All this reaching for happiness stuff sometimes stretches your nerves out all twangy and makes your fingernails a bit thin and crumbly.
Do it if you wish, some days, and on others - try instead sitting with what you have and making the best of it.
That worked for hundreds of years before the self help movement showed up.
The songs says 'some days are diamonds, some days are gold, sometimes the hard times, won't leave us alone.' And it can seem like that. But sure enough things shift. They shift a hell of a lot faster if you recognise that life has it's ups and downs. It's your choice to have a healthy attitude about the ups and downs, but happy most of the time comes with acceptance that you can't control everything, and a big, deep breath in, and a big whoosh deep breath out.
You don't 'have' to be happy.
Just be. Hang out with life instead. Take the pressure off.
You are who you are and the day - it just is what it is. Every single day has seasoning - a bit of happy, a bit of this, a bit of that. Life is like the spice drawer.
Happy can show up again when you've given yourself a big old break from the grind. Reaching for happy can be hard work.
Bugger off and do something nice instead. Get out of your head. Happy isn't there.
the little things that make your heart sing, are really important, go with what feels good to your gut, listen to great music and spend time with the trees, grass and sky.
Ranty Pants Series: Tending your own flowers.
It can be very discouraging to look over the fence and see what the 'other' person is doing. Things can get a bit pear shaped if your nose gets out of joint because they appear to be:
a. growing bigger flowers
b. having more fun than you
c. further along or 'doing better' than you
d. you feel you are superior and they are 'doing it wrong'
What is happening to your garden while you are straining your neck over the wall?
Your energy is being diluted. Your mission is being ignored. Your flowers are wilting. In some circumstances, the wind can go out of your sails while you go into resentful mode.
Now of course, you have something to learn from resentment, and I always find getting that lesson sorted fast is really, really good.
Because you are devaluing your own goods, gifts and opportunities while the other garden is being paid attention to. And you DO have amazing gifts.
If you can examine that resentment and realise that it is your teacher, you will discover the person who looks more successful, may be calm on the surface and is paddling like hell under the water.
They ARE earning their rewards, and people sometimes work very hard to make things look effortless for a while before they break though and start flourishing . Perhaps you could approach them in a loving way and ask them how they do it.
The thing to consider is this - their business is not your business, unless you are honouring it and showing it grace. You don't get points by putting it down, and your message can become a bit garbled - and you can lose your best focus, love energy - while you hold resentment.
Get back into grace and then grace is all around you.
Weed your garden, chuck out the resentful thoughts, and then water, give love and your own flowers WILL grow.
And sooner, rather than later, you will have more seeds to sprinkle.
I am sooo excited.
Following a 'You Can Do IT!' prompt from one of my lovely clients, I am listening.
I looked at the blocks I had around publishing my book and realised to start with, I was worried, wanted to do something on a small scale.
I'm a tactile person and I love beauty and grace and, well, just the way things 'feel.'
It has to feel right. Soooo I am embarking, (could even be barking mad) on a project. I am hand making each book.
It's in the process stage at present, I have orders for seven now.
It is a compilation of my writing, both private and previously published, a smattering of lovely DeLightScopes, some of my colour healing drawings and a reminder of our divinity. It will be infused with healing and light, and each one will be dedicated to the person it has been created for. Just 8 x 8 = 64 pages - this equals 1 and that is a fresh energy, new starts, leadership and putting your foot forward. It's a B5 size and resembles a journal. (The pictured book is an inspiration for it.) I did tell someone that I might put spare pages in, but they were horrified thinking about writing in it!
I am quite sure the Angels will bring you lots of feathers for it.
As it will be a little like having a session with me, (and because of the time and materials it takes to make) the price is the same as a one hour session. So it's $100. It is designed to bring you strength, nurturing, love and a beautiful pure energy space to rest with, like the paper that I give out after readings, you can hold it, and feel the energy.
I feel blessed that now is the right time to bring it all through.
To order, please contact me by email here.
Indigo - a stunning, concentrated and powerful colour that can heal, stimulate dreams, aid psychic awakening, raise concentration - may help memory, eyesight, reduce bleeding, release tension, and release headaches. It is also used to help the sinuses and it certainly helps meditation.
Indigo conjures up the night sky, mysticism, magic and moonlight.
If you are out of balance with indigo, life may be spent too much in the mind, consorting with ‘what ifs?’ sleeplessness, mind chatter, distraction, headaches, eye trouble, sinus problems, and even some ear problems. Perhaps your veins could also be affected.
It is the colour that represents the brow chakra, (also known as the ‘third eye’ or ajna chakra) which is strongly associated with the Pineal Gland (charged with producing the serotonin derivative melatonin – a hormone that - amongst other things - regulates/affects sleep patterns.)
The Brow Chakra has a correspondence to age 36 – 42, the age when 'what about me?' and 'what's this all about anyway?' often shows up - and of course - the bigger question 'WHO AM I?'
French philosopher Rene Descartes who named the Pineal Gland 'The Seat of the Soul', spent his life studying that very thing and is responsible for a very popular quote 'I think, therefore I am.' translated from 'Cogito Ergo Sum'.
I prefer to look at it as 'I am the sum of my thoughts.' For a time we forget ourselves, we are somebody's child, brother, sister, mother, father, husband or wife, and sometimes we are our own nobody - but around 36 - 42, if we haven't already - we somehow awaken.
What we dwell on, IS what we dwell in, it was true in Rene's lifetime (1596 - 1650) and it is true now.
How do we have a healthy pineal gland? Keep up the indigo and limit your fluoride exposure - studies indicate that fluoride plays a very large part in the calcification of the pineal gland – so avoiding fluoride toothpaste and fluoridated water, and eating blueberries could be the best things you could do. Blueberries come from a family of plants called Vaccinium.
Doesn't that sound like a vaccine to you? Could they really be a natural medicine, or an antidote to what ails us?? Yes they could.
Blueberries contain a chemical called anthocyanin – which gives blueberries their COLOUR! and this chemical appears to be the one that protects neurons in the brain. Anthocyanin* promotes sharper vision, concentration, is anti inflammatory (a vasoconstrictor) and antioxidant. It’s beneficial for heart disease, and also is said to slow or stop internal bleeding. Knocking out some of the oxidative stresses associated with aging – partly by enriching and cleaning the blood. If you think about it – inflammation is going to make blood vessels swell, imagine all those tiny vessels behind your eyes and in your sinuses – it stands to reason that if they are swollen, breathing could be affected, sight may be affected, and concentration would be reduced. So introducing a vasoconstrictor into the diet - such as blueberries, is very likely to create a benefit.
If you, like me, have looked at blueberries and wondered why on earth they are so expensive – after all, they really are only food – think again. They most definitely are medicine – their lovely little fat indigo tummies bathe you in colour and with their amazing colour chemical medicinal properties – they could help your wellness significantly!!
AND you can grow them at home quite easily in large containers.
*While researching this article I discovered that blueberries, bilberries, cranberries, huckleberries and black raspberries are ALL part of the vaccinium family and all have very similar properties. Leading plant expert Michael Moore says (of huckleberries) “some folks with allergies and the tendency for skin hyperactivity may find that the tea decreases their inflammatory responses”. Source - Medicinal Plants of the Pacific West
(I expect that this would be to do with settling the capillary action/reaction that creates an itch or 'explosion' on the surface of the skin.)
Colour has been largely overlooked as a sort of fringe or alternative study, but now greater store is being set by the psychological effects it has on the human body.
Jay Neitz, Professor of Opthalmology and colour researcher from the University of Washington says:
"The cells that get excited by orange light and calmed by blue light don’t just connect to our circadian pacemaker; they also go to areas of the brain that control things like mood. This partially explains things like seasonal depression, but also helps make sense of our intuitive feelings that blues are calming and reds are energising."
'Intuitive feelings?' - isn't that good to hear coming from a scientist?
Blue and red are on the opposite ends of the spectrum which means if we have too much stimulation, too much GRRR and too much red, we could have issues with inflammation.
We all know an ‘inflammatory situation’ – is an angry one that could blow up in our faces.
So read red, sometimes, as the out of balance angry colour/emotion that it can be – do a body check and ask honestly ‘am I a bit too angry at present?’ If you are and you've been 'seeing a lot of red' lately, try bringing in some indigo (just ask for it, or use fabric - a tee shirt or scarf) to balance, or even trade it altogether for some gentler pinks.
Life needs to slow down, chill out and be restful, not restless. If you are restless, you could try an indigo duvet, to bring in the peace of the night sky, calming and tranquil.
Ancient Indigo was a crystal talisman - Lapis Lazuli available from blues, through indigo to purple) was traditionally worn by royalty to denote power, wealth, wisdom - it was even powdered for medicines (funnily enough, one of them was for the eyes) and potions, and it was used in ancient times to ward off evil.
It contains gold pyrite within, so was considered to be a powerful 'gateway to heaven.' and it was powdered and mixed with a medium for use as a deep blue colorant in paints, dyes and porcelain.
We must remember no chakra colour is more important than the next, but we need to feed our depleted colours. Being healthy in our indigo helps with clarity and order in our thoughts and in our lives.
Traditional Indigo dye from the indigo plant, was unfortunately taken right out of balance when it's beautiful colour was so highly sought after that a slave trade was created to keep up with demand. Now commercial indigo is created, rather than grown, and the trade has mellowed into something a little more palatable. The indigo plant as an Eastern herbal medicine was used to induce purging, and it has never been taken to in the West, studies cite that it was too harsh and so it was crossed off the list forthwith. I believe it's here for great things, and possibly for the mind, but those things are undiscovered as yet.
I’ve so loved looking at my own feelings about indigo and sharing some of this wisdom with you. For more information on detoxing your pineal gland – or for where to get some yummy Lapis Lazuli – message me below.
Note: The information contained in my writing is not a substitute for, or intended to be, a medical diagnosis. It is intended to inform, create awareness, pass on philosophy, studies, open possibility, and enhance wellness. My teaching and my work, partners with allopathic medicine. As always see a Doctor if you require a Doctor. There is great benefit in partnering traditional and alternative medicine.
All things in moderation.
All her life she had been hiding inside herself and nobody knew.
All her life she had wondered why the people around her that said they were her family, seemed foreign to her sometimes. People who were meant to be her teachers didn't understand her.
She felt fear and lack most of the time, unless she escaped. She escaped best to the grass and the clouds and the trees and the sky. She escaped to the whisper, the silence, the roar, the bounty and the inexorability of nature. Nature knew her best. Nature was her home.
In nature, she wished for her wings to grow back and to lift her away from this place.
Sometimes she even wished for someone to steal her.
Then she grew up. At 37 years old she discovered that people had been stealing her all her life, and she had been letting them. She had no boundaries, and gave herself away, trying to please people and make the pain stop. It didn't stop.
In her confusion she had thrown away good things and kept others that hurt. She tried to make amends. She did things for people, she gave away things, she gave away money. She waited and waited for a friend, or for a partner to see that she was real and worthy.
It didn't happen. People she loved left her, and took things. And took her for granted. Her story was awful.
Until the day she started to say No.
No built a small boundary inside her first. No protected her from further pleasing of the others.
No helped her to please herself.
All this time she thought life was about giving and she realised she had starved herself by giving in the wrong order. She said No again and again and took her time doing things for herself.
The others were angry. They accused her of being selfish.
And she was. She withdrew the energy streams she had been sending out everywhere and she sent them into her heart where they belonged.
The others raged. She had pulled out their power lines, their plugs and hooks. It hurt and almost drained her of courage.
She wavered a little, feeling bad for them, but listened to her heart and realised if she did not serve herself, they were going to suck her dry of all her goodness and she needed to survive. She no longer felt responsible for their happiness. Her shoulders grew lighter. Her heart grew full.
She was self-ish. There was no one left. But she was free.
It was incredibly liberating.
And then the flow started. At first it was a trickle, little by little the people came, seeing she valued her Self, they acknowledged and responded to her value. She invested in herself by blessing the ones who were present before and who taught her to value herself, and the ones who understood came back.
She kept moving forward into an ever increasing stream of new people, new adventures and wonder.
The flow of people coming to her became a deluge and she realised she was not only worthy - she had a purpose and the purpose was to free the others.
She discovered that all the self doubting in the world was in fact, real selfishness because it caused light to be dim, and only held others back from their healing and growth.
She finally understood, she was birthed in love. No matter where she sprang from, how life shaped her, she chose to be here. She was not what had been 'done to her', she was an immaculate idea, divine in her inception, and so she shed the tight constraining bonds of the chrysalis that was her story, grew her wings and claimed the parts of herself that frightened others. She was creative, resourceful, wild, magical and amazing, no longer held back by thoughts of not-good-enough.
She had come to the planet to be a guide, a way shower, finally she knew she was a lighthouse for others, to alert them, help them to safety and to hold a space for them to grow and blossom through their storms.
She accepted her mission and opening her arms as widely as they could go, she laughed and embraced it with all her heart, exultant in the recognition that her souls greatest journey was also her homecoming.
It wasn't meant to be a walk in the park. Lighthouses are made of strong stuff.
She stepped up. And stood. Claimed her ground as solid rock and shone.
And guide she did.
My clients often have great difficulty transferring the essence of my work into words.
It took me a while too.
Why? Because I often work without touching them, so it seems like magic - which most people think is not real - and people often start running when you say the words 'miracle healer'. Other people can see the results, but as they don't have a reference point for magic being real - they need to be inspired by circumstance, or courageous enough to take that leap of faith.
I work in a high trust environment. Sometimes clients just come because they have been told to. The most common phrase I hear them say is 'my friend told me I just needed to come'.
In my former life as a total sceptic who thought people were 'woo woo' and talking through a hole in their hats…. I also ran a mile when someone told me they had got 'in touch with their Indian Guide.'
'Mystical B.S.' I thought to myself. I did! and I also thought evangelists were basically vultures who preyed on, rather than prayed for people.
I didn't realise the steady stream of friends who came and told me all their problems, then left feeling better, were basically getting a healing from me. (I never told them my problems.)
I didn't realise that things I said were going to happen, did happen. I didn't realise I was right (until later) when I said 'that guy cheats on his wife' - I just knew that stuff.
I also had deja vu moments - doesn't everyone? and now and then I had dreams that happened (apparently that happens to many people too).
I completely forgot about my childhood visions because of a terrible illness that created memory loss. And I lived fairly harmoniously with the voices in my head, thinking, like most people do, that they were just thoughts.
I called myself 'normal'.
Now - I don't label anything. I like to understand why and see results.
Working with echo location gives me both.
Dolphins use echo location - a series of clicks and beeps to find things, and so do blind people when they tap their canes.
Through my BioSonar work, I create a Soundscape for a person, a place or situation, and then work with an idea or essence - through past present or future - transferring release, freedom and restorative, regenerative, healing energies within that Soundscape.
It brings some fairly amazing healing, dissolving hurts, pain and imbalance from the physical, mental, spiritual or emotional bodies.
It's also good for pre-op and post-op, sports injuries, even old pain you thought you just had to bear.
It is absolutely fantastic in helping relationships. If there has been tough stuff - but there is love that needs dusting off and bringing to light - BioSonar does that beautifully.
For more information on how BioSonar can help you (or a friend) please share this post, or please contact me via text, phone or the button below.
I worked in a weight loss centre in the UK for a while.
NutriSystem was new in the UK and had come from the US. (Here in NZ we don't know NutriSystem so well, but we are familiar with Jenny Craig, who worked for NutriSystem, before she started her own centres.) While I was there, I met a guy who airbrushed model shots for magazines.
He told me not to bother trying to recreate what I could see in magazines, because it wasn't real women we were looking at. He had morphed out more scars, acne, birthmarks, moles, dimples and so called 'fat' than he cared to remember, and drawn in more than a few sets of hip bones. He invited me to see the photos of the real women's Before Shots, and I didn't go, but thinking back now, I can see how profound such a viewing would have been. They were beautiful women, but not perfect.
Click Here to see why this kind of look is often impossible to recreate, because the model wouldn't even recognise herself. Take a look at what intensive editing can do for your figure.
Want longer legs? Here's how you 'can' have them in a moment.
No actual 'perfect genes' required. No pressure - and no reality either.
How do you think this model feels about her own perfectly lovely body after she sees this shot in a magazine?
Feeling amazing is a precursor to looking amazing.
Don't go on a D I E T, rearrange those letters and go on an E D I T.
Edit your lifestyle for real, work on your inner worth, your self talk, your values, take the pressure off, let go of your burdens, your past, edit what you dwell on and what you dwell in, edit your expression
- and S M I L E.
- prev post freckles are so magical here
I started the day with Drew Dudley. Which sounds weird, but it brought on a day of miracles. And I'm ending it with this...
We are not here to be harsh on each other. I believe we are here to learn as much as possible about each other. To tell stories and keep our humanity alive. To love people that we don't even know. To share kindness and realise, recognise the miracles that surround us every day.
I believe we are here to stand up for what resonates with us. And to give each other grace, encouragement and a safe, peaceful place to rest.
We don't all get it right all the time - but what is right? What is wrong? What is perfect? Who are we to say? And who are we to judge.
What's right for me might not be right for you.
I know that I wish each and every one of you well.
And that while I have a conscious breath in my body I will continue to do so in the hope that my loves reaches around the world and has a positive effect every day.
One of my first miracles today was Drew - tweeting me and telling me he liked my phrase 'biffing people out of my ballpark' and that he is going to use it in his leadership programs that he runs in Canada.
He is an incredible speaker and educator on leadership, as well as a dedicated humanitarian.
I am super chuffed that my words will go to people on the other side of the world. Even more fabulous is that they are strong words, designed to create inner strength, through standing up for something you personally resonate with.
I am ok with biffing people out of my ball park. And so, I hope are you. We don't have to be perfect, but life is easier if we resonate with the people around us. We have a choice to do so, in fact, for most of us, it's our right. Challenges are good too, but there are ways to make sure they are in line with necessary growth. Banging your head against a brick wall, doesn't make it less brick, it only brings concussion.
Sometimes you need to find (or even create) a door.
Anyway. Sometimes it's just about loving yourself.
I am rounding out the night with this beautiful song: Love is easy.
Apart from anything else - it's our wedding song, so totally perfect for everyone.
Dance. Sing. EnJOY.
But most of all, love.
You're beautiful. *Don't argue with me about this tonight. I have my ranty pants on.
I have just spent the morning watching a BBC Doco entitled 'Don't Grow Old.'
I loved it. It presented the work of several scientists, I agreed with some and not with others, but they all showed me some really important things.
Most important was that a strong attitude created a strong life and there was a snippet on Dr Ellen Langer's study from 1979 where she put several 'elderly' men back in time, in a house that was set in 1959, furnished with all the appropriate 1959 props - even newspapers, and caring for themselves. Some of them had current caregivers that they were not allowed to take with them into the test. It was just for a week, but at the end of the week, the results were really rather amazing.
For a couple of days, predictably, they grumbled a bit, but they had to look after themselves, so they did.
Tenacity is a great healer. The results showed some put on weight. Their brains worked better, they tested as moving faster, standing taller, and one threw away his walking stick. In 1979, these people lived as though they were 20 years younger and they became more well as a result.
My opinion. The energy of ageing was negated by introducing the energy of tenacity and youth.
If you have to do it you will.
Will is very, very important and very very underrated, not to mention widely misused.
You can learn how to use yours to bring wellness, feel younger, feel fitter, there are many ways in which people have used their will to beat the odds.
Those layers of life that make you feel less than great can be shifted.
What are you using your will for?
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Do you resonate with this?
You've dragged yourself to work, aching and knowing that you really shouldn't be there, but you are scraping through hoping you'll make it to the weekend.
It's only Wednesday and everyone is looking at you as if you are a leper.
You have 'the guilts' and are being eyeballed as a risk to everyone's health, while simultaneously cursed, because nobody wants you to take time off.
You are wishing you were at home in bed anyway.
You somehow find a hidden reserve of energy and make it through the afternoon, go home, and in the morning you just can't do it. Your worry about the cost of a day off, of healthcare, what other people think about you spreading bugs and being a general inconvenience has melded with your feeling like crap and something has tipped the balance on your scales.
You decide not to go into the office today.
You don't really like taking pills, but if you have to, you will take them, and you're not getting any better, so you go to the Doctor - because you can't take time off work without a medical certificate. Sitting in the waiting room, you pray that other peoples bugs don't jump on you and so you shallow breathe and cringe slightly.
You watch, privately shuddering as small, slime encrusted children share their slime with toys and books, and you wonder to yourself about how potentially hazardous it is to collate a whole lot of buggy people in one space.
The Doctor is running late. More buggy people arrive. You succumb to the allure of the 2 year old House & Garden - to discover the recipe of your dreams in its pages.
Your morals say no to ripping out the page - and the recipe is a long one. You are halfway through frantically scribbling when the Doctor calls your name.
In his office you breathe again, mentally testing yourself on his eye chart, and wondering how tall you are now, while you look at the measuring tape on his wall.
He takes one look at you and says "You're not well." This is not news to you.
(Doctors are amazing people, and they work brilliantly with body mechanics and clues. Thankfully some very fabulous ones are getting into natural therapies and so can offer a range of services - however - I am not talking about them - this is just an experience.)
He is not sure what it is. You and your body presented him with clues, and the clues seem to indicate it could be a virus. However, just in case it's something he can kill - he gives you a prescription for antibiotics and your 'get out of jail free' card - the You Are Medically Unfit for Work certificate.
Off to the chemist, you wait again, and the total sum of your trip is around $90 - $100.
You go home and eye the antibiotics suspiciously. They appear to be baiting you and they just feel like chemicals and giving in. Thinking that you normally get well anyway in about 3 days, you put them on top of the fridge. With the other old unopened antibiotics. Somewhere you read about them killing good bacteria anyway.
You are definitely off to bed, but first you have a glass of water because you are dehydrated from all the running round, you put on a load of washing, clean some windows, wash the kitchen floor and catch up on a few jobs that you haven't done around the house.
Later you feel much better. Even though you didn't take the tablets.
You moved out of work energy - your body was telling you to leave and you listened.
You moved into the energy of 'I am now seeking wellness' - the Doctors Clinic - and it was crucial, because the Doctor gave you a few minutes of his time, checked you out, reassured you slightly and gave you permission to be off work. (the recipe is completely gone from your memory)
You went to the Pharmacy even though you don't really like taking medication, because you are a person who follows through with things, and you still do believe medicine has some kind of role to play. (in some cases and for some people, it does)
Your body said no to the medication (I CAN DO IT was kicking in) and that's why (despite that nagging feeling your mother would growl) it's on the fridge. Your teaspoon of stubbornness (that will stop you from telling your mother you're sick) that busted through and said 'NO' has helped you to flip some kind of hidden switch.
You achieved something that, while it was just getting housework out of the way, was actually a 'weight off your shoulders' too. You feel lighter and a bit fresher, and also, in a small way, successful. You moved energy in your house.
You go to bed, but don't feel as sick as you did. In the morning you feel much better, better than you did when you were dragging yourself to work, but you stay home - just so you can have a day off that actually means something - because you have a certificate. (You can clean out the bowl on top of the fridge another day.)
Consider this: All the things you did that made you feel better - were things you were doing just for you.
What if you just gave yourself permission to take time, enjoying the nurturing energy of a natural therapy?
Natural Therapy tends to boost you and shorten healing time. That $90 - $100 is a great investment in a session of clearing, healing, moving stuck energy, maybe even including house and office clearing too.
Your session runs to the clock. You enter a peaceful 'bug free' haven (or even stay home, saving gas and travel time and have this healing via Skype) and as the energy is cleared round you, you are lifted into a space of freshness.
Your equilibrium is restored. You have a whole hour all to yourself. No antibiotics, just pure energy boosting, undivided attention that is all about, and all for you and your wellness.
Nurture time is GOOD. You feel more like You when you are finished/leave.
Enhancing wellness helps removes the need to heal unwellness.
Regular energy work helps you be more connected to the way your body feels, functions and how it speaks to you. Science actually says the body - despite the fact that you can push on it and it appears to be solid - is an energetic instrument. So this is why time and time again, physical illness is removed in ways that seem impossible, with energy.
And because it's just energy, it works on body, mind and spirit - not just the mechanics.
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Clearing of stuck energy in home and office
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Family healing, clearing the air and basically the removal of (and freeing up of energy around) anything that is weighing you down.
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Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach