Ranty Pants Series: Tending your own flowers.
It can be very discouraging to look over the fence and see what the 'other' person is doing. Things can get a bit pear shaped if your nose gets out of joint because they appear to be:
a. growing bigger flowers
b. having more fun than you
c. further along or 'doing better' than you
d. you feel you are superior and they are 'doing it wrong'
What is happening to your garden while you are straining your neck over the wall?
Your energy is being diluted. Your mission is being ignored. Your flowers are wilting. In some circumstances, the wind can go out of your sails while you go into resentful mode.
Now of course, you have something to learn from resentment, and I always find getting that lesson sorted fast is really, really good.
Because you are devaluing your own goods, gifts and opportunities while the other garden is being paid attention to. And you DO have amazing gifts.
If you can examine that resentment and realise that it is your teacher, you will discover the person who looks more successful, may be calm on the surface and is paddling like hell under the water.
They ARE earning their rewards, and people sometimes work very hard to make things look effortless for a while before they break though and start flourishing . Perhaps you could approach them in a loving way and ask them how they do it.
The thing to consider is this - their business is not your business, unless you are honouring it and showing it grace. You don't get points by putting it down, and your message can become a bit garbled - and you can lose your best focus, love energy - while you hold resentment.
Get back into grace and then grace is all around you.
Weed your garden, chuck out the resentful thoughts, and then water, give love and your own flowers WILL grow.
And sooner, rather than later, you will have more seeds to sprinkle.
I am sooo excited.
Following a 'You Can Do IT!' prompt from one of my lovely clients, I am listening.
I looked at the blocks I had around publishing my book and realised to start with, I was worried, wanted to do something on a small scale.
I'm a tactile person and I love beauty and grace and, well, just the way things 'feel.'
It has to feel right. Soooo I am embarking, (could even be barking mad) on a project. I am hand making each book.
It's in the process stage at present, I have orders for seven now.
It is a compilation of my writing, both private and previously published, a smattering of lovely DeLightScopes, some of my colour healing drawings and a reminder of our divinity. It will be infused with healing and light, and each one will be dedicated to the person it has been created for. Just 8 x 8 = 64 pages - this equals 1 and that is a fresh energy, new starts, leadership and putting your foot forward. It's a B5 size and resembles a journal. (The pictured book is an inspiration for it.) I did tell someone that I might put spare pages in, but they were horrified thinking about writing in it!
I am quite sure the Angels will bring you lots of feathers for it.
As it will be a little like having a session with me, (and because of the time and materials it takes to make) the price is the same as a one hour session. So it's $100. It is designed to bring you strength, nurturing, love and a beautiful pure energy space to rest with, like the paper that I give out after readings, you can hold it, and feel the energy.
I feel blessed that now is the right time to bring it all through.
To order, please contact me by email here.
My Word of the day... is JOY, JOY, JOY!!!
What joyous thing are you up to today?
Or what joyous thing would you so love to do?
And are you planning to make that thing happen?
Sometimes you have to paint your own sunshine or your own stars in the sky...
Do you have a word or an attitude for the day that helps you to experience or create what you want?
I'm wishing you a day of radical gorgeousness, unexpected delights, miracles (of course) and joyous moments sprinkled throughout.
In this moment, you have an opportunity to choose whether you will continue to worry, or whether you will simply park a worry to one side.
In this moment, free of worry, you now have an opportunity to send a little love energy to yourself.
In this moment of love energy, you now have an opportunity to say a silent thank you for the beautiful people and experiences and the love that surrounds you.
In this moment of gratitude, you may also give thanks for the forthcoming solution to your worry.
This is a constructive way to invest your energy.
In this moment of construction and openness, miracles are not only possible, they are very likely.
Too often we fall back into what we know because we are comfortable. Even when it hurts.
It could be an abusive relationship – with someone or one with ourselves.
Any relationship that cuts us, wounds us or makes us feel hurt in any way, is one that invites us – over and over to grow. Taking up the invitation can feel like drinking poison, because taking up the invitation means we step into an unknown world. A world where we have no reference points.
A world where we have to feel as we go. A world where sometimes, when we get a knock or a bump it sends us scurrying back to what we know – saying “see? I told you this was impossible!”
Taking up the invitation can mean we have to have faith or trust in something bigger than ourselves, something that sounds like the God Department – a place where we have asked before but been dissatisfied by the answers we got, or by what we received. So we go on falsely believing sometimes that there is nothing special about us, never realising that it takes more strength to sit in our pain and hard spaces, and it takes more out of us to do so – mad that God just doesn’t fix everything – so he/she/it can’t be real, not realising that we are being given an invitation by grace to push through that last barrier and be truly free to fly.
When we are the perpetrator of this abusive relationship – when our self talk is all about how we have done nothing right, haven’t made it yet, or haven’t got what other people measure success by, we are locked in a battle of dark versus light. Even though we know the darkness is painful, it’s easier to hide from the blinding rays of the sun and the truth – that we are powerful beyond measure – that the world is waiting for us to show up – when we show up our hearts deepest desires will show up and that we are glorious in our bright plumage. Instead we retreat, curled in the shade and lick our wounds.
When we are locked in this space of an abusive relationship with another – despite all appearances – we are still the perpetrator, time after time allowing our fingers to be burned by the same fire, usually with a lack of self belief holding us hostage. We would teach our children to avoid a fire – and they would learn pretty fast too, never to put their fingers there again – but then they don’t tend to have that lack of self belief until they have accepted it or learned it from another person. As we sometimes did.
We so often judge. It’s safer to judge others from our position of pain, vibrating in the frequency of wounding. So we filter them through our visioning system until we have decided we are justified in our self abuse and wounding because the world is a bad place – it doesn’t always give us what we want. Sometimes though it gives us what we need and we are too afraid to take it. When we come out into the sunlight, the bright light that stings our eyes tells us that we were right in hiding, that we should have continued to protect ourselves – here after all is another wound… but sometimes the new wound is there to help us build our immunity, and if we don’t count our overcoming obstacles and struggles as survival, or as a badge of honour – if we look at our past experiences and view them as mistakes, without recognising that they have their gifts, if we choose to ignore our goodness, our love at the heart of ourselves and our nurturing, caring nature and gifts, then we will never see that we glow with our own magical pulsing light.
Though sometimes dim – we really do glow. If we didn’t have it we would never be able to see our way in the darkness. And even when it feels like the darkness is caving in on us – we are still light.
For we are light beings. This is not just new age spiritual terminology – it’s a truth. And the way to know this is to gently press your fingers on your closed eyelids and hold them there.
You are illuminated from within by your truth. I told you so. And now you have done it.
What does it mean? It means you cannot really hide from the light. No matter what you carry within you, there is nowhere to go. You can only hide from your own greatness, but it’s there all the same.
If you really took a moment to see how far you had come on your journey – how many steps you had taken through adversity, how many people love you dearly – known and unknown, and how valued and dreamed of you were before you arrived here – no matter what happened after you got here – or indeed who brought you into this world, if only you remembered that you chose these people, this journey and all the wonderful gifts you are receiving, you would shed tears of joy at your own homecoming. You would know that the darkness cannot fool anyone for long. You would know that when you take light into a dark room it brightens, and when you take dark into a light room it remains light. Why? Because the light is the truth that always remains. And the light is God or Source energy. Sometimes you want to look away from the light, but the light never ever forsakes you. It is your ever-present miracle. It is where you came from and where you return to.
This is a time of great change, and we can no longer take our illusions with us and some light workers are finding it incredibly difficult to step into their power at present.
Know this, the difficulty you are having is a reflection of how powerful you will become once you do so. Your best ally in this growth is to release the temptation you have to berate yourself for not being what you feel you should be. You are perfect in your perceived imperfection. The imperfection is an illusion of ego, a safety net in order to stop you from taking responsibility and therefore brings you a false sense of safety within the trap. Once you understand the trap is there to stop you from having your beautiful life – a life that really could be more than you dreamed of, you can release the trap – for you hold the key. If it brings you pain and you truly don’t want the pain, create a program of kindness to set yourself free. The key is and has always been kindness.
Kindness bridges gaps, transcends language barriers and emotional distress. Kindness to yourself is the springboard to honouring and self love. And self love is where it’s at.
When you love yourself you guide the way for others to love you too.
When you can be unconditional you pave the way for miracles and wild creational power.
So start with gentleness. And no matter who it is that is in your world creating the opportunities for you to have resistance or pain, start with something so simple as a mantra to send the self talk into its own burial ground. Because that IS where it belongs.
Perhaps you might start with something like this…
I am enough. Or these….. I will do what I can do today. I am the light of the world. I am a part of creation. I am one with the mind that thought me up. I am loved, loving, lovable - I am love, you are love, we are love. Or perhaps, really, you know what would be best, maybe you can create words that resonate. Maybe it just feels like more hard work – but the rewards are huge. So do stick at it. And remember something else… we are here to experience many things - one of them is great joy, sometimes it can be balanced with great sadness, but just like the rainbow follows the rain – all conditions are temporary. And what you dwell on, is ultimately what you dwell in – so focus on that which you would like to bring forth from yourself.
I’d recommend checking out your light behind your eyelids first. And hey – if you are wearing contacts… do yourself a favour and take them out first - ok?
Be in charge of your world today.
Because the rain is only temporary and you don’t want to miss your rainbow.
(c) Deb Wharfe 2012
Rose Quartz is gentle and beneficial for adults and children. A beautiful healer and comfort stone, promoting relaxation and all kinds of wellness, it's also said to be beneficial for people with Parkinsons and Alzheimers.
Its colour can range from almost white to a deep rose pink, it may fade if left in the sun. It symbolises, love, peace, comfort and relaxation and is often sourced from Brazil.
I have some rose quartz here for sale; and a circle of rose quartz and other love healing stones you can stand in to experience a full body buzz of rose quartz healing.
You may also choose to have a crystal healing with the love stones to bring wellness or assist with transitioning through grief.
A word from the wise…
'Always listen to yourself. It's better to be wrong than simply follow convention.
If you are wrong, no matter, you will have learned something and you will grow stronger. If you are right, you will have taken another step toward a more fulfilling life. '
- Bryce Courtenay 1933 - 2012
You are treasure. I've told you before and sometimes you've soaked it up and said "Yes!" Other times, you've given me that look. The one that says "No way, I'm broken, I'm not that thing you think you see, I am believing that I am nothing much at all." But nothing could be further from the truth. Sure there are days when we are resistant, but we have to check ourselves sometimes, and remember that resistance blocks us. In all directions. Flow is really important and we can't flow that well if we have dammed up our stream with rocks.
You're perfect as you are, it just takes a moment sometimes for us to realise this and embrace it, and when life feels tough - now and then, a little nudge is all we need to come back online.
Bryce Courtenay is probably writing away somewhere in the stars. I like to think he is helping me.
I've certainly learned from him and when I read this beautiful piece of writing (below), I think we share similarities of vision. He, more than any other writer, opened my eyes to african stars, to the power of one, to hopes, dreams and far away places.
When I see his books, I scoop them up. At a school fair I discovered 'A Recipe for Dreaming' and it was a dollar. I felt blessed, inherited a bookmark and a little note that said 'whether you are near or far, I have roads inside me, that take me to where you are.' I wonder who left it there. It's a heartwarming extra gift.It's a curious thing, reading another persons secondhand book. I wonder where it's been, who has soaked it's wisdom up, who has been entertained. Did it mean to them, what it means to me?
Bryce writes 'The combination of learning to dream and getting into the habit of asking yourself questions is, I believe, the beginning of a way to live a happy and original life.'
This is accurate for me. I spent years running from myself and only recently realised how to stop and ask myself what was right for me, how I felt and what I was here for. Too often the treadmill captures us.
I thought I would share this little passage from the book with you because it has inspired me so.
'You were not born empty.
God formed you with perfect feet and hands and a heart that beats non-stop, sometimes for a hundred years. He made you complete.
Why then, do you assume He made you empty?
He didn't, of course. You inherited a thousand generations of wisdom, skill, poetry, song, all the sunrises and sunsets of knowledge past. You are the sum of all the people who went before you.
You are a refinery of intellectual wealth.
The full flood of antecedent wisdom is piped and stored within you - how to climb the highest mountain, slay the biggest monster, how to survive fear and how to summon your own courage and take pride in your wonderful intelligence.
Inside you are more possibilities than you could possibly use up in one lifetime.
If you can dream it - you can do it, because the instinctive knowledge of how to succeed is already programmed within you waiting to be turned on. Waiting to flow like a river as you come on stream.'
I love it, don't you?
Bryce has been a big part of my dreaming. Perhaps he can inspire you too.
For the newsletter article and Healing Your Flow info, please click the flow picture…
Crystal Clear - Helping Vision
I love the healing power of crystals, it's just an amazing thing. How do they heal us?
Well, they vibrate at a certain frequency. And unwell humans vibrate at another. When there is discord in your energy field and you bring the right crystal in for healing, the crystal energy hums away repairing your depletion until your level is raised enough to release the unwellness. When you no longer need it, but you continue to hold it close, in your field or in your pocket - the crystal is often lost.
Clear quartz, a very high grade clear quartz is fabulous for the eyes. If you lay down and place one on each eyelid or above or below the eyes, it's a little like having a rejuvenation with cucumber. A very lovely mini treatment.
But you could take this one step further, as I do with some of my clients, and intensively work on your vision.
I went for a check to Eye Specialist. Today. Could read 1 line smaller !! than last time and had a scan.
He said "I wish all my patients were as boring as you. What are you doing?" I said "I'm putting quartz crystals on them". He said, "Well keep doing it, your eye hasn't been this good for a long time".
I lay the crystals on my eyes and forehead for about half an hour most days. I use all 5.
My family has had great success with the crystals preventing car sickness (held a crystal in each hand).
I skinned my shin very badly - the crystals laid on the plaster bandage took the pain away almost immediately.
AND my daughter used them to clear the water to taste better at our beach house as well.
I wash them for a moment in cold water most days, dry them and put in love, healing and golden light.
Thank you lovely Deb.
I am so grateful to hear this, as she has previously been told to expect her eyesight to deteriorate.
Quartz crystals are in stock if you would like to purchase them. I have large ones here for $13.50 each.
Meditate for wellness with one on each eye.
All the hard work, all the projects, all the plans, the slog, the effort and the relentless pursuing in the face of - let's face it - sometimes, not so much reward - are finally starting to make some sense, come into shape.
You've been laying the groundwork, building the platform, dreaming the dream and coming into line with walking the talk. And now you are finally speaking the language of the people - and OH MY GOODNESS! Communication came into line last week and what's more important is - now there are people all over the place, listening AND telling others about your work. Yahoo!!!
As you leave the feeling of that long, hard slog behind, you keep walking, and step into a clearer space, more light, more action filled and more expansive. Rock on now - miracle worker - you are shining!!!
Breathe in this clear energy and let it infuse all your cells. Sit for a moment, holding a smile, and a YES!
and then go out and be gorgeous.
Fight your heart and your heart will fight you back.
Fight your liver and your liver will fight you back.
Fight your family and your family will fight you back.
Fight your life situations and they will fight you back.
Fight your neighbour and he will fight you back.
If your country fights with another country, that country is bound to fight yours back.
The path to peace starts in your heart.
Call off the fight and ask your heart what it is trying to tell you.
The Resistance is made redundant at the end of the War.
Then there is peace and then there is progress.
And the flowers bloom again.
(c) Deb Wharfe 2012
Deb Rowley, Energy Expert, Healer, Speaker & Coach