Love is easy.
Do you agree? Or do you have a resistance around these words?
Whatever we feel about love is reflected into our giving and receiving of it.
In truth, we simply are love, and when we embody that, love is.
It is us, it is all around us. We are not separate from it. Many of us think we need to do
something to get it. We don't.
We simply be ourselves, putting no expectation or demand on another, seeing only love in them, and when we do, the pressure that was on them, or between us, falls away.
It's an attunement to love that helps us most. An attunement to ourselves - a release of discord and of the grasping our old stories of pain, a release of 'he did this to me, so you might also be bad' and a freeing into gentleness, non-judgement and healthy vulnerability.
A desire to release a painful mindset is a welcome mat, a precursor for the return if you will - to harmony.
Harmony is wellness, and when we choose to release this mindset, and return to our rightful platform of love, inharmonious ideas and thoughts of pain subside and our pain also subsides along with it.
It is then we find we have become a part of a priceless, deep abiding peace.
With love attunements and miracles,
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If you are complaining in any way about how your Dream Life feels out of reach,
ask yourself this…
“would my Dream Life contain me, standing in the middle of it
If you are complaining - you may be actively working against your Dream Life because you are focusing on negatives – flip the negative round and look at it from another side – it will be an upside down opportunity. Repositioning brings blessings.
So - welcome it energetically. Hold the thought of your Dream Life in your mind,
breathe in and breathe out and just transport yourself there by imag(in)ing - that's being in the image - that you are already in it.
How will you feel?
What amazing things come into your mind when you are doing this?
Where are you? Have a look around. Now draw a cord from yourSelf to the actualisation of that Dream Life and imagine you are pulling yourself along the cord, gently, slowly. Take a step.
Open your eyes and consider this…
In order for you to be in your Dream Life – you have to know/feel that you deserve
it. Know that miracles are possible, and not only that – your world is flooded
with them, when you have the eyes to see, ears to hear and heart to feel.
Your ‘dream’ life is only a dream because you are not fully engaged with it yet.
Tell the Universe you understand (if you do), that you are here for your special
mission and you are willing to pick up the cord and use it as a handrail to
steady yourself with as you walk along your path.
If you get lost or feel you have strayed off your path, spiritually reach out again for your ‘handrail’, steady yourself by breathing. And take baby steps.
One at a time builds your confidence. Make a little time to sit still and let the
Universe know you are open to the messages and suggestions you need to know to
You’ve got work, the most blissful, blessed work to do.
Love your work, Miracleworker, keep on keeping on. It’s all worth it.
Your best friends are these five words "please show me the way" and if you couple them with a willingness to follow hunches (another words for divine inspiration) then the world is your oyster...
Are you open to receiving grace?
"I am open to receiving grace."
Wishing you blissings and blessings.
The Soul says .... "I want to journey there - to that beautiful shining jewel of a planet."
And the Soul is asked - "Are you sure?
Do you know that you have to help there if you go there?"
And the Soul says "Yes."
The Soul is asked again, "Are you sure?
Do you know you have to select and take with you other Souls and engage with them
in trials and lessons?"
And the Soul says "Yes."
And the Soul is asked, "Are you really sure? Some of these lessons will be
very painful and you will have to wear a suit that is very heavy, you will
likely forget when you swim through the river that you are made of light and you
are there for a mission; when you are there it will be your job to remember
you chose this mission and to make peace with your choice."
And the Soul looks at the beautiful bright sparkling jewel Planet and says "Yes."
"Yes, I want to help because I am being called, I am being pulled and I will have a
mission. And all the other Souls will remind me of it - surely they will."
And the Wise One is silent.
For this courageous Soul has done all he needs to do, he has said Yes three
times, and he speaks of that which he does not understand.
No one but the Soul can experience this particular journey.
The bravery, the courage and the strength required to take this journey is immense.
And so the Planet grows by one more Soul.
The Mission is sacred, but often forgotten in the arrival into the heaviness of the
Planet. And the other Souls on the Planet don't remind in ways that are easily
The clues are all there, though, like apples on a tree, easily picked.
Some of the missions feel very hard, the Souls look for something their heart tells
them is there, but sometimes they can't find it. They look for other Souls to guide them and be with them, to love them and learn that they sometimes just have to be patient.
The remembering is crucial as the Soul awakens then and once the lesson of unconditional acceptance is completed, the pain of resistance is released.
All the Souls are here for a mission. Very individual missions, and when the Souls complete their set of missions they don't have to come back to the Planet.
The mission is simple, but made so difficult because of the forgetting.
The mission is this: To turn from pain and find that which illuminates the Soul
fully and engage with it until there is nothing else but light.
To be unafraid in this engagement.
To light a light so bright that it is a beacon for others and can be seen from the place that the Planet is originally viewed from.
It is then that the Wise One calls the Soul home for the final time.
And the Soul rests.
And so it is.
(c) Deb Wharfe 2012
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A few weeks ago I had a client in front of me for a power session. Talk turned to her 3 children, her youngest specifically, and I experienced this little girl elbowing her way through a crowd, really pushing, and saying 'IT'S MY TURN!'
Nothing weird about that you say?
But At the time I was viewing it - this little girl was not born yet and she was actually fighting to get to earth. I could see her demanding to 'go' from where she was - to here. She had chosen her parents and it was URGENT. I felt her brave, spunky personality come through strongly.
My client had been to me a few times, so I felt reasonably comfortable sharing my vision with her even though it was a little 'outside the square.'
Her mouth almost fell open.
She said 'my daughter has told me this herself within the last week. She said I CHOSE you mummy and it was REALLY important that I came to you right then, I had to - or I was not going to be born.'
What amazing timing, it reinforced to my client that this information was a really important point for her to understand - and her daughter was right - the day Mum decided two babies were enough and she definitely didn't want anymore, she discovered she was pregnant. Her determined wee girl had jumped through a closing window.
This is good news because I've worked with clients that were having trouble conceiving, and when I have gone to 'see' what the issue is, the issue is often a simple one and not always to do with body mechanics.
On investigation I have held conversations with little souls who say "they have a mess in my room" and "they haven't made room for me" and "they are too busy."
And surprised people say 'Yes the baby room is on the front right side of the house and yes, there ARE a load of cardboard boxes in it, and yes - it needs painting. We were going to slow down and tidy up and paint later.'
Energy clearing sometimes needs to happen because some babies can be fussy and prefer not to have scary rooms either.
Some people adopt and then their own baby comes because the environment has adjusted, and some give up, then become pregnant simply because they have relaxed.
So, I'm grateful to receive insights such as 'the elbowing' because it further supports what I've already witnessed.
And it's an encouragement for people. If you are growling at yourself and completely disheartened by the system or the process, please don't give up, have some clearing - you may need to make some small, but valuable changes in order to set up a really welcoming environment.
We are physical, mental, emotional and spiritual beings and all these layers can be worked on.
I know it can be tough, but you don't have to feel like its something that's wrong with you - it might not be.
In the end what happens is the right thing, and it's super important to be nurtured to find peace in that. Sometimes the little ones we are here to care for most, are on the inside of us.
Miracles happen every day, if you want to know more about this work, phone me on 021 726 276.
Trade in your tale of woe for a tale of WOW. Woe has no place in WOW.
Woe drags everything with it and it feels H E A V Y. It can be exacerbated by a whole lot of well meaning people worrying about you.
They are feeding you an energy, but it’s not an empowering, healthy energy, it’s a
‘we believe your life is hard too’ energy. A ‘maybe you can’t make it’ energy.
What you dwell on is what you dwell in and when you have a group of people
dwelling on it with you – it’s powerful, heavy and S T I C K Y like mud.
Practice shaking it off your shoes so you don’t leave it on the carpet everywhere you go, and you can walk freely. Because Woe hurts when you wear it.
It gets tangled round your legs. It hurts when you hold it.
When you re-tell it, you sit in the energy of it. It sometimes turns people
against you when you can’t or don’t let it go.
They often get over it long before you do. And that can make more woe when you don’t understand why you are lonely.
So many people are telling tales of Woe while saying they want the WOW to show up in their lives.
Wow doesn’t show up, WOW is already all around you.
Woe is the Doormat and Wow is the Magic Carpet.
It’s in the sky, the trees, the fragrance of flowers, in the dew on the grass in the mornings, in birdsong. It’s in the smiles on people’s faces.
Wow is the miracle of kindness, upliftment, love and peaceful spaces.
It’s in the transition of caterpillar to chrysalis to butterfly on the wing.
Exhilaration, Joy and Awesome Wonder are in Wow.
Wow is a privilege, not a right, wow is to be given thanks for.
Wow deserves the Welcome Mat.
It’s in friendship, laughter, fresh air, it’s in the sea, in the wind and in the hearts of people the whole world over.
Wow doesn’t have to show up.
Wow is checking it’s watch to see when YOU are going to show up.
Check your Platform. If you are not experiencing Wow at least once a day – you might be on the wrong Platform and you may have been riding the wrong train of thought.
Appreciation Station is the first stop for the Wow Train. Because when you give thanks – the Wow multiplies. If you are experiencing Wow once a day – good on you, see what else you can string together with it.
Hop on your own personal peace train, accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative and... what’s that you’re not supposed to mess with?
Just like the chicken or the egg – we are not exactly sure which comes first. But one thing I know is that just like the old saying ‘seeing is believing’ - believing is also seeing.
If you’re not experiencing Wow - check your eyesight and flip your gratitude switch on.
Wow = The Way of Wonder, and it’s a wonderful way to be.
And if you need a hand shaking out your Doormat – give me a yell. I know a few things about that.
I used to be one.
In Love & Miracles,
(c) Deb Wharfe 2012
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The shoes looked gorgeous in the window.
The idea of wearing the shoes felt delicious.
All her life she had dreamed of having shoes like these, wearing them, how her life
would feel once the shoes were in it. They were perfect.
It was a match made in heaven and finally she had got to a place in her life where
the shoes would be hers.
She tried them on. They rubbed a tiny bit and were a little bit high, but she
thought she could handle it. They were so beautiful, they would stretch and give
- and end up being perfect.
They would get used to her feet.
Everyone said they looked amazing together. She would spend time admiring them. She loved them. Wearing them hurt a bit, but the blisters would stop eventually.
She was in love with the idea of the shoes, but eventually she had to admit her feet
were killing her and there were times when she wanted to wear the shoes so
badly, but she knew that they were too painful. She wore them short distances
instead, and came to understand, that even over those short distances the shoes
did not support her.
Yes the idea of them was good. They were like her drug.
One day the pain became too much and she put them back on the shelf.
She looked at them from time to time.
And sometimes she tried them on. In her mind she dreamed of wearing them - of
dancing in them joyously, being blissfully happy in them. Wishing hard.
Once she wore them to the supermarket, but as soon as she walked in, she knew it was a mistake. She limped home, her heart sore, the disappointment was so great.
They hadn't stretched and given where she had needed them to, they made her teeter
and not feel sure of herself. She realised the little whispers that said ‘No’
were worth listening to, even though they felt like they were trying to steal
They held so much promise and they had so much potential, but the shoes didn't change her life.
Only she could.
She realised that she was looking on the outside for something that she needed to
And that the way she walked was more important than a pair of shoes.
Her feet were what supported her and she should take care where she put them, and
what she put them into.
She invested in putting her best foot forward.
And, walking with heart instead of her mind, she decided to just love where she was
It changed everything. She became love.
The love fitted her better than any pair of shoes, and that love drew new love to
her, new love that honoured her better than trying to squeeze into anything that
didn’t feel right.
Her path was paved with love and bathed in light.
Her feet felt fabulous.
And her heart said 'Yes'.
Deb Wharfe (c) 2013
What if your child is obsessed with something that you don’t approve of?
And so you divert them away from it because you believe it’s a waste of time - or it
doesn’t suit current or traditional thinking - or it doesn’t suit you to help them pursue it. You may feel judged by other parents around you because of their hobby or
But what if that hobby or obsession was the key to their life’s purpose? What if they were a pioneer? What if it takes them 40 years to get back to the suppressed part of themselves and what if they never get back?
Did this happen to you? Are you allowing it to happen to someone else?
I discussed this idea with my husband James this and he made a very valid
point - in New Zealand if that obsession was rugby – a parent might drive that child
all over the country. Many do.
Maybe your child's obsession doesn’t suit you - but what are the broader implications or opportunities for your child in this expanding world? Their job description may not have been invented yet.
Alexander Graham Bell, Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, Steve Jobs and many other people were probably considered to be 'obsessed. I’m sure we are all grateful for that.
And we are all communicating in this forum because of their work. Thank God for obsessed nerds' and people we don’t understand pursuing their dreams to fruition.
When I was a child, there wasn’t a name for the work I do now. So please don’t try to put anyone in a box - we all have time for that later.
Live the fullest expression of who you are and allow others to do the same regardless
of how young or old they are.
Meeting them may turn out to be the biggest privilege of your life.
You are not missing out on anything. There is nothing to see on the other side
of the fence. The grass is not greener there, but if you hanker after it - you
may be fooled into thinking that it is.
Your magic is right where you are
Water your own garden, sing your own songs and count your blessings. This is the surest and fastest way to be surrounded by magic and to
welcome in miracles.
The rainbow does not come to you if you chase it - it is best appreciated from a distance, like all God's work. God is an impressionist painter. Standing close up will have you missing the point. And possibly getting crossed eyes.
Breathe. Still yourself. Stand back.
Have patience with your own process and allow yourself to know the peace in your
If the butterfly lands on your shoulder - you are blessed.
If it lands on the flower in front of you - you are blessed.
If it lands in the neighbours garden - you are blessed.
If there are butterflies on the planet - you are blessed...
You are blessed. It's enough.
Get to know it.
Personal contentment is in this knowing.
And contentment is the lotus that holds happiness, truth, freedom, goodness, love, miracles and so much more.
Wishing you a day of contentment.
In love and miracles,
I hear you having the same problem and being mad at people who are not doing
what you want them to do. They are not treating you how you want to be treated.
You cannot control them. After all - if they tried to control you - you would consider it an insult. Leave them alone.
They are not treating you how you would like to be treated because...
a. You have not given them a guide by treating yourself well.
b. They are resonating to a different energy from the one your body/field is trying to move into.
It hurts because you are holding a finite vision of yourself.
It hurts because within it there is an absence of love.
One train of thought says people do 'mean things' to themselves and each other because they don't understand what 'honouring' is and they have forgotten who they are. Another train of thought says 'Every moment is perfect.'
In the Bible it says Adam went to sleep and nowhere does it say he woke up.
I find that interesting.
You must awaken in this body in order to make peace with what you feel are recurring 'problems.' Perfect learning is in each 'problem', perfect opportunities, perfect growth, strength, realignment, and so much more.
Be ok with the lesson and it will work for you.
Hold resistance and this resistance will cause you pain. You will have the lesson
again if you refuse to understand it.
Every person on this planet has free will, and many are exercising it. You included. You have the choice to walk clear of painful situations and to also not turn you attention to pain.
Yet you wish to punish yourself by doing this.
It only needs investigating if you do not wish for peace.
Peace is with you when you choose to illuminate its presence.
Love is with you when you choose to illuminate its presence.
Limitless power is with you when you choose to acknowledge its presence.
Limitless power is you.
You are not broken. You merely need to step fully into your own shoes.
And know you are dearly, divinely, always loved.
If you were your own True Love, how delighted you would be with your own quirkiness.
How beautiful you would find your curves, how courageous your scars and your marks left by life's wounding and how very magnificent the well earned stripes of your
stretch marks would look.
How gentle and patient you would be with yourSelf if something felt sad.
How carefully you would choose your words.
You would find yourSelf so funny, so beautiful, so kind and so caring. You would be
awed with what a great person you are, even after all the challenges you have
had. You would tell yourSelf not to be hard on yourself; that you always did the
best could, that you are worth the very best life has to offer, and you would
make sure you gave precious time to yourSelf.
You would surround yourSelf with good people and good ideas.
You would find yourSelf lovely little things to do, you’d light yourself a candle,
you would take yourSelf constantly out on dates, fill your life with little
kindnesses and you would give yourSelf the best experience ever of love,
encouragement and delight.
You would adore yourSelf and want to hear what your heart has to say.
You would dream of the best things you could do, the best places you could go, and
you would laugh about some of the dreams. And some would enter your heart.
You’d be ever so grateful for the miracle of you.
And if you did that? You would be filled with light, with love, with encouragement, with
You would be free to be the You that You really are, cherished, honoured and loved.
You would be the One you can lean on, the One you trust, the One you seek
out. The One you are ‘looking for’ would be right on the end of your nose.
The other end, not the one we traditionally mean.
When you are that One, what often happens, is your resultant satisfied, joyous heartsong of overflowing love that resonates out into the Universe calls with the right harmony for a resonant heart to hear it.
In order to find this, find yourSelf. You are your own most precious gift.
Pour all that love you are waiting to give someone into yourSelf, step into your own awesome sunshine and see the truth of your delicious magnificence one yummy drop at a time.
I’d like that.
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