability to experience a childlike joy - Knowing people need space - More compassion less judgement about others capabilities - Seeing the beauty in art music as a wholly immersive experience - Hyperfocus makes you learn more about a subject - Sense of humour - Strong survival mode or ability to panic manage when others need help. - Ideas mode is sometimes on high beam - Good out of the box thinking and problem solving - Not following rules sometimes leads to breakthroughs. |
TOOL - The Red Carpet Process
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Great storytelling often comes from the desire to explore all the details of a situation. People with neurodiverse brains can be accused of dawdling or getting caught up with trivia, but they're often assimilating a great treasure trove of information around a subject.
British comedian Billy Connolly is a storyteller with ADD, who struggled at school, believed he was stupid, yet demonstrates obvious genius in leading others through a narrative.
British comedian Billy Connolly is a storyteller with ADD, who struggled at school, believed he was stupid, yet demonstrates obvious genius in leading others through a narrative.
TOOL - BRINGING FOCUS HOME: Our energy responds to our thoughts. Sometimes our energy is out wide like a pancake. It can feel like everyone rides over it and flattens it out and we have no energy left to do anything. Gently ask: 'Where am I?' 'When am I?' Take a breath and feel your hand, your chest, and the ground you're standing on, or the bed or chair you're in. |
CALMING IN THE BODY:
What I've discovered in my work is, we almost always have a lingering 'shock' energy sitting in our energy fields from some time in the past. This shock energy can be close in to us, or a bit further out, but it's cycling around triggering an undercurrent of fear. So we may be distanced from that shock, by time or space, but that shock has still got a bit of our energy 'real estate' and our hyper vigilance energy is pacing back and forth in it, almost like a sonar, scanning for alerts.
Sometimes we can get it to settle by doing this:
Sit still and observe it.
Sending yourself love (you could put your hand on your heart).
Have a glass of water if you notice you feel a bit dehydrated.
Sometimes it's important to tell ourselves it's safe to be 'in' our bodies.
You can breathe a cycle breath of slow energy in and out and use 'I am safe, right here, right now' as a mantra.
This is a tool I call a 'bridge' practice. Each time you use it, the bridge becomes stronger, and when you are practiced, and you want to bring more calm in, you'll probably find you can just think 'calm' or 'safe' into your body and it will settle a bit (or a lot).
What I've discovered in my work is, we almost always have a lingering 'shock' energy sitting in our energy fields from some time in the past. This shock energy can be close in to us, or a bit further out, but it's cycling around triggering an undercurrent of fear. So we may be distanced from that shock, by time or space, but that shock has still got a bit of our energy 'real estate' and our hyper vigilance energy is pacing back and forth in it, almost like a sonar, scanning for alerts.
Sometimes we can get it to settle by doing this:
Sit still and observe it.
Sending yourself love (you could put your hand on your heart).
Have a glass of water if you notice you feel a bit dehydrated.
Sometimes it's important to tell ourselves it's safe to be 'in' our bodies.
You can breathe a cycle breath of slow energy in and out and use 'I am safe, right here, right now' as a mantra.
This is a tool I call a 'bridge' practice. Each time you use it, the bridge becomes stronger, and when you are practiced, and you want to bring more calm in, you'll probably find you can just think 'calm' or 'safe' into your body and it will settle a bit (or a lot).