The Lighthouse.
All her life she had been hiding inside herself and nobody knew. All her life she had wondered why the people around her that said they were her family, seemed foreign to her sometimes. People who were meant to be her teachers didn't understand her. She felt fear and lack most of the time, unless she escaped. She escaped best to the grass and the clouds and the trees and the sky. She escaped to the whisper, the silence, the roar, the bounty and the inexorability of nature. Nature knew her best. Nature was her home. In nature, she wished for her wings to grow back and to lift her away from this place. Sometimes she even wished for someone to steal her. Then she grew up. She discovered that people had been stealing her all her life, and she had been letting them. She had no boundaries, and gave herself away, trying to please people and make the pain stop. It didn't stop. In her confusion she had thrown away good things and kept others that hurt. She tried to make amends. She did things for people, she gave away things, she gave away money. She waited and waited for a friend, or for a partner to see that she was real and worthy. It didn't happen. People she loved left her, and took things. And took her for granted. Her story was awful. Until the day she started to say No. No built a small boundary inside her first. No protected her from further pleasing of the others. No helped her to please herself. All this time she thought life was about giving and she realised she had starved herself by giving in the wrong order. She said No again and again and took her time doing things for herself. The others were angry. They accused her of being selfish. And she was. She withdrew the energy streams she had been sending out everywhere and she sent them into her heart where they belonged. The others raged. She had pulled out their power lines, their plugs and hooks. It hurt and almost drained her of courage. She wavered a little, feeling bad for them, but listened to her heart and realised if she did not serve herself, they were going to suck her dry of all her goodness and she needed to survive. She no longer felt responsible for their happiness. Her shoulders grew lighter. Her heart grew full. She was self-ish. There was no one left. But she was free. It was incredibly liberating. And then the flow started. At first it was a trickle, little by little the people came, seeing she valued her Self, they acknowledged and responded to her value. She invested in herself by blessing the ones who were present before and who taught her to value herself, and the ones who understood came back. She kept moving forward into an ever increasing stream of new people, new adventures and wonder. The flow of people coming to her became a deluge and she realised she was not only worthy - she had a purpose and the purpose was to free the others. She discovered that all the self doubting in the world was in fact, real selfishness because it caused light to be dim, and only held others back from their healing and growth. She finally understood, she was birthed in love. No matter where she sprang from, how life shaped her, she chose to be here. She was not what had been 'done to her', she was an immaculate idea, divine in her inception, and so she shed the tight constraining bonds of the chrysalis that was her story, grew her wings and claimed the parts of herself that frightened others. She was creative, resourceful, wild, magical and amazing, no longer held back by thoughts of not-good-enough. She had come to the planet to be a guide, a way shower, finally she knew she was a lighthouse for others, to alert them, help them to safety and to hold a space for them to grow and blossom through their storms. She accepted her mission and opening her arms as widely as they could go, she laughed and embraced it with all her heart, exultant in the recognition that her souls greatest journey was also her homecoming. It wasn't meant to be a walk in the park. Lighthouses are made of strong stuff. She stepped up. And stood. Claimed her ground as solid rock and shone. And guide she did.
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Place your feet flat on the floor and breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth to connect. Close your eyes for a moment and feel that connection. Keep cycling your breath allowing yourself to float and drift into the lightness that envelops you. In your open hand I place a golden cloth. It pulses gently with golden light and has an energy that soothes your heart. As you unwrap it you find you are holding a handful of Pure Faith, humming its song of trust and unconditional love. Put it where you feel you need it most - in yourself or someone else. Breathe it in through your nose and out through your mouth and let the magical energy of the faith caress your soul and nurture you. EnJOY. In love and miracles, Deb X On Lorde: My son walked into the kitchen one day when I was singing away to a new song (with something about bees in it) on the radio, and just casually said "Oh that's a girl called Ella from my school. I said "no way Jack - she has to be an international artist - listen to the song." He said "I'm serious Mum, and the guys in her video are her friends and people from around school too." He showed me on youtube and I was amazed to find he was right. She had several thousand 'thumbs ups' on her song and it was Kiwis saying wow. Didn't that all change?!! I don't need to tell you she is an international artist, but todays news is really exciting - four Grammy nominations!! Wow! While her team has created something so amazing and they so deserve the credit, it's weird to think of her transplanted in such a short space of time from Takapuna Grammar to the world. And I'm sure I'm not the only local (or kiwi for that matter) who is still a bit stunned by it. I watched an interview with teenagers discussing Royals and one said 'if more music was like this, I think our youth would have a different perception of what they want to be when they are older.' Amen to that. I love how real she is, certainly not a Mary Poppins, she says what she thinks, sometimes she rubs people up the wrong way - her opinions are her opinions and she is obviously a bit bemused by some of this. 'Royals' feels like a subtle culture protest song - bringing teen life back to something a bit more real (and perhaps digestible) than plastic underwear - and just in the nick of time. Go get your Grammy's Lorde. The world needs a Pure Heroine. Awesome. Deb X After my last show at The Dolphin Theatre... Elsie: Deb I have to tell you… You are responsible for the relationship I am in. It's all your fault!! Me: ?? I am!!?? Ooh this sounds serious - something happened in your love life? Elsie: YES! And I'm over the moon!! Me: Yay!! I am so pleased to hear it! Elsie: Yes!! I am TOTALLY in love. Me: With…? Elsie: My BED!!! Since I came to your last show I have been telling my bed that I love it. And saying things like 'Hellooooo you gorgeous bed, just hold on a bit longer... I will be with you in a minute.' Me: Chuckling. Elsie: And you know what has happened? It's amazing!! My bed feels like it is snuggling me back! I have had dark circles under my eyes for YEARS and they are now gone! I am sleeping so well, I can't believe it. And it's all your fault!! Thank you so much. Me: Hooray!! Elsie you absolutely ROCK!! Go to the top of the class!!! The first time I met Elsie was at a Dolphin Show. I hugged her, and she later told me that a pain she had in her right lung had disappeared completely during the hug. (It never came back) She had smoke inhalation and then pneumonia, and several weeks of unwellness, but the pain had not shifted till that moment. This is why she listens intently and practices my teaching. People listen, learn and go home and change their own lives. It's so easy - it's just AMAZING. Before she changed the energy and her relationship with her bed, Elsie was an unsettled sleeper, and her mind would jump around from one topic to another. Now she is absolutely beaming, feeling wonderful, looking amazing, and I am rapt. My next Shows: December 6th in Mairangi Bay tickets here & December 13th at Dolphin Theatre tickets here
You know when you just haven't got over something and people say 'get over it' as if you are a bit crazy, a bit of a drama queen or just a pain in the butt? And when you just feel like things are getting 'on top of you' - there is nothing there - but you feel weighed down and struggle to get anything done because it just feels too hard? Well sometimes the reason why you can't 'get over' something is because it's all over you. Actually - even though you can't see it - you are carrying it. Life sticks to us. Picture a field of long, long grass. Waving in the breeze, seed heads, dandelions, burrs, thistles and all sorts. That's life. We have beauty, we have thistles, it's just how life is. Now imagine you have a full length, fuzzy onesie on, a pair of velcro dungarees or woollen overalls. Now get a visual idea of what that fuzzy pair of overalls would look once you have walked all the way to the other side of the field. Covered in stuff isn't it? Can you resonate with this? The human energy field can be just like this. Collecting the burrs, the seeds, the pollen and the other little sticky bits, getting loaded up with life. Some people are self clearing, often we can 'brush things off' really easily, but if we are tired, overworked, burdened and not addressing our own needs, we can feel really awful. Most people have burrs and fluff stuck to them without realising it. Being aware of this helps you in many ways. Sometimes, in order to cope, we seek medication that we may not need, sometimes the stress builds up and up and relationships are damaged. Keeping an eye on stress levels, running a little 'where am I at?' body check and clearing your own energy everyday helps life and You, to become unstuck. You can do simple things like consciously breathing, running, walking, spending lots of time in fresh air, swimming, drinking lots of water, meditating, relaxing, and practicing affirmations - take extra special care with the words (and thoughts) you use every day. Sometimes when things are really stuck, a session is needed. In my work I often see people who have been 'carrying' something for so long it is almost embedded in them. They need help to get it out. Sometimes they are ready and sometimes not so ready, perhaps they are convinced, by guilt, that they should carry it, punish themselves and have a terrible life because of something they have done. Heaviness can be caused by blame, shame, a perceived 'wrong choice' or by hurt they have caused someone else, a broken heart when someone left, and words left unspoken when someone passed away. Heaviness, without a doubt, blocks your enjoyment of life. The readiness can be worked on and these things can all be released, - even the feelings of guilt can be washed away too. Innocence is always within you, even when you've been through the worst experiences and reclaiming yourself, stepping into your personal power is an awesome thing to do. It's time for all of us to say yes to freedom, and releasing yourself is a step towards making your life, and your world more of a garden - a better, more peaceful place to be. (If you want more info about how I can help you plant the seeds, and pull out the weeds - click the link below.)
There were bullies in the heart of my childhood. And all of my childhood I struggled to make friends. I read well from a very early age, and life inside my books was rich, wild, wonderful and adventurous. Life outside my books was painful. I didn't fit in. I felt unwanted, I was sensitive to many things I didn't understand, life was not very settled, I felt very awkward around people and I was a target for bullies. Why? Something was different about me. It that was just enough to get me into trouble. Secret #1 Bullies love sameness. Bullies love everyone to be the same, because when everyone is the same, then they all act the same and that makes bullies comfortable. They search out difference and poke fun at it because they feel threatened by it. Secret #2 Bullies are not happy. The thing inside a bully that makes a bully pick on someone else, feels so disgusting to carry around, that they are trying to put it down somewhere. They want you to 'take' it from them. It's a feeling, like a rottenness - not a physical object. It is temporarily fed when they make other people feel as bad as they do, but it's nearly always hungry. Secret #3 Bullies are ugly. Oh, they can sometimes look pretty on the outside, for sure. But take a close look, that prettiness doesn't run too deep, and the good news is this - if a bully keeps pulling THAT face when they look at people and treat people badly - that face just might be the (wrinkle) face that they will end up wearing when they are old. The ugliness, badness or wrongness inside you that they 'seem' to be pointing out to you - IS THEIRS - it's ALL theirs. THEY are the ones who have to fix something, not YOU. They are sometimes masquerading as clever, but being a bully is not clever. It's a waste of character. Secret #4 Bullies actually feel somehow disconnected. They try to reconnect by stealing energy from people who are connected. People who are connected are often connected to love, to nature, to kindness, sometimes they are connected to red hair, (red hair is very magical) and they can even be connected to freckles. Secret #5 Bullies can't handle it when you know the truth about them, so you have to be a bit gentle with them, even though they are bullies. You can't tell them that you know they have these secrets. You just have to remember how awful they feel and remember they are trying to eat your 'good' feeling. (If they felt good, they wouldn't do it would they?) Keep your good feeling with you and treasure it. Not everyone can deal with your goodness, kindness or indeed, if you have it, your red hair. That's their problem, not yours, your individuality is what makes the world go round - it's your own personal torch, that helps you light your path. Secret #6 Later on, some bullies are really sorry because they realise how awful they were and they were actually being bullied themselves. And sometimes they even apologise. Sometimes bullies just need kindness and someone to care about them, they can heal and so can you. You don't need to fix them though, and this is important to know. If you are consistently being bullied, get help. The bullies that were mean to me, hung around in a big group and took turns saying super mean things one at a time. It made them feel better. And it made me feel really awful, really awful, isolated and scared, but at the same time I knew something about them. I knew that the one who was meanest - also frightened the other bullies, and some of them joined her because of their fear of going against the crowd. What if she picked on them? They would have H A T E D it. And that small knowing helped me. A whole group of people who need to pick on one person are sick. Don't be a part of it. The world only progresses when someone is brave enough to put their hand up and share their different idea. Our planet won't survive if we are all the same. Our planet won't survive if we all pick on each other. If you pick on someone, they might not survive. (Ask yourself why you need to and heal that) Because whether it's school, or the workforce, in home, or out in public somewhere - you don't know what that other person is going through - and one day - they might even save your life. Your Challenge: Today think of all the ways that someone who dared to be different changed the world you live in. Think of explorers, inventors, innovators and scientists. See if you can name ten. And then go out and celebrate your difference, because you never know what you could do that will change someones world. If you know a friend who could benefit from these secrets please pass them on. The terrible things that happened to me in my life, which made me feel isolated and scared, also increased my sensitivity to people - now it has also helped me to save other people that have felt really bad. So what someone poked fun at me for, is my greatest gift. So I really mean it - celebrate your difference, because one day you will realise it's your greatest gift too. Here is a (4 minute) video about how doing something that seems small can make a BIG difference to someone else. I hope you really enjoy it. And keep this in mind: What other people think of you is none of your business - it's what you think of you, and what you do that counts the most. Let kindness be your guide. Have a WONDERFUL day. Deb X 021 726 276
NOT SO SILLY PUTTY: I was considering hearing (and partial deafness) through the week and got the distinct impression that a man was saying 'I don't want to hear that!' to his nagging wife. It happened a few times and then I saw him, he was older, cupping his ear and saying "what did you say?" to someone.
It registered. I saw the layers he had put down over his own ears. And I know there have been times when I have zoned people out in order to concentrate on something else - and I've been able to do it. In my experience, hearing is directional and also optional. And we all know we can 'switch off' right? The ability of our brains to rewire themselves according to experience is called neuroplasticity. There is scientific evidence to suggest that neuralplastic ability is different in different people. Your neural 'plasticine' is obviously pretty amazing when you are a small child - and at stages in your life you may mold yourself to take on new abilities. If one sense - say for example your vision was impaired, your sense of hearing may be enhanced (it often is) by your heightened requirement to perceive differently in order to survive. So what if you didn't want to see? Or you didn't want to hear? How would you be using your neural 'plasticine' then? Would you be inadvertently freezing or hardening it? Hmmm. So what if the 'not wanting to' was healed? What would happen if it was suddenly safe? I have worked on a woman who was told she had Macular Degeneration. She had accepted she was 'going blind' because this was a considered medical opinion based on observation, experience and proven medical probability. I told her I believed she didn't have to go blind just because somebody expected it, and asked her if she wanted that outcome. She hadn't even considered that she might have an option (it's not something that people generally realise). Of course she said no. I worked on her, just a couple of sessions, and made her a Macular Regeneration Spray to support her healing. Her condition stabilised. She is not blind and when she sees me in the supermarket (from a fair distance away) she calls me her 'miracle lady'. Did my healing rewire her vision or did I reframe her neural plasticity? Does it matter? In this instance - not listening created a miracle. My friend Mary damaged her eye just on Christmas 2011 and to this day she has a 6mm scar, hazing and a pitted cornea. I worked with her after the damage was done and she can see very well through that eye, although according to the current understanding of how the eye 'works' - she should not be able to. Her eye specialist tests her eyes for free because he can't quite work out how it's possible. (She has not told him that I worked on her.) Does she have amazing neural plasticity? There is more to life than we can possibly imagine. And what I see is that we need to be F L E X I B L E. How is your neural plasticity? And what have you been told about what you've 'got'? I may not believe it. And it just may be in your best interests that I don't. There are miracles we can't even imagine, just waiting to be served up. I say YES to them. What else is possible?
Jennifer Anniston once joked that her life was spookily like her movie roles,
and instead of playing dysfunctional women who constantly get left by men, she would like to have played a few happily married women with two children and a dog. I can see her point. We are what we concentrate on, and it looks like she pours herself into her movies. But which came first? The chicken or the egg? It's a cycle isn't it? In order for things to change - somewhere, someone has to break the cycle. We are aligned with what's around us. All the more so if we really throw ourselves heart and soul into it, because it sits around in our auric field and flows in and out, a little like high and low tide. We are electrical, magnetic creatures. If we are drawn to drama, it is around us. Perhaps we are watching it, reading it, living it. If we enjoy drama and don't mind it in our lives, that is great. It's when the drama gets to be a bit too much and makes life difficult, that we might need to choose. The body certainly operates well without it. A few years ago (when my life was filled with drama) I stopped complaining about having no spare time and instead switched off my television. It was my first step to self discovery. Although I had read lots of women's magazines in my youth, I had grown very weary of the sensationalism, stereotypes, pressure, advertising, and the misleading headlines that many were full of. My second step, was to stop buying those magazines. Gradually I stopped wishing I had legs like Elle MacPherson and started enjoying the legs I had. With my own perfectly good legs - the third step I took, was to figure out what brought me joy. I discovered joy, bliss, energy and more and it was in the real connections that I made with people, being engaged with life and with nature that I found my true calling. Walking people through heartache, hardship, pain and loss - and out the other side into the sunshine. Bringing people who believe life just has to be ordinary, that they are all on the treadmill to a life filled with miraculous possibility and awakening people to their brilliance - that's my calling. I don't have to go hiking to see the beauty of nature. It's around me, it's right on the end of my nose. It's in you. I changed my life from a journey of pain, to a journey with brilliance, and you can too. The greatest part about it is - you don't have to take as long as I did, because I can teach you what I learned. I didn't have a Deb to help me walk free sooner - but you do. We can do it together - one small step at a time. ReStart is a program of three sessions, including a life overhaul - clearing for mind, body and spirit, home clearing plus mentoring. Clearing the old, getting strong in your self now, getting strong in your environment(s) and creating your own amazing life. Deb X Hey you. Yes YOU. No don't look behind you.
And don't ask yourSelf who I am writing to. It's actually you. I wanted to say thanks. Thanks for all the wonderful things you have done. For the times when you put your hand up, when you went the extra mile, for the times when you took someone's hand when they needed you. For the times when you pushed yourSelf harder, when you gave a little more, when you would rather have cried and hid and instead you bravely faced the world. I'd like to say thank you for soldiering on with the pain that you carry, to help others in spite of your own need. I'd like to say thank you for the inspirations you bring to the world. I'd like to say thank you for the little things you do every day that do count. Even when you think they don't. You are a beautiful, incredible, amazing, worthwhile person with unlimited potential for loving. And I've seen you use that potential over and over. You'll do it again and again. Despite being knocked back or hurt, because that’s who you are. You believe in Love. And I'm right there with you. It's real. When you love as deeply and unconditionally as you can - the planet breathes in peace. You are gold, and you are the change we have all wished to see in the world. The magic is within You every single moment of every single day. Your touch of kindness brings grace. The essence of my being salutes the light that dwells within yours. There is indeed only One of us. It's a blessing to know you. In love and miracles, Deb 021 726 276 Next post: Losing your RRR! |