I've been there, both with the bogeyman who frightened me and made me not want to stay in my bed, and as the frazzled, knackered Mum who just wanted her own bedspace back.
This No More Monsters Spray is designed to release the fear, give the power back, take the monsters away, make the room feel nice AND give YOU a lovely nights sleep.
Simply spray a few times in the room, twice over the bed, once under and into corners.
Just $22.50 per bottle through my store page here.
Life is for living, loving, laughing and leaping over hurdles.
Sure you have to work…
but what is the work all about if jumping for joy is not on your to-do list?
Your Homework choices are:
1. You - tomorrow - 10 star jumps (or jumping jacks) - in the doorway - at work or at home - facing the world.
2. Make a tin can telephone with string and talk to a friend.
3. Make silly faces at kids on the bus.
4. Make mud pies.
5. Paint with your hands.
6. Investigate glitter or glue for no real reason at all. Stick something to something else.
7. Ring someone up and tell them you love them.
8. Roll down a grassy hill.
9. Go fly a kite.
10. Write "I love you" in lipstick on your mirror.
11. See if you can kiss your elbow.
12. Make up a funny character for a children's book.
13. Take your inner child out for a swing.
14. Make your food into faces before you eat it.
15. Press all the buttons on the thingummies that make music in a FRIENDLY toy shop.
*If anyone says you are silly for doing it, tell them it was part of your Play Therapy Prescription from Doctor Deb.
**Do NOT taste the strawberry scented soap - it doesn't taste like strawberries - I have already done this experiment for you. (Ok - ever hopeful, I did do it twice just in case I was wrong the first time)
(I just tried to kiss my elbow.)
During a session when I worked with a client a few years ago I saw her with her small suitcase, being sent far away. I was given the words 'Leaving Liverpool' and when I shared them with her, she said she was part of the Child Migrant scheme (and was grateful to be sitting down). Big healing energy was present in the space that day as we worked through trauma and into peace.
I had read the book Empty Cradles by Margaret Humphries when it first came out, so I was aware of how devastating and widespread the damage was for children, taken from living parents and sent overseas in a drive to populate parts of the globe with good, strong, working 'stock'.
Many parents were told their children had either been adopted in England or their lives had been lost and the children were often told they had been orphaned.
The last time it happened was 1967!
Margaret's story is an amazing piece of work that has helped many lives by bringing transparency to the acts of Government, charitable and religious organisations and ultimately creating networks of support and assistance to enable people to find relatives that may still be alive.
Useful links for child migrants are here:
(Photo Source The West Australia News 2007)
Some children were also sent to New Zealand and other countries.
I don't know if it still happens, but the women's magazines, such as the Womens Weekly and Womens Day regularly featured small advertisements in the back from people wanting to connect with missing relatives, brothers and sisters who were separated.
These days, we are so lucky to have the internet, making the world a much smaller place.
All her life she had been hiding inside herself and nobody knew.
All her life she had wondered why the people around her that said they were her family, seemed foreign to her sometimes. People who were meant to be her teachers didn't understand her.
She felt fear and lack most of the time, unless she escaped. She escaped best to the grass and the clouds and the trees and the sky. She escaped to the whisper, the silence, the roar, the bounty and the inexorability of nature. Nature knew her best. Nature was her home.
In nature, she wished for her wings to grow back and to lift her away from this place.
Sometimes she even wished for someone to steal her.
Then she grew up. At 37 years old she discovered that people had been stealing her all her life, and she had been letting them. She had no boundaries, and gave herself away, trying to please people and make the pain stop. It didn't stop.
In her confusion she had thrown away good things and kept others that hurt. She tried to make amends. She did things for people, she gave away things, she gave away money. She waited and waited for a friend, or for a partner to see that she was real and worthy.
It didn't happen. People she loved left her, and took things. And took her for granted. Her story was awful.
Until the day she started to say No.
No built a small boundary inside her first. No protected her from further pleasing of the others.
No helped her to please herself.
All this time she thought life was about giving and she realised she had starved herself by giving in the wrong order. She said No again and again and took her time doing things for herself.
The others were angry. They accused her of being selfish.
And she was. She withdrew the energy streams she had been sending out everywhere and she sent them into her heart where they belonged.
The others raged. She had pulled out their power lines, their plugs and hooks. It hurt and almost drained her of courage.
She wavered a little, feeling bad for them, but listened to her heart and realised if she did not serve herself, they were going to suck her dry of all her goodness and she needed to survive. She no longer felt responsible for their happiness. Her shoulders grew lighter. Her heart grew full.
She was self-ish. There was no one left. But she was free.
It was incredibly liberating.
And then the flow started. At first it was a trickle, little by little the people came, seeing she valued her Self, they acknowledged and responded to her value. She invested in herself by blessing the ones who were present before and who taught her to value herself, and the ones who understood came back.
She kept moving forward into an ever increasing stream of new people, new adventures and wonder.
The flow of people coming to her became a deluge and she realised she was not only worthy - she had a purpose and the purpose was to free the others.
She discovered that all the self doubting in the world was in fact, real selfishness because it caused light to be dim, and only held others back from their healing and growth.
She finally understood, she was birthed in love. No matter where she sprang from, how life shaped her, she chose to be here. She was not what had been 'done to her', she was an immaculate idea, divine in her inception, and so she shed the tight constraining bonds of the chrysalis that was her story, grew her wings and claimed the parts of herself that frightened others. She was creative, resourceful, wild, magical and amazing, no longer held back by thoughts of not-good-enough.
She had come to the planet to be a guide, a way shower, finally she knew she was a lighthouse for others, to alert them, help them to safety and to hold a space for them to grow and blossom through their storms.
She accepted her mission and opening her arms as widely as they could go, she laughed and embraced it with all her heart, exultant in the recognition that her souls greatest journey was also her homecoming.
It wasn't meant to be a walk in the park. Lighthouses are made of strong stuff.
She stepped up. And stood. Claimed her ground as solid rock and shone.
And guide she did.
Orange is the colour of the Sacral Chakra,
and takes care of your lower back and your reproductive system.
A great colour for everyone, but especially good for women. Got lower back pain or period pain?
Find something orange to place on it.
Orange can even be useful for car sickness, cutting heavy energy and clearing the air.
Spiritually Orange in balance - is confidence, focus, eyes wide open, creativity, production and reproduction. Out of balance orange brings a feeling of being stifled, stuck, scattery and unproductive.
In some cases, a very scattery person may find an orange environment extremely overwhelming until they have come more gently into balance.
Using orange has an uplifting, releasing and sedative effect. I've used it (the fruit) to clear symptoms that appeared to be flu like out of the body. It takes minutes. Think about trading minutes for a potential 3 weeks with the flu, and you know oranges are worth looking into.
Orange oil in an aromatherapy burner is said to relieve muscle cramps and indigestion. Lighter orange - like mandarin is a beautiful oil for children, and tends to leave a feeling of comfort and happiness.
Chock filled with vitamin C, we've heard the benefits of oranges for years and years and one of their ingredients D-Limonene has been studied extensively for its ability to combat cancer. Orange promotes the production of collagen. Here is a fact sheet from the US about High Dose Vit C.
In the Aura Soma range of products, the bottle number 26 - which is orange over orange, is the bottle we use for treating shock.
I created a product that I call Giggle Juice which contains orange to uplift and release stress, shock and trauma. It was named by a client who still purchases it. (Giggle Juice is $24.50 including postage.)
Why Giggle Juice? Because she laughed as soon as I sprayed it in her auric field, and so did the next few people. The name stuck.
Orange promotes the production of collagen. I have a friend who uses fruit on her face, (orange, avocado, mango) she has amazing skin, and recommends eating the orange and using the peel to massage and detox the face. *Orange has a photo toxicity, which means applying orange oil before going into the sun can create a problem for the skin.
Once upon a time we just used to eat them to prevent colds!
In these days of trying to limit the chemicals our families are exposed to, it's great to see the old favourites coming back. I don't know about you, but I've been making jams and pickles and I am encouraged by the simple things that make life special, magical and easier.
Recipe - Orange Whizz Cleaner
This recipe takes 5 minutes to prep and 30 days of brewing, but it's worth it!
Enough orange peels to fill a jar. (If it's going to take you a while to collect these, freeze them as you go.)
Optional: Orange essential oil.
Turn the peels on their backs and cover with salt - leave for about 30 minutes. This helps oils release from the peel. Then put the peels in a large jar and cover with vinegar.
Now - don't get too excited because you have to wait a month.
Give the jar a shake now and then, just because you can.
In a month, find a suitable spray bottle and dilute mixture half and half with water. If you want to - this is the time to add a few drops of your essential oil.
Shake and use spray as you normally would any surface cleaner.
Happy (incredibly reasonably priced) Cleaning!
Next week I am looking at yellow and the unexpected ways it can help our bodies.
When I learned Reiki I was really scared. Scared I wouldn't be able to remember, scared I wouldn't be able to do it. But what happened when I stepped out of my comfort zone, was simply amazing.
After my Level 1 Reiki Class I came home, feeling a little light headed and excited, and wondering if I could 'really do it'. I slept soooo well and was looking forward to using Reiki.
I had homework, to practice Reiki on myself for 21 days - I had two young sons and was excited to use it for them too.
I was on my own, doing the lions share of parenting, and any way I could help make that easier was welcome - a well family saves stress, time and discomfort, time off work and money too. Good for me and great for my boys? Bring it on!
Unexpectedly, my chance came the following morning.
As is often the way, the boys shared a bunk bed. My older son woke up very early the following morning and uttered the words no mother wants to hear "BLEEEEAAARGH I'm gonna be SICK" As he hopped out of bed I leapt up on 'autopilot damage control mode' praying for him to avoid vomiting on the carpet... and then the weirdest thing happened.
He ran around the corner and into the bathroom, and leaned over the toilet making a huge heave noise. I was right behind him and put my hands on his back, saying "Don't be sick, don't be sick, don't be sick."
He gave another sort of half heave, breathed in and said.. "Oh, wow, that's weird. I don't feel sick anymore, in fact..... gee that's really weird." And standing up, he looked at me and then said "I'm a bit hungry. I think I will go and eat breakfast."
I watched in stunned amazement as he left the bathroom and went to the dining table. (It was CocoPops, if you're wondering.)
I was standing there wondering what happened (I was sleeping when all this started, so hadn't really got all my faculties in order) and then I realised my Reiki had switched on automatically as my hands were so hot - they felt like they were almost glowing.
My son went off to school right as rain. Amazing.
Reiki has helped my family many times since and as I became a Reiki Master/Teacher, I have been priveleged to share it with countless people.
It has definitely changed my life for the better and brought me many amazing experiences on my journey. The simplest and most graceful form of healing, anyone can learn it, as you are attuned by the Master.
My fear when I went along, was due to what I thought was a bad memory (and truckloads of low self confidence), but I was so reassured, and then I came to understand, that Reiki is a process that you learn by doing.
It's an ongoing major blessing in my life, and can be the same for you.
I'm teaching on Saturday August 9th, from 10am till 4:30pm in Mairangi Bay.
Recently while working/healing with a client, I 'saw' something that looked like an upside down bowl covered in prickles. It was on the side of her head. Immediately after I moved it, she was full of smiles.
She was very young, and someone had wished her unwell.
Here's why I'm sharing it with you...
I often watch people who are on a conscious spiritual journey trying really hard to heal something by making peace with their past - to forgive, let go and start afresh with a new attitude, and that's really great. They are wishing for an easier life, and think/believe they have to work hard to get it. And we definitely do have to take action but...
Many of those people have a prickly upside down thing sitting in their energy field or on their bodies too.
That thing can be part of what is holding them 'stuck'. And in many cases, it was NOT put there by them.
It was, in a way, attracted. But NOT in the way they think. And they can work and work and work to release it - but until they go to the source - which is NOT them - they will work and work and work to get rid of it. Or not.
There are so many spiritual teachings, so many 'ways' to do things, so many paths to follow, so many books to read, so much 'self' to help. And we have been all for 'getting' it. Mostly from the outside of us, instead of within.
Teaching ourselves to listen is the best thing ever.
One of the best pieces of advice that I was ever given by a spiritual person was this. 'STOP buying books.' I thought she was crazy at the time, (and for a while I took no notice) but it turned out she wasn't.
Why did I need to do that? Because I was consistently and almost obsessively doubting myself and giving away my own power.
This technique, that technique, all the techniques… are someone else's medicine. You can get a certificate in that - and those things can really help people. I'm not knocking them at all, they are good. But if you have done all that and there is still a thirst inside you, still something unanswered, then YOU have forgotten to ask the most important person on the planet about their wisdom. (It's you.)
You need to shut the books and deal with the fact that inside you, there is a better way for you. It's your In-Tuition. And while you are shaking your head and saying "I don't know it" I can assure you that you do. Everybody actually does - we are all coded with it. It's just buried under layers and layers of 'humans are powerless' which has been fed into you by others who were all For Getting.
My technique - BioSonar & Imaging Therapy - showed up when I closed my eyes. When I joined the dots. When I said "hey I don't know where this is going, but I will follow it." It's risky to do that, because it involves trusting in something bigger. It Evolves daily and it INvolves taking less responsibility. It's like following a trail of wonderful/wonderfilled clues. And just like a small child delights in achieving little goals and targets, it creates the most wonderful 'I can do this' and some very huge 'Oh My God!' moments.
So my words/concepts for the day InVolve choices and will.
DeVolve - ReVolve - EVolve - all these words have something to do with the way we roll.
Find out what these words mean to you and how you can apply them to pare back limiting beliefs, have a turnaround and take back power and move forward. And what do these words have to do with the prickly thing? Well sometimes the books we read will tell us that we own the prickly thing. And often, this is not quite true.
DeVolution to me - is not about moving backwards, it is about resetting, and it is about stripping away layers.
There is something that you can take great responsibility for: It's wishing others well. By default it bounces to you and helps you to have a smoother life and also to create miracles.
Want to know more? Want some help rowing your boat gently down the stream? I'm easy to find.
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Next post - Shopping with your Angels - 4 ways to develop your intuition in the supermarket
my previous post - emancipate yourself from mental slavery
There were bullies in the heart of my childhood.
And all of my childhood I struggled to make friends. I read well from a very early age, and life inside my books was rich, wild, wonderful and adventurous.
Life outside my books was painful. I didn't fit in. I felt unwanted, I was sensitive to many things I didn't understand, life was not very settled, I felt very awkward around people and I was a target for bullies.
Something was different about me. It that was just enough to get me into trouble.
Secret #1 Bullies love sameness.
Bullies love everyone to be the same, because when everyone is the same, then they all act the same and that makes bullies comfortable. They search out difference and poke fun at it because they feel threatened by it.
Secret #2 Bullies are not happy.
The thing inside a bully that makes a bully pick on someone else, feels so disgusting to carry around, that they are trying to put it down somewhere. They want you to 'take' it from them. It's a feeling, like a rottenness - not a physical object. It is temporarily fed when they make other people feel as bad as they do, but it's nearly always hungry.
Secret #3 Bullies are ugly.
Oh, they can sometimes look pretty on the outside, for sure. But take a close look, that prettiness doesn't run too deep, and the good news is this - if a bully keeps pulling THAT face when they look at people and treat people badly - that face just might be the (wrinkle) face that they will end up wearing when they are old. The ugliness, badness or wrongness inside you that they 'seem' to be pointing out to you - IS THEIRS - it's ALL theirs. THEY are the ones who have to fix something, not YOU. They are sometimes masquerading as clever, but being a bully is not clever. It's a waste of character.
Secret #4 Bullies actually feel somehow disconnected. They try to reconnect by stealing energy from people who are connected. People who are connected are often connected to love, to nature, to kindness, sometimes they are connected to red hair, (red hair is very magical) and they can even be connected to freckles.
Secret #5 Bullies can't handle it when you know the truth about them, so you have to be a bit gentle with them, even though they are bullies. You can't tell them that you know they have these secrets.
You just have to remember how awful they feel and remember they are trying to eat your 'good' feeling. (If they felt good, they wouldn't do it would they?) Keep your good feeling with you and treasure it. Not everyone can deal with your goodness, kindness or indeed, if you have it, your red hair.
That's their problem, not yours, your individuality is what makes the world go round - it's your own personal torch, that helps you light your path.
Secret #6 Later on, some bullies are really sorry because they realise how awful they were and they were actually being bullied themselves. And sometimes they even apologise. Sometimes bullies just need kindness and someone to care about them, they can heal and so can you. You don't need to fix them though, and this is important to know. If you are consistently being bullied, get help.
The bullies that were mean to me, hung around in a big group and took turns saying super mean things one at a time. It made them feel better. And it made me feel really awful, really awful, isolated and scared, but at the same time I knew something about them. I knew that the one who was meanest - also frightened the other bullies, and some of them joined her because of their fear of going against the crowd.
What if she picked on them? They would have H A T E D it. And that small knowing helped me.
A whole group of people who need to pick on one person are sick.
Don't be a part of it.
The world only progresses when someone is brave enough to put their hand up and share their different idea. Our planet won't survive if we are all the same. Our planet won't survive if we all pick on each other. If you pick on someone, they might not survive. (Ask yourself why you need to and heal that) Because whether it's school, or the workforce, in home, or out in public somewhere - you don't know what that other person is going through - and one day - they might even save your life.
Your Challenge: Today think of all the ways that someone who dared to be different changed the world you live in. Think of explorers, inventors, innovators and scientists. See if you can name ten.
And then go out and celebrate your difference, because you never know what you could do that will change someones world.
If you know a friend who could benefit from these secrets please pass them on.
The terrible things that happened to me in my life, which made me feel isolated and scared, also increased my sensitivity to people - now it has also helped me to save other people that have felt really bad.
So what someone poked fun at me for, is my greatest gift. So I really mean it - celebrate your difference, because one day you will realise it's your greatest gift too.
Here is a (4 minute) video about how doing something that seems small can make a BIG difference to someone else. I hope you really enjoy it.
And keep this in mind: What other people think of you is none of your business - it's what you think of you, and what you do that counts the most. Let kindness be your guide.
Have a WONDERFUL day.
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A child that doesn't want to go to bed might be scared, unsettled or feeling rejected or abandoned, and the BogeyMan (strange and unrealistic as it may seem) is a common denominator.
Recently a blog article in the US asked bout the creepiest things children say, and many of them discussed a man they could 'see' when nobody else could.
Do you remember seeing the bogeyman? Or being scared that a hand might reach out from under the bed and grab your ankle? I do. I was petrified, and wish I knew then what I know now.
This happens a lot for kids. That man (or woman for that matter) may not actually physically be in their room, but he/she is actually in their perception, (visual, feeling or mind) and so does need to be moved...
After all - if there was a stranger in your room, would you be comfortable sleeping?
Moving unwanted visitors is done by house clearing.
A session includes energetically clearing the room, helping you tune in to the specifics, giving you tools for healing emotional or painful feelings or situations for your child, creating more connection and wellness for you as a family.
Firstly - it's you who absolutely has to sleep. Shattered parents are stressed parents. Many people believe parenting by default means disrupted sleep. What if this was not true for you? When your child feels safe and sleeps well, your chances are greatly improved.
So the odds are - setting your child, and his or her room up for better sleep is going to positively affect you.
Let's chase away the BogeyMan and get the whole family off to sleep.
Energy expert, Deb is also a spiritual teacher, healer, writer and artist.