There are times when we talk 'about' people.
When we are seeking to understand them, when we are supporting them, when we are inspired by them and also when we want to rip them down because we are triggered by them.
We are responsible for all these times.
All these times are an investment of energy. There are wise investments and investments that say a lot about where we are at.
What people do, say, wear, and choose to do are all individual things. In no way can we choose for another. We are not made of their chemical, energetic or personal composition and to judge them in any way is an indicator that we have a problem with their freedom.
Don't lock yourself up by holding negative thoughts about anyone. The more you celebrate their worth and wellness, the more you are free to celebrate your own.
One moment spent thinking unkindly is a moment investing in an untruth.
The truth is, we all are amazing. And thank goodness, we all are amazing in different ways, so together we can create a wonderful balance.
Life can be a tightrope, or we can swing gently in the breeze.
Let go. Be free. And just love the wrinkles.
Love IS Easy.
Close your eyes for a moment, take a breath in through your nose and put your consciousness into the gold of your heartspace.
Feel into it. Surrender. Let it expand as you surrender and become aware that you are limitless.
Ask for peace energy, clarity, focus, serenity and grounding.
Ask to witness your own magnificence. (That may sound crazy, but go on, you can do it.)
Feel the strength that comes with it and breathe out through your mouth.
You have just cycled these energies through your body, laying open a path for grace-filled experiences.
A cloak of gold comes around your shoulders now, blessing you and inviting miracles into your week.
You so deserve them - enJOY.
Kintsugi - the Japanese art of mixing resin (resilience) with powdered gold (life lessons) to make that which is perceived to be 'broken' more beautiful...
I love it.
If you don't think the life lessons you have learned, survived or overcome are the most wonderful defining gifts, perhaps you could take another look at them from this angle...
In my eyes, the beauty, richness and depth of character reached from getting to the other side of the ditch, is gold. You may have felt shattered, even been battered and bruised, but when you have carried yourSelf and your body out the other side - it's that experience that makes you a writer, a poet, a teacher, a storyteller, a nurturer, a leader, a friend, and inspirator, and so much more.
It's an honour to know you.
A word from the wise…
'Always listen to yourself. It's better to be wrong than simply follow convention.
If you are wrong, no matter, you will have learned something and you will grow stronger. If you are right, you will have taken another step toward a more fulfilling life. '
- Bryce Courtenay 1933 - 2012
You are treasure. I've told you before and sometimes you've soaked it up and said "Yes!" Other times, you've given me that look. The one that says "No way, I'm broken, I'm not that thing you think you see, I am believing that I am nothing much at all." But nothing could be further from the truth. Sure there are days when we are resistant, but we have to check ourselves sometimes, and remember that resistance blocks us. In all directions. Flow is really important and we can't flow that well if we have dammed up our stream with rocks.
You're perfect as you are, it just takes a moment sometimes for us to realise this and embrace it, and when life feels tough - now and then, a little nudge is all we need to come back online.
Bryce Courtenay is probably writing away somewhere in the stars. I like to think he is helping me.
I've certainly learned from him and when I read this beautiful piece of writing (below), I think we share similarities of vision. He, more than any other writer, opened my eyes to african stars, to the power of one, to hopes, dreams and far away places.
When I see his books, I scoop them up. At a school fair I discovered 'A Recipe for Dreaming' and it was a dollar. I felt blessed, inherited a bookmark and a little note that said 'whether you are near or far, I have roads inside me, that take me to where you are.' I wonder who left it there. It's a heartwarming extra gift.It's a curious thing, reading another persons secondhand book. I wonder where it's been, who has soaked it's wisdom up, who has been entertained. Did it mean to them, what it means to me?
Bryce writes 'The combination of learning to dream and getting into the habit of asking yourself questions is, I believe, the beginning of a way to live a happy and original life.'
This is accurate for me. I spent years running from myself and only recently realised how to stop and ask myself what was right for me, how I felt and what I was here for. Too often the treadmill captures us.
I thought I would share this little passage from the book with you because it has inspired me so.
'You were not born empty.
God formed you with perfect feet and hands and a heart that beats non-stop, sometimes for a hundred years. He made you complete.
Why then, do you assume He made you empty?
He didn't, of course. You inherited a thousand generations of wisdom, skill, poetry, song, all the sunrises and sunsets of knowledge past. You are the sum of all the people who went before you.
You are a refinery of intellectual wealth.
The full flood of antecedent wisdom is piped and stored within you - how to climb the highest mountain, slay the biggest monster, how to survive fear and how to summon your own courage and take pride in your wonderful intelligence.
Inside you are more possibilities than you could possibly use up in one lifetime.
If you can dream it - you can do it, because the instinctive knowledge of how to succeed is already programmed within you waiting to be turned on. Waiting to flow like a river as you come on stream.'
I love it, don't you?
Bryce has been a big part of my dreaming. Perhaps he can inspire you too.
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Crystal Clear - Helping Vision
I love the healing power of crystals, it's just an amazing thing. How do they heal us?
Well, they vibrate at a certain frequency. And unwell humans vibrate at another. When there is discord in your energy field and you bring the right crystal in for healing, the crystal energy hums away repairing your depletion until your level is raised enough to release the unwellness. When you no longer need it, but you continue to hold it close, in your field or in your pocket - the crystal is often lost.
Clear quartz, a very high grade clear quartz is fabulous for the eyes. If you lay down and place one on each eyelid or above or below the eyes, it's a little like having a rejuvenation with cucumber. A very lovely mini treatment.
But you could take this one step further, as I do with some of my clients, and intensively work on your vision.
I went for a check to Eye Specialist. Today. Could read 1 line smaller !! than last time and had a scan.
He said "I wish all my patients were as boring as you. What are you doing?" I said "I'm putting quartz crystals on them". He said, "Well keep doing it, your eye hasn't been this good for a long time".
I lay the crystals on my eyes and forehead for about half an hour most days. I use all 5.
My family has had great success with the crystals preventing car sickness (held a crystal in each hand).
I skinned my shin very badly - the crystals laid on the plaster bandage took the pain away almost immediately.
AND my daughter used them to clear the water to taste better at our beach house as well.
I wash them for a moment in cold water most days, dry them and put in love, healing and golden light.
Thank you lovely Deb.
I am so grateful to hear this, as she has previously been told to expect her eyesight to deteriorate.
Quartz crystals are in stock if you would like to purchase them. I have large ones here for $13.50 each.
Meditate for wellness with one on each eye.
All the hard work, all the projects, all the plans, the slog, the effort and the relentless pursuing in the face of - let's face it - sometimes, not so much reward - are finally starting to make some sense, come into shape.
You've been laying the groundwork, building the platform, dreaming the dream and coming into line with walking the talk. And now you are finally speaking the language of the people - and OH MY GOODNESS! Communication came into line last week and what's more important is - now there are people all over the place, listening AND telling others about your work. Yahoo!!!
As you leave the feeling of that long, hard slog behind, you keep walking, and step into a clearer space, more light, more action filled and more expansive. Rock on now - miracle worker - you are shining!!!
Breathe in this clear energy and let it infuse all your cells. Sit for a moment, holding a smile, and a YES!
and then go out and be gorgeous.
The light streams in on the floor, dancing dust motes tinkling in its gaze. Twirling and swirling in the glorious silence.
There is nothing. Or is there?
Paying attention brings the gulls in first. Off in the distance, exultant cries tell tales of low tides and rich pickings. The cicadas follow, their sibilant hum setting a clear frequency to cut and release, cut and release - they are dislodging the last of summer. Stridently sending it on its way, a few more long days of sunshine and then it will be gone.
The temperature has dropped. Last night was all about being covered. The cooler air today seems to aid thought processes.
The clock ticks, the fridge whirrs. And now there are school children on break time. A truck rumbling by and a few cars to help with the life hum. Further out, construction clangs, diggers and drop saws intrude.
The breeze just murmurs.
After last nights crazy wind, violently whipping the curtains and howling round the house - this is peace.
Take a moment to tune to all the sounds in your space, hear them, picture them, then retreat back out and let them go. Listen to the silence of your body.
All these external things have only the importance I attach to them.
Breathe and allow the stillness to centre you.
Life is for living, loving, laughing and leaping over hurdles.
Sure you have to work…
but what is the work all about if jumping for joy is not on your to-do list?
Your Homework choices are:
1. You - tomorrow - 10 star jumps (or jumping jacks) - in the doorway - at work or at home - facing the world.
2. Make a tin can telephone with string and talk to a friend.
3. Make silly faces at kids on the bus.
4. Make mud pies.
5. Paint with your hands.
6. Investigate glitter or glue for no real reason at all. Stick something to something else.
7. Ring someone up and tell them you love them.
8. Roll down a grassy hill.
9. Go fly a kite.
10. Write "I love you" in lipstick on your mirror.
11. See if you can kiss your elbow.
12. Make up a funny character for a children's book.
13. Take your inner child out for a swing.
14. Make your food into faces before you eat it.
15. Press all the buttons on the thingummies that make music in a FRIENDLY toy shop.
*If anyone says you are silly for doing it, tell them it was part of your Play Therapy Prescription from Doctor Deb.
**Do NOT taste the strawberry scented soap - it doesn't taste like strawberries - I have already done this experiment for you. (Ok - ever hopeful, I did do it twice just in case I was wrong the first time)
(I just tried to kiss my elbow.)
All her life she had been hiding inside herself and nobody knew.
All her life she had wondered why the people around her that said they were her family, seemed foreign to her sometimes. People who were meant to be her teachers didn't understand her.
She felt fear and lack most of the time, unless she escaped. She escaped best to the grass and the clouds and the trees and the sky. She escaped to the whisper, the silence, the roar, the bounty and the inexorability of nature. Nature knew her best. Nature was her home.
In nature, she wished for her wings to grow back and to lift her away from this place.
Sometimes she even wished for someone to steal her.
Then she grew up. At 37 years old she discovered that people had been stealing her all her life, and she had been letting them. She had no boundaries, and gave herself away, trying to please people and make the pain stop. It didn't stop.
In her confusion she had thrown away good things and kept others that hurt. She tried to make amends. She did things for people, she gave away things, she gave away money. She waited and waited for a friend, or for a partner to see that she was real and worthy.
It didn't happen. People she loved left her, and took things. And took her for granted. Her story was awful.
Until the day she started to say No.
No built a small boundary inside her first. No protected her from further pleasing of the others.
No helped her to please herself.
All this time she thought life was about giving and she realised she had starved herself by giving in the wrong order. She said No again and again and took her time doing things for herself.
The others were angry. They accused her of being selfish.
And she was. She withdrew the energy streams she had been sending out everywhere and she sent them into her heart where they belonged.
The others raged. She had pulled out their power lines, their plugs and hooks. It hurt and almost drained her of courage.
She wavered a little, feeling bad for them, but listened to her heart and realised if she did not serve herself, they were going to suck her dry of all her goodness and she needed to survive. She no longer felt responsible for their happiness. Her shoulders grew lighter. Her heart grew full.
She was self-ish. There was no one left. But she was free.
It was incredibly liberating.
And then the flow started. At first it was a trickle, little by little the people came, seeing she valued her Self, they acknowledged and responded to her value. She invested in herself by blessing the ones who were present before and who taught her to value herself, and the ones who understood came back.
She kept moving forward into an ever increasing stream of new people, new adventures and wonder.
The flow of people coming to her became a deluge and she realised she was not only worthy - she had a purpose and the purpose was to free the others.
She discovered that all the self doubting in the world was in fact, real selfishness because it caused light to be dim, and only held others back from their healing and growth.
She finally understood, she was birthed in love. No matter where she sprang from, how life shaped her, she chose to be here. She was not what had been 'done to her', she was an immaculate idea, divine in her inception, and so she shed the tight constraining bonds of the chrysalis that was her story, grew her wings and claimed the parts of herself that frightened others. She was creative, resourceful, wild, magical and amazing, no longer held back by thoughts of not-good-enough.
She had come to the planet to be a guide, a way shower, finally she knew she was a lighthouse for others, to alert them, help them to safety and to hold a space for them to grow and blossom through their storms.
She accepted her mission and opening her arms as widely as they could go, she laughed and embraced it with all her heart, exultant in the recognition that her souls greatest journey was also her homecoming.
It wasn't meant to be a walk in the park. Lighthouses are made of strong stuff.
She stepped up. And stood. Claimed her ground as solid rock and shone.
And guide she did.
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach