CHANGING THE SHEETS (AND OTHER STORIES):
When a relationship has ended there are two significant energetic things I often discover people don't know about.
1. The bedding needs to go. Sleeping in the energy of the old relationship doesn't open the door for the new one. I know buying new bedding is a commitment sometimes, but get a bit at a time until the old is gone. It's ok to pass it on, but don't stay under it or in it yourself and as it goes, say to yourself and the world in general, 'I am releasing the story from this, it is free to go and so am I'. I'm including pillows in this as our pillows are receptacles for all the 'stuff' that goes on in our heads.
2. Rings, jewellery, anything that ties or binds around your body. You are no longer tied to or by this person and neither are they by you and that practice of wearing the old wedding rings, on the other hand, is only about thriftiness. It's a reminder that something didn't work out and it's an idea from way back when divorcees were loose women people might get a shot at. Let go. Park them elsewhere. Do a trial run for three weeks if you are reticent about this. Think about remodelling them if you want to, but it's just so much better not to identify yourself as 'once tied to so and so'.
Spiritually, energy can be picked up through these items, they tell a story. If it's a story of old love and deep sustaining support - then all good. But if you are man-hating, yet still wearing the diamonds, I have to tell you Zsa Zsa Gabor is not your idol. Let them go. They have a negative impact on your energy field and they hold your ankles while you are trying to move forward. It makes me feel yuck even writing about it, but it's important info.
MAN HATING: The other thing is, the man-hating, is an energy that orbits around you. If you objectify a man as a pain-related experience - the universe is not going to bring you one. The universe is not about to give you pain on purpose - it gives you pain to let you know something is finished. Like when you put your hand in the fire and it gets burned - you're supposed to be removing it. This is what happens when the universe is trying to get through to you about what your boundaries are meant to be. You then have to go install boundaries and start from there.
You're not here to fix/save or see the potential in someone, you're here to do the work on yourself so you can fully stand in your power and be seen like a great big lighthouse.
Man haters attract woman haters because the universe loves people with the same vibe to hang out together. We get bitter or we get better. Get better. You are more likely to fully love and be fully loved for everything you are if you are not thinking you are going into a war zone in man land.
Also: People who tell you relationships are hard work do not have the key to a totally healthy one. All the rationalisation in the world is nothing to do with your vibe in a space. It's not mechanics and you are not a car.
Shut your head up and listen to what your vibe is trying to say. Walking away is an act of self love. You do not have to pay penance for a decision you made when you did not know what you wanted. Warring in a partnership now means warring in a partnership later.
*Also need to pop in here that ogling the kind of man you don't believe you are ever going to have messes with your vision board and requests from the universe.
WHEN IT'S NEARLY DONE: Hanging around like a tiny candle with your light squished while you try to do a shitload of repair work while someone else isn't bothering, is about not letting your light attract what you're truly asking for in your core - and is not about healing - it's a major act of self-sabotage.
SORRY NOT SORRY (WITH LOVE) I am feeling like I am probably going to push a few buttons and I want to apologise, but I don't want to apologise as much as I want you to honour your heart and your whole energy field and to be honest with yourself. It's perfectly ok not knowing what to do next, but I'd suggest a clean, clear conversation with yourself about what you want, including what you could do in order to improve your own offering on the planet - how you stand - what your goals are - what your dealbreakers are and where your boundaries need to be.
A huge amount of stress is caused when people decide they have invested THIS much into a relationship, time, money and stuff and so they think they 'should' just keep going because it 'looks right' but it feels so wrong. Please listen. Love. OR even 'please listen, Love'.
ENERGETIC ORBITS: I wrote some time last week about orbits and this is a prime example. It takes a lot of balls to shift out of a relationship when everyone else is comfortable with it.
If you're dying on the inside, then something HAS to shift - for your health as much as for anything else.
There's a bit of difference between being energetically unclear, and being in the wrong space. Many women I know have cried themselves to sleep (and men too actually) at night wondering what the hell to do next, then they've put themselves on the back burner and got on with disappearing while they look after others. This works for a while, I know because I have done it. But there generally comes a day when it all implodes. Sometimes the other person stands up and gets out and that changes the orbit.
We often don't know what to do when the orbit shifts - everyone in it needs to reset themselves and a lot of people can find it inconvenient and some can be downright crappy and judgy but it's an important part of moving forward - even if it's happening to you and you don't like it. x
CHOOSING: You do what you need to do for you. Work out whether you're giving away all your power and need to take it back by reestablishing your boundaries - or whether you really need to step out. (I have a post here somewhere called the Pancake - I'll find that, it's relevant.)
Partnerships, relationships, marriages and family - any social situation has an orbit. You can really see what's going on in them if you step back and observe, and if you do, you may wonder what the hell you are doing, taking yourself into some of them.
Courageously be ok to hold conversations about what is right for you if you are honouring yourself. Ask for what you want. Be ok to step out of the ones that are wrong for you now - that's not saying they weren't right at some stage - and jump into the ones that feel like they serve. It will stop an energy drain and start to build your energy back. Bless the ones you leave with everything you have, they have served you for a time, even if you don't realise it right now.
ENERGY IS THE BIGGEST CURRENCY we have on this planet and it's all completely related to your flow. The little orbits that don't fit, pull on your power. Love everyone, but love yourself enough to choose. You'll set an example for others to follow about honouring themselves if they are wise enough to also step back instead of being caught up in the drama.
We're learning this human stuff, but love, is actually easy.
Everyone just wants love and the whole of the universe is trying to take us all there. We don't work hard to get to love, or to joy - they are present - we just need to take note of where they are patiently waiting for us, agree to join them and take the steps we need to take to allow that.
Potential is a potent shell. I feel like I've only just started stepping into mine, but it's up to us as individuals to fill ourselves up and grow into them. We may and we may not.
It's incredibly rewarding of course, to step in and start.
Shall we? Let's go.
the million dollar healer
This post is part of some older writing I have done, from our relationship seminars and in response to multiple questions I have received over the last few days. If you're having a shift - you're not the only one it's happening to. If you want to discuss - yell out. Let's get clear.
As children we had great meditation places to go to. Paddocks. Lawns. Swimming pools. Beaches. Trees and time. We flew kites and LOVED the way they danced on the breeze. Laughed, cried and howled when they smashed themselves to bits in a gust.
We climbed trees. We made up stories, games and swung high. We slid on the wet grass down hills or rolled down them. Played in dens, made forts, jumped in puddles, made homemade stilts, dammed creeks, caught eels, wiped our hands on our jumpers and ate the lollipops found in a pocket even when they had a bit of fluff stuck to them.
We often did just what we wanted to do, had pleasure for pleasure's sake and all of it was free.
We said Abracadabra and we knew magic was real because we were surrounded by it. <3
Then we grew up and along the way, we did a bit of forgetting. And now, more than ever, it's time to remember.
As the spirit journey unfolds, that kind of childhood meditation is most useful, most grounding and when you're grounded firmly, in a fertile place - your own seed grows and blossoms.
I find the best place to find myself is in the trees and the grass and the sky. The echoes of my inner child are still skipping in the places that feel like freedom and feeling awe in the mighty power of thunderstorms, joy in the colours of the rainbow, and rejuvenation in the sea.
Freedom, joy, awe, and rejuvenation are meditation and also a healing - so simple and free.
It's all there where you left it - a standing invitation you can accept at any time you choose. It's time for us to go back to the heart of who we are. To set ourselves free in nature and release the cynicism - after all, what is it doing for anyone apart from separating them from joy?
Instead of saying to yourself that children don't know what the real world is like, see the delight of small children, embrace their magic, release resistance to experiencing pleasure, make the time, nothing is more important.
Allow their wisdom to teach you and their joy to be the bridge that helps you back to find your own.
So here's my question to you:
What one magical childhood thing could you allow yourself to do, be or experience today to amplify the tiny delights and magic that feed your soul?
In love and love heart scribbles,
On this day
against all odds
and plans we made
all of our lives,
you and I are right here
together in the moment
in the lines of this writing.
For a moment,
I have your attention
and in this moment
I ask that you close your eyes,
breathe deeply in
and slowly out
and centre yourself
I am holding this moment
for you, so you can
take it back for yourself.
and still yourself
Come back to you, to yourself.
Then dive in.
Let everything else slide away
just now and feel
the immense space
of possibility that is present
Within you is
a vast universe
There are gifts you have
not yet unwrapped.
Welcome them now.
Breathe deeply again
into that space.
Your are held, but not bound,
in this moment.
You are loved
and not limited.
I do not need anything from you.
This is wide open,
Can you feel it?
I'm reminded today that sometimes the process takes over and people lose sight of their progress.
*I was washing grapes in the kitchen sink when that came about.
Rinse, rinse, rinse, I was washing all the grime and bits off when a HUGE black spider came up out of the bunch I was holding and said 'MAMMA MIA!!' just a split second before my mouth went into an O shape and my eyebrows went into my hairline and I said 'FARK!'
Anyway, sometimes, diving in and having a good scrub in the name of moving forward, get the grape, the trophy, whatever -- or taking action steps to move forward means that a biggie comes up out of the closet.
Would you prefer that spider stayed in? Hell no.
It has to come up. So figure out what it's teaching you.
The spider is part of the process. That it came up at all means you are making progress.
If you didn't make the effort to wash the grapes it would still be hanging out there. Secretly making its webs in your meal.
It's a bit of a challenge from the Universe to make sure you really want what you want.
Do you still want those grapes?
Instead of grabbing the spider and holding it for days and screaming about being stuck in the process, remember the spiders greatest wish is to evacuate the area a screaming human is inhabiting. Carry it gently to a suitable location.
Love that spider. The fact that it showed up means it's leaving.
You're ok. In fact - you're better off than you thought you were. You are now spider free. That's progress. (And the spider is listening to the sweet music of the garden.)
The word 'cess' is sometimes used in front of the word 'pit' to describe a shit hole. A process can literally feel like this for a moment now and then. You don't want to stay in it though, so someone has to stop the screaming and STEP through it. There is a door, and GRESS means to step.
The spider is the proCESS.
Evacuate the spider.
Appreciate the proGRESS.
Have a grape.
Most importantly, forgive yourself for not knowing the spider was there. Who are you, David Attenborough? No? Right, so be kind. Sit still and say a silent (or a rowdy) thanks for the progress you have made so far.
And next time a spider comes up, rinse and repeat, thank the spider, love yourself, see the progress, have a grape.
ps. Need help with the process? That's my department.
pps. Dear David Attenborough, if you are reading this, thank you for being a living demonstration of love in action, you amazing human.
ppps. No spiders were harmed in the writing of this post. One showed up physically, was relocated and then used allegorically, I haven't yet had a chat with his/her agent about fees. (I'm not certain we speak the same language either.)
It seems funny to think crystals can help us, but they do.
And in a way - it is a science.
Crystals are made of particles of matter, just like we are, our particles of matter (and theirs) have a particular vibration or frequency.
The frequency of a human during 'wellness' is very different to a frequency of a human during unwellness - think good vibes/bad vibes.
So what happens is, when a human is feeling low, flat, pale or 'sick', it's a little like a big bite has been taken out of our electrical field (or aura) And in place of that bite mark - the crystal's energy (an energetic signature of its mineral makeup) can very gently provide the support the person needs until they build their own field up strongly again.
Bringing the right crystal in at this time is a little like popping a crystal into the spot where the chunk of ‘you’ is missing, and letting the crystal vibrate there, a lot like a plaster on a wound, until your aura is healed.
Your crystal can boost you too. From pretty good, to pretty great! There are crystals for focus, for energy, for fertility, and it's not hogwash - I have several Mum's on my client list who have been helped with them.
Your physical body and your aura are related as your aura extends right into your physical body. So anything that heals or boosts your aura, has a physical effect.
Over time, it can be a profound physical effect and sometimes, the profound effect can even take place in seconds.
A crystal helped stop my sons asthma attack in seconds (when I was a total sceptic, and faster than I could get his inhaler) and this is why I teach about crystals.
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Ask about crystals for specific types of healing here.
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I'm SO looking forward to the journey.
Recently I worked with a wee boy who was in overwhelm.
‘Behavioural issues’ were really worrying Mum and Dad and were making school tricky. He’s sensitive to other kids and has a strong fight or flight reflex.
He didn’t want to speak to me, overwhelmed about being asked questions and he curled into a tiny ball in my big chair, turning his face away.
I told him I thought he could get smaller than that, and he wiggled in even more. His leg was sticking out. I mentioned it. He tucked it in further.
And that little shred of interaction told me he was listening, he just couldn’t do it facing me, it was too much energy streaming at him.
I asked him a couple more questions and he couldn’t answer them. Not wouldn’t, just couldn’t.
His Mum wanted to help and asked if he could whisper the answers to her, he couldn’t.
I checked his sensory levels with a technique that I’ve developed and discovered that he was WAY out beyond the general sensory level.
The highest of his sensory levels registered at 78/10. So his body had been getting feedback that was almost 8 times higher than most people receive. Life had literally been screaming at him and he was simultaneously meant to be acting like everyone else.
His behaviour was a side effect of everything streaming at him in too big chunks. The levels I mostly check depend on the feedback from the individual. They might be hearing, feeling, seeing, smell, taste and others.
I adjusted it. High sensory abilities can work brilliantly for us, but not at that level. My own sensory hearing level is 46 - for my work, it’s at gift level - 78 would not be a gift to me.
To give you a snippet of an idea about what he is going through - you can reference it by thinking about how you feel when there is a din going on? The TV in on in the background, you have something on your mind, the kids are fighting, you’re meant to be somewhere, time is pushing on you - and someone wants to you to concentrate, so they can ask you a question, and you’re expected to give them an answer?
That scenario scores at a 24/10 and it nearly makes us lose our minds. Imagine that multiplied three times, and that’s ALMOST where my little client was at - MOST OF THE TIME.
Pretty amazing huh? Think you’d find it hard to cope?
Do you feel like you’d have what may look like a behavioural problem then? I feel quite sure I would.
So all these lovely people who are populating our world now, more and more, no matter how they have come to the experience of high sensory perception are here, stuck in this energy din, comprised of:
and so much more.
It’s no wonder their fight or flight reflexes are so full on. They can’t get away, but running will give them something to do when the situation is overwhelming.
I’ve worked with a lot of children who are having difficulty and most of the mums say things like this one’s mum did:
‘Hi, quick update for you: He hasn't worn his green hat at all since leaving your place. And thank you so much for this morning. Was amazing seeing him go from a tight closed ball to sitting up right and facing you.’
After school: ’He settled nicely this morning when I took him to school and he didn't take his green hat with him. He also had a relief teacher today and coped well with the change.’
And five days later: ’Yesterday he said his day was amazing.’
Most of you who have high sensory kids will know the hat is a way of closing out the world in order to make it easier to function. Gaming is also a way of doing the same thing. Anything to block out the world is necessary, not just a behavioural choice - until the sensory levels are brought into balance.
One the sensory levels are brought into balance, the child is more free to be themselves and function in a more measured, more connected and engaged way. With practice and ongoing help, they are less sensitive to the hurts and difficulty they once seemed to perceive as the end of the world.
We may look at their extreme reaction when they don’t do well enough and see those reactions as behavioural, but in fact what we are seeing is a child who has done their best in that 78/10 overwhelm that we could not function at all in.
We are literally asking them to do their best in a war zone.
What you need to know is, your child can be helped and their personalities get a chance to shine through more because they are more comfortable.
Anyone functioning in overwhelm has at least one sensory level that has been blown out of its best operating range. Trauma can do it, and so can stress, so this work applies in multiple ways. It also greatly helps people who identify as empathic.
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I could have been all over Valentine's day like a bad rash. For business people, it's a PR dream. I could talk to and write for people who are in love, people who are out of love, I could write you a poem or tell you to remember love is always around you and to be honest, today I looked into it and then strolled off.
We don't do Valentine's day. Not in a grinch kind of way, we just think it's a bit stingy to save it for one day. But we remember that it was the day people could reveal a secret love, so it's all good. We're just not a secret, and we do love, real abiding love, every single day.
That doesn't make us more/better/bigger or anything like that, it just is what it is, quite plain and perhaps a bit magical, but also very simple.
We love each other, our kids, our family, our friends, our clients, strangers, because... why not?
We love family and friends we are in touch with, and those we are nearly never in touch with and people who have pissed us off too. Because every person on the planet deserves it.
Unconditionally, radically loving, each and every day is a sort of freedom. We don't need to be involved, to love someone, we don't need them to perform in some way.
Love is the light that brings everyone home.
No ownership, no expectation, just celebration and wishing people well.
That'll do. I think.
TODAY a butterfly visited me for about 20 minutes, and (since I made a Unicorn one),
I was already asking if I should be making a million dollar butterfly note.
I took it as a sign and a blessing, and so it’s also a sign for you.
Here’s a TEN million dollar butterfly note for you to copy (or print out the blog post and trim it) for your vision board or manifesting space, and it also holds a request from the butterflies.
Bless them and let them bless you back with some butterfly magic.
WE NEED our pollinators to help and do their bit. 🐝
You’re welcome to share and print.
The million dollar healer
If you've been getting the call to start work on your life mission and you are not sure where to start, Reiki is a great place.
It's simple, immediate, and beneficial to you and everyone around you.
1. Reiki saves you money.
2. Boosts self esteem.
3. Reiki can become or supplement an income.
To me it is an essential part of everyone's toolbox for life.
Your best 'qualification' for learning Reiki is a desire to help people and serve.
1. You don't need to have been told you have 'healing hands'.
2. You don't need to be a skilled meditator,
3. You don't need to have a detailed knowledge of biology,
4. You don't need to be able to hear your guides loudly.
Your Reiki develops over time and with practise.
Reiki is partly taught and partly an *attunement to the Reiki Energy.
Before I did my Reiki 1 Class, I was extremely worried I wouldn't be able to 'do' it. I learned in that class, that my worry was not real. Everyone can do Reiki, you actually discover you are not really having to 'do' anything, you are more involved with getting (your mind and worry) out of the way, the Reiki energy comes because it is meant to - and goes where it needs to go in the body.
Reiki can be done by touch, or by holding the hands above the body.
It is very comforting to the body
Reiki works on:
2. Children, on the body, mind, spirit and emotions.
4. Your home.
5. Your work.
6. Life situations.
7. Plants. (My jade plants leaves actually doubled in size when I did Reiki on them. I was so surprised.)
Reiki helps our clients in hundreds of ways,
you can use it to work on specific ailments, including mental and emotional:
1. Breaking old habits and programming.
2. Healing self esteem.
3. Healing joy.
4. Finding your purpose.
5. Illness, aches and injuries - including old, or chronic pain.
Reiki has been the trigger for many healing miracles for our clients, and students report being amazed at some of their results.
Reiki is non-denominational. It is not part of any religion, so many people practise it all over the world.
Reiki is literally the universal energy.
Rei = God or Universe Ki = Energy, like chi & prana
Ryoho = School or Study
*Attunement: Tuning in process
James teaches USUI REIKI. Sensei Mikao Usui channelled our version of Reiki to the world.
Reiki days start at 10am, and go to roughly 4 or 4:30pm. It's ideal to bring your water bottle along, and a journal if you'd like to.
Course notes and note paper are supplied.
We bring a shared lunch, and if you have any allergies, please let us know on booking so we can be aware.
Reiki days are $250pp.
You may pay this off if you need to. You will see great benefits from your Reiki if you use it regularly. My life always flows more smoothly when I 'let' Reiki look after me.
Email James here for details of the next Reiki Classes or to book a personal session.
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