FREE HUGS IN AUCKLAND & SOME TIPS:
Yesterday Nicole and I went for a bit of a ramble in Auckland.
We hugged hundreds of people outside Britomart and around the lower Queen St area, and I just wanted to share with you a story (or two) from the morning...
One man who did not speak English walked up to me and gestured that he wanted to know what we were doing. I demonstrated from my heart to his and a sign of peace. His eyes went wide and he stepped into my hug and remained there for a few moments. We hug with our hearts, real and strong. No patting on the back, no rigidity, a big beautiful hug. He drew back from me with big tears in his eyes and then overcome, he hugged me again. He bowed as he left.
I had to take a few moments to process the tears. Bless him, if he was the only person I hugged all day it would have been so worth it.
One guy was on the way to his first day of his new job.
Monday morning hugs are non toxic, alcohol free, no calorie, uplifting, heartwarming and I am quite sure they go a long way toward curing Mondayitis.
I recommend you find a friend you trust and who gives GOOD hugs and take him or her along for a couple of hours.
People will ask you why you are doing it. If it helps - this is what I say - I tell them that it's because we need touch and connection now more than ever in our world and because people are AWESOME.
Nicole and I also met some hilarious Hug Avoiders. I will save that story for another day.
There are a few things that are useful to know when doing Hugs in your community.
1. NEVER hug a child that is pushed towards you. Children's boundaries are SO important and we always honour them. Parents who are a little nervous sometimes push their kids forward. It's important not to curb their natural instinct to keep themselves safe. If it feels right, give them a high five instead. Now and then, a child will openly come and say "Yes I would like a hug." Those ones are just fine.
2. Banter is good - gentle, non invasive, lightheartedness. No bullying anyone into a hug, personal zones MUST be respected.
(3. This should be fairly obvious, but I've seen otherwise, so no touching below the waist.)
4. If you can hug in the open air with plenty of space around you and enough time for people to deal with their risk or resistance - the 'shall I or shan't I?' you are more likely to get a yes. Include everyone in your offering.
5. You'll get loads of No's. Deal with it gracefully and instantly. (If this is a problem go straight home. The streets are ok without you.) The No's are not about you. At no time make fun of anyone - this should also be obvious - but you are being a role model for people around you. Some people you are sure will decline you, will surprise you and say yes.
6. Some people will think you are nuts. You are. It's great.
7. Some people haven't been hugged for years. Once someone told me she had not been hugged for 10 years. That's why we need touch. Of course I hugged her twice.
8. Some of the people you will hug have been hanging by a thread. Your hug is their lifeline. Don't underestimate it. Love each person you hug, big golden, sunshiny love is good for all of us.
9. Hugging is not a business opportunity. Over time I've hugged thousands of people and have given out very few cards. Sometimes I take them with me if people want to friend me on Facebook or get more hug pictures. If you are really hugging - you are holding a moment of time, not having a conversation. It's not networking - it's HEARTWORKING.
10. Too many people giving out hugs can be quite scary - three is plenty - so split up or spread out.
11. Keep your arms out wide and SMILE. Pack away all handbags and extras so you are totally able to be present and play!!
12. Be prepared to have your heart melted.
International Peace Day is on September the 21st. Want to make the world a better place?
Grab a friend or get a group together and go DO HUGS FOR PEACE.
Past hugging days: There are more tips and a couple more stories here: http://www.debx.co.nz/blog/10-top-tips-for-free-huggers
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The decision people make, to enter into a hug with a stranger, is a decision to allow themselves to be held. Participation is made easier by the fact they will probably never see us again.
How do we hug? How often do we hug? We've nearly all been 'duty huggers' right?
Hands up if you haven't - but I bet there aren't too many hands up.
The top tip? Take a sign, or wear a Hugs for Peace or Free Hugs tee-shirt. It's just easier. Unless there is a really large crowd, 2 or 3 huggers are all you need.
1. Relax, breathe and don't do it if you're feeling grumpy because your hugs will suck.
2. You MUST let people have time to see you, weigh up the risk and decide that it works for them. You are helping them to walk through a comfort zone gap.
3. Honour comfort zones (don't walk along heckling them, that's not a Free Hug ) let them bring the zone to you.
You can quite often ‘sell' a hug to someone that is a little unsure with a great big smile, open arms and a "hey - it’s just non-alcoholic, calorie free goodness.” You can give a gentle second chance and say "are you sure?" to them if they smile and laugh when they say no.
4. A firm 'No', means no. Hugging anyone that doesn’t want a hug is counter productive and flips all your good energy over.
5. Hug the people who say YES. If they don't want a hug - they are not rejecting you - they are coming up against a wall of their own stuff. Your open heart may be the most threatening thing they have seen for days. But you might inspire them. And quite often people change their minds.
6. Some people will think you are nuts and go away growling. Let that roll off super fast - they are not your audience.
7. Some people will be a bit scared to hug you, but they will laugh and POW! the good vibes will have got them - just like that!
8. Be prepared for surprise huggers. Now and then people will jump into a hug. Some people will get out of their cars and run across the road to get to you for a hug. - Please DON'T go Hugging if you have a sore back.
9. A really healing hug lasts for moments longer than a 'see you later' hug - walls come down and people realise that there really are other people out there who care. It can be a deeply profound experience - wrapped in one magical moment of connection.
10. No Free Hug hug includes touching below the belly or on the butt! The only way is up Baby. Creepy - is creepy.
Smile from the tips of your toes to the top of your field. Arms out, fill your heart with love and greet that person with a full illumination of your energy field, seeing the light in them, regardless of whether they might believe it's present or not. You see them - as the beautiful soul they are.
That illumination brings deep clearing on so many levels. Let them go and bless them. Have fun.
You'll meet all sorts. I've hugged thousands of people and I can tell you, there are plenty of different huggers out there.
The rigid 'three pats on the back' hugger will probably pass you by - but the open arms 'come to Mama' hugger will say yes.
The 'surreptitious pelvis presser' hugger may have a go - yes it's yucky - no it doesn't happen often.
There is the 'I'll hug if you hug, but don't get carried away' hugger, those ones are generally doing it for points because their friends did.
The 'duty' hugger makes me a bit squeamish - Mothers often direct their kids to hug when the kids are not comfortable, we ALWAYS say to people who do this "no way - we respect boundaries and honour feelings - if you don't want to hug, don't hug."
The icing on your cake is the 'I love the world and everyone in it' hugger. (These ones are AWESOME.)
Your marriage proposals will come from the 'I haven't hugged a woman for years, would you come home and cook my dinner?' hugger. (These may also come with a quick pat near/on the bottom, but as they are mostly elderly men - I have not yet bopped one on the nose.)
Travellers are amazing, and so open to hugs, and there are a huge amount of people who just need a hug because nobody gives to them without expecting something. Ever. (These ones are often Mums.)
A Free Hug is just that - Free. If someone opens their arms to you and allows you to hug them, treat them as if they are offering you a most precious gift, because they are. An open heart is pure treasure.
It's not a PR exercise. You are giving - if you're really doing this properly, the Spirit of Free Hugs will stop you from speaking about your work unless you are directly asked by another person. Then it’s fine to talk about it and if they are genuinely resonant with it, let it grow organically into connection. Though I've hugged thousands of people, I've probably handed out only 6 or so business cards. This is not because I'm 'doing it wrong.'
Massive bonus: Many people will answer your free hug with a real hug of their own and give equally.
Most humbling and also very thought provoking: Some people will tell you they have not been hugged for years.
In this digital age we are embracing cyber space and losing touch with each other. We are more connected, and somehow, some of us are more alone then we have ever been. We just need to open our arms more.
In time I have hugged thousands of people. When I first started, I had to get a permit from the local council to do it.
I find it funny that I am, technically speaking - a licensed Free Hugger.
There have been so many highlights, but possibly the most poignant, were the elderly lady who initially said no, then said yes and had a really big hug, then told me she had not been hugged for ten years since her husband died… you read right - that's 10 years. How does that happen?
And the 12 or 13 year old boy who could not believe anyone would want to hug him (his Mum didn't want to - she didn't want him), he had a couple of hugs, then swapped shirts with his friends in an effort to go 'undercover' so he could come back and get more. We told him he could have as many as he liked.
Hugs can help throw people a lifeline when they've been hanging by a thread.
I hope you are inspired to share more, even if they are just at home.
And it's Mothers Day this weekend here in New Zealand - so you know where to start, don't you?
Some days I wonder to myself 'how on earth do I get the message through to people that miracles are possible, that life doesn't have to be so hard, that they don't have to carry round baggage?' And then my phone goes. And it has a person on the other end that says "My friend told me I just needed to see you." And in that moment, I realise, I am not trying to get this message across all on my own.
I am truly, truly grateful for you all for the help you give to me, the times when you have shared me and promoted me, the moments that may not yet have propelled someone along, but have planted a little seed of hope. All those moments that I do know about - and all the ones I don't.
One of my clients recently said "I just want to help you. And I want to do it, because when I help you, you will be able to help so many more people, so in a way, I'm making that possible. Let me help you."
Usually I am Mrs Independent Pants, but I said "Yes." Yes because I am here to be as busy as possible. I don't just help people that know about spiritual things. I help the others. The ones who are like I was. Who just need to know that pain can be lifted.
Sceptics come to me. Not the 'I will never believe this in a million years' mindset ones, the ones who want good health and a great life, and are prepared to listen to a friend who says 'just go - never mind what she does - it's how she makes you feel that matters most - just go.'
Those friends who trust you, and come to me, are precious gifts, and they walk across a sacred bridge that You have built. Please realise YOU are the crucial link in their miracles. We are all in this together.
And you are not only helping them - because when they feel better - it helps their families and others around them too.
That brings more peace to the planet.
A hundred times - Bless You.
So... may I help to champion a cause - or to thank a person for you?
Because I'd love to.
I love working on sceptics. Healthy Sceptics who need a hand with wellness are the most AWESOME clients ever.
Shane came to me with pain in both his wrists after Carpal Tunnel operations.
He said afterwards, that his pain had been at a constant 6 out of 10, and he could kind of put up with it, BUT the reason that really propelled him along, was that his hands were closing up when he was resting. The Doctors told him 'that sometimes happens'.
His friend told him to come see me. Shane was about the most sceptic guy I knew.
He left with a 0 - thats zero pain, saying he didn't believe in it, but it worked. I didn't need him to believe in it - it was enough that he came along. I was pleased I helped him, but HUGELY dismayed thinking about all the people in the world who suffer needlessly because they don't know this healing could help them.
Healthy sceptics want to know something is going to work for them. (So do most people, right?)
Healthy sceptics are willing to try something, even though they are not sure exactly what it is - if it proves to be good for them, they are ok embracing it.
Most sceptics are in one of two boats:
1. They have not had an experience with healing, or do not know of it, or understand it.
2. They have not had an experience that was effective. Perhaps because they needed more than one treatment or did not trust the person they were working with.
The Other Sceptics: Some sceptics have a cognitive dissonance around healing. A fancy term for just not accepting something, because it would cause their whole belief system to register stress. Because we rely a lot on our world view - if we are a person who is cemented in a belief, when someone presents us with something that doesn't support our belief, we can be scared/triggered or even angry. And that's perfectly ok. This person is unlikely to present themselves for healing in the first place. Fine by me, and I mean that in a kind way - not a stick that in your pipe and smoke it way. I am here to a. bring you less stress and b. work for your money.
I'm not here to waste my time or your money talking to you if you won't/can't hear me.
That's really important.
So - first off - and I know this isn't really first because here I am down the page a way, but still - there is something to get straight here. I am, most definitely, a former sceptic. Why? I 'saw' things when I was small. BUT I was told they weren't real by other people that couldn't see them. They were wrong, and those things were real. My vision just worked slightly outside the boundaries of the 'accepted' human visionary field.
Secondly - I am a meccano, lego, engineering minded kind of fixit girl. I own more tools than many people, I can back a trailer better than many men - I like to know how things go together, and how they come apart - not necessarily in that order. I LOVE results.
So if something doesn't WORK, I am not interested - but if it works - I REALLY WANT TO KNOW.
So two things are amazing to me. One - we are all surrounded by energy that can be harnessed, we just don't tend to know how to do that for our best benefit. And Two - I can harness it - or at least direct it, and I am SO lucky because my clients give me amazing testimonies to their results - like the one below.
(And may I just say - the gentleman that gave me the testimonial below, actually cancelled TWICE before he came. He really was iffy about coming along.) He is also private about his work and personal life, but is willing to speak directly to people about the healing, if they genuinely are interested in having some.
So here is this testimonial - and I'm truly grateful for it.
Personal testimonial for Deb:
'I was extremely sceptical and cynical of anything of this nature. To me, if it couldn’t be identified, isolated, tested and re-tested using the scientific method – then it didn’t exist. My close, trusted (and similarly sceptical) friend had seen Deb and was floored by her abilities, still unconvinced – I sent my partner along and she was likewise astounded. Both of them were deeply affected by their session with Deb. Begrudgingly I made a booking and went to see what all the fuss was about. The best way I can describe my experience is: profound. Before I walked in I felt “heavy”, not a physical heaviness but a sense that I was wading through water all the time and had a great weight on my shoulders. When I left Deb after 90 minutes (was meant to be an hour but I made her keep going with the session!), I felt completely different. Lighter, somehow ‘free’ and indelibly changed in ways I’m still trying to come to terms with. I can’t begin to understand how Deb did what she did but I can attest to the fact that she can do things that defy explanation.
She knew things she shouldn’t possibly know and revealed things to me that were confronting and challenging but also uplifting, inspiring and incredibly emotional. She somehow elicits a tangible, physical change in your body without touching you? This, I cannot explain.
My experience with Deb has left me reeling and there is no doubt in my mind that I have been changed forever. I have purposely avoided emotive words like ‘miraculous’, ‘spiritual’ or ‘angelic’ but they are entirely apt ways to describe who Deb is and what she does.
Open your mind or keep it closed, it really doesn’t matter – but if you want a legitimately ‘life altering’ experience then go and see Deb.
You will leave a different person.'
This is why I love the work, and also why it's important for healers and light workers to keep sharing the possibilities with people who have never had the experiences, even though it's sometimes considered scary. Those people we work on, who are profoundly affected, share their stories bit by bit with people who trust them, and in that way, they share possibility, open eyes, ears, hearts and doors to a world of wellness that otherwise escapes people.
It's so, so important to share.
If this article helps you I'd love to know. I work all over the world, and all over the country, but there are many people in your area that also offer healing. If you are not inspired to come to me, at least keep questioning, and learning about the possibilities of healing, seek out friends who have had great local experiences and, if you need to draw the courage from them, do it, and go along to see a healer. Maybe I can even recommend one in your area.
Energy healing changes lives every day. There are more than 4 million Reiki Level One healers in the world. That's just one form of healing in a vast sea of available modalities.
What on earth would they all be doing it for if it wasn't real?
Close your eyes for a moment, take a breath in through your nose and put your consciousness into the gold of your heartspace.
Feel into it. Surrender. Let it expand as you surrender and become aware that you are limitless.
Ask for peace energy, clarity, focus, serenity and grounding.
Ask to witness your own magnificence. (That may sound crazy, but go on, you can do it.)
Feel the strength that comes with it and breathe out through your mouth.
You have just cycled these energies through your body, laying open a path for grace-filled experiences.
A cloak of gold comes around your shoulders now, blessing you and inviting miracles into your week.
You so deserve them - enJOY.
This is my client's broken - then healed, collarbone.
Nine days apart, these X-Rays show the healing journey of a young lady who (despite her expected 6 weeks + physio recovery time) was back on the netball court practising within 3 weeks, playing competitive sport in 4 weeks, and who trialled against 75 others to gain her spot in the provincial team just 7 weeks after her 'break from netball' happened.
My client gifted me her X-rays to teach students, and her mother Sue learnt Reiki to Practitioner Level to help friends, family - and you guessed it - the Netball Team!!
Reiki is for mind, body and spirit, helping to open up the energy flows in the body, it's credited with helping Hayden Roulston, one of our Kiwi athletes to recover from a life threatening chronic heart condition to cycle to Silver in the Beijing Olympics. More recently singer Christina Aguilera is reported to have praised 3 x weekly Reiki sessions for helping to put her mind in a good place and support her on an amazing 30 pound weight loss journey.
Reiki is often described as a feeling of bliss and deep peace. It's used pre-op and post-op in many hospitals around the world, and in some medical training, a Reiki Qualification can give you extra credits.
I only discovered Reiki at age 37, but gee do I love it! I'm a teacher, as well as a healer, and have more Reiki Classes coming up soon on Auckland's North Shore:
May 3rd is Reiki Practitioner Level, and May 10th is Reiki Level 1 - the Learner Healers class.
Children can learn Reiki too, and use it to help themselves and others.
Whether you are a sportsperson or not, if you are recovering from anything, or would just like to experience peace of mind and allow more wellness in your life, Reiki is a fantastic way to start.
Each persons experience is different, I have witnessed many healing miracles - and many of those happened to fairly sceptic people. You don't have to 'believe' in Reiki for it to be effective, all you need is a genuine desire for wellness. That said, it's most helpful if you just relax and go with the flow.
Clinic healings and distance healing sessions are always available - Reiki is a life changer and can be a game changer.
Will it change yours?
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach