All the hard work, all the projects, all the plans, the slog, the effort and the relentless pursuing in the face of - let's face it - sometimes, not so much reward - are finally starting to make some sense, come into shape. You've been laying the groundwork, building the platform, dreaming the dream and coming into line with walking the talk. And now you are finally speaking the language of the people - and OH MY GOODNESS! Communication came into line last week and what's more important is - now there are people all over the place, listening AND telling others about your work. Yahoo!!! As you leave the feeling of that long, hard slog behind, you keep walking, and step into a clearer space, more light, more action filled and more expansive. Rock on now - miracle worker - you are shining!!! Breathe in this clear energy and let it infuse all your cells. Sit for a moment, holding a smile, and a YES! and then go out and be gorgeous. You're welcome. Hugs.
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My friend Kim posted this picture on Facebook. I've shared it because it's thought provoking. And I did a little research and discovered Ellen Goodman (born in 1941) is an American journalist and Pulitzer Prize winning writer. She is also a speaker and social commentator noted for being one of the first women in the United States to discuss women's rights openly. Interesting. Not very normal…. And just because I am not what many people call 'normal' I looked up a dictionary definition… apparently insane is an antonym of normal. (That seems a bit harsh.) Normal is many things: One of them being a town of central Illinois north-northeast of Bloomington. It is the seat of Illinois State University (founded 1857). Population: 50,700. After reading all that - I'm cool with some of my bits being normal and my head being one of the antonyms. Haven't decided which one yet. normal ˈnɔːm(ə)l/Submit adjective 1. conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected. "it's quite normal for puppies to bolt their food" synonyms: usual, standard, typical, stock, common, ordinary, customary, conventional, habitual, accustomed, expected, wonted, everyday, regular, routine, day-to-day, daily, established, settled, set, fixed, traditional, quotidian, prevailing More ordinary, average, run-of-the-mill, standard, typical, middle-of-the-road, common, conventional, mainstream, unremarkable, unexceptional, plain, simple, homely, homespun, workaday; garden-variety; informalbog-standard, vanilla, plain vanilla, a dime a dozen; informalcommon or garden; informalornery antonyms: unusual, abnormal (of a person) free from physical or mental disorders. "until her accident Louise had been a perfectly normal little girl" synonyms: sane, in one's right mind, right in the head, of sound mind, in possession of all one's faculties, able to think/reason clearly, lucid, rational, coherent, balanced, well balanced; More antonyms: insane, irrational 2. technical (of a line, ray, or other linear feature) intersecting a given line or surface at right angles. "a single plane of symmetry with a diad axis normal to it" 3. MEDICINE (of a salt solution) containing the same salt concentration as the blood. "dilute the stock solution with sterile water or normal saline" CHEMISTRYdated (of a solution) containing one gram-equivalent of solute per litre. 4. GEOLOGY denoting a fault or faulting in which a relative downward movement occurred in the strata situated on the upper side of the fault plane. noun noun: normal; plural noun: normals 1. the usual, typical, or expected state or condition. "her temperature was above normal" informal a person who is conventional or healthy. 2. technical a line at right angles to a given line or surface. "the view is along the normal to the surface" Well -if you're still with me after all of that… How is your view along the surface? Yours in delighted abnormality, Red is the colour of love. It's regenerative, sensual, stimulating, the colour of power, of the base of our bodies. Of security. Red is all about growth from 0 - 7 years and cares for our backs, hips, legs and feet. It is the colour of the wavelength of light from approximately 620–740 nm on the electromagnetic spectrum. What does that mean to us? We are on a wavelength too. And when our waves are a bit choppy, we need a little colour tuning. So this is the first part of that tuning. When we are lacking in energy, our bodies sometimes need red. To find out if your red balance is out. Stand up, relax, shake yourself a wee bit, flop your arms to the sides and breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Ask in your mind… 'do I need more red?' If your body wants to move forward slightly - you probably do. Go find a little bit of red from somewhere and tuck it in your pocket for a while thinking about absorbing the colour for healing. Later check in again with your body and see how you are feeling. Are you topped up? Too much red too close to bedtime might not be so conducive to deep sleeping. So if you have a big red duvet - and you are not sleeping - try a night with it off the bed - it might be 'winding you up' a bit. Don't forget to check your pockets and take out your red helper before you pop it in the wash! Have you subscribed to my Weekly Newsletter? Next week I am featuring Orange. If you'd like to join - email me here. 021 726 276
Previous post - Feel like you're driving through quicksand to get to work? Here Feel like you're driving through quicksand to get to work? You need to know about office energy.22/1/2014 Does it feel like the whole Universe is conspiring to keep you away from the office? Try as you might, it seems you can't ARRIVE on time? Do you feel like small arrows are piercing your back as you work? Do you feel like you are sucked dry at the end of the day? Is bully energy getting you down? If you want to be more productive and work in a fresher, clearer space, then there are a few things that could be useful to know. Work stress can be in part, related to your energy field boundaries. The signal you are sending. The energy of the office, the people that you work with and the people who come in. First steps first. Some of this is up to you. Building your boundaries is really important. Subtle changes make a massive difference, so first things first, get in early and have an overhaul. Just shift something round. Throw out or streamline the things that aren't completely necessary. If you don't have a plant - get one. We all know that indoor plants are a good idea. Why? Boston Fern, Peace Lily and the hardy Rubber plant rate highly with NASA for elimination of airborne toxins such as in the office environment. (The three major indoor air pollutants are benzene, formaldehyde, and trichloroethylene.) If things feel stale even though you have plants, your plants need a holiday. Repot them, so a new period of growth can occur or exchange them for some new ones and let the old ones rest for a bit in fresher air. Your atmosphere: Clearing the air is a great idea. Lemongrass or grapefruit are BIG helpers in the office and here's why - both are uplifters. Grapefruit is gentle, uplifting, with its light citrus notes, it brings eyes wide open and restores balance. Lemongrass is widely used for its abilities to cut and clear through negativity. A little is better than a lot. Just a drop here and there, or if it's possible, use an electric burner for a short time in the mornings. So that's your bit. My part…? The work I do in offices helps to take off and clear away the old layers of emotional abuse, of pressure and stress and put you back in your shoes, so you can focus and get your job done. If you have been targeted by someone or just feel overwhelmed in their space - I shift their energy out of yours, and work to clear and release the layers that attract that, put you back into your personal power space, help you hold your own energy - then give you the tools to help yourself. In short, I put you into harmony with your job. (And then give the office an energetic scrub.) What's the quicksand about? Well, if you are really not meant to be there - it's sometimes hard to get there. So we can also take a look at where you are meant to be, call in your new space and get you ready to step into it. In perfect grace. Remember this - The Universe is answering YOU. So let's get your message clear and concise so it can answer your prayers to move forward. 021 726 276
Previous post - Last Newsletter here My clients often have great difficulty transferring the essence of my work into words. It took me a while too. Why? Because I often work without touching them, so it seems like magic - which most people think is not real - and people often start running when you say the words 'miracle healer'. Other people can see the results, but as they don't have a reference point for magic being real - they need to be inspired by circumstance, or courageous enough to take that leap of faith. I work in a high trust environment. Sometimes clients just come because they have been told to. The most common phrase I hear them say is 'my friend told me I just needed to come'. In my former life as a total sceptic who thought people were 'woo woo' and talking through a hole in their hats…. I also ran a mile when someone told me they had got 'in touch with their Indian Guide.' 'Mystical B.S.' I thought to myself. I did! and I also thought evangelists were basically vultures who preyed on, rather than prayed for people. I didn't realise the steady stream of friends who came and told me all their problems, then left feeling better, were basically getting a healing from me. (I never told them my problems.) I didn't realise that things I said were going to happen, did happen. I didn't realise I was right (until later) when I said 'that guy cheats on his wife' - I just knew that stuff. I also had deja vu moments - doesn't everyone? and now and then I had dreams that happened (apparently that happens to many people too). I completely forgot about my childhood visions because of a terrible illness that created memory loss. And I lived fairly harmoniously with the voices in my head, thinking, like most people do, that they were just thoughts. I called myself 'normal'. Now - I don't label anything. I like to understand why and see results. Working with echo location gives me both. Dolphins use echo location - a series of clicks and beeps to find things, and so do blind people when they tap their canes. Through my BioSonar work, I create a Soundscape for a person, a place or situation, and then work with an idea or essence - through past present or future - transferring release, freedom and restorative, regenerative, healing energies within that Soundscape. It brings some fairly amazing healing, dissolving hurts, pain and imbalance from the physical, mental, spiritual or emotional bodies. It's also good for pre-op and post-op, sports injuries, even old pain you thought you just had to bear. It is absolutely fantastic in helping relationships. If there has been tough stuff - but there is love that needs dusting off and bringing to light - BioSonar does that beautifully. For more information on how BioSonar can help you (or a friend) please share this post, or please contact me via text, phone or the button below.
There were bullies in the heart of my childhood. And all of my childhood I struggled to make friends. I read well from a very early age, and life inside my books was rich, wild, wonderful and adventurous. Life outside my books was painful. I didn't fit in. I felt unwanted, I was sensitive to many things I didn't understand, life was not very settled, I felt very awkward around people and I was a target for bullies. Why? Something was different about me. It that was just enough to get me into trouble. Secret #1 Bullies love sameness. Bullies love everyone to be the same, because when everyone is the same, then they all act the same and that makes bullies comfortable. They search out difference and poke fun at it because they feel threatened by it. Secret #2 Bullies are not happy. The thing inside a bully that makes a bully pick on someone else, feels so disgusting to carry around, that they are trying to put it down somewhere. They want you to 'take' it from them. It's a feeling, like a rottenness - not a physical object. It is temporarily fed when they make other people feel as bad as they do, but it's nearly always hungry. Secret #3 Bullies are ugly. Oh, they can sometimes look pretty on the outside, for sure. But take a close look, that prettiness doesn't run too deep, and the good news is this - if a bully keeps pulling THAT face when they look at people and treat people badly - that face just might be the (wrinkle) face that they will end up wearing when they are old. The ugliness, badness or wrongness inside you that they 'seem' to be pointing out to you - IS THEIRS - it's ALL theirs. THEY are the ones who have to fix something, not YOU. They are sometimes masquerading as clever, but being a bully is not clever. It's a waste of character. Secret #4 Bullies actually feel somehow disconnected. They try to reconnect by stealing energy from people who are connected. People who are connected are often connected to love, to nature, to kindness, sometimes they are connected to red hair, (red hair is very magical) and they can even be connected to freckles. Secret #5 Bullies can't handle it when you know the truth about them, so you have to be a bit gentle with them, even though they are bullies. You can't tell them that you know they have these secrets. You just have to remember how awful they feel and remember they are trying to eat your 'good' feeling. (If they felt good, they wouldn't do it would they?) Keep your good feeling with you and treasure it. Not everyone can deal with your goodness, kindness or indeed, if you have it, your red hair. That's their problem, not yours, your individuality is what makes the world go round - it's your own personal torch, that helps you light your path. Secret #6 Later on, some bullies are really sorry because they realise how awful they were and they were actually being bullied themselves. And sometimes they even apologise. Sometimes bullies just need kindness and someone to care about them, they can heal and so can you. You don't need to fix them though, and this is important to know. If you are consistently being bullied, get help. The bullies that were mean to me, hung around in a big group and took turns saying super mean things one at a time. It made them feel better. And it made me feel really awful, really awful, isolated and scared, but at the same time I knew something about them. I knew that the one who was meanest - also frightened the other bullies, and some of them joined her because of their fear of going against the crowd. What if she picked on them? They would have H A T E D it. And that small knowing helped me. A whole group of people who need to pick on one person are sick. Don't be a part of it. The world only progresses when someone is brave enough to put their hand up and share their different idea. Our planet won't survive if we are all the same. Our planet won't survive if we all pick on each other. If you pick on someone, they might not survive. (Ask yourself why you need to and heal that) Because whether it's school, or the workforce, in home, or out in public somewhere - you don't know what that other person is going through - and one day - they might even save your life. Your Challenge: Today think of all the ways that someone who dared to be different changed the world you live in. Think of explorers, inventors, innovators and scientists. See if you can name ten. And then go out and celebrate your difference, because you never know what you could do that will change someones world. If you know a friend who could benefit from these secrets please pass them on. The terrible things that happened to me in my life, which made me feel isolated and scared, also increased my sensitivity to people - now it has also helped me to save other people that have felt really bad. So what someone poked fun at me for, is my greatest gift. So I really mean it - celebrate your difference, because one day you will realise it's your greatest gift too. Here is a (4 minute) video about how doing something that seems small can make a BIG difference to someone else. I hope you really enjoy it. And keep this in mind: What other people think of you is none of your business - it's what you think of you, and what you do that counts the most. Let kindness be your guide. Have a WONDERFUL day. Deb X 021 726 276 I got the message to share posy, a bunch, a collection of blogs together, so here we are...
Love is Easy here What are Signposts? here Find out how past lives can create unwellness or phobias here Using your will for wellness here I love a healthy sceptic here Davo's Back Restoration feedback here Unnecessary Unwellness - is this affecting you? here Windy's feedback here Deb X Private sessions - Speaking - Events Skype: deb_wharfe ph + 64 (0) 21 726 276 Auckland. New Zealand. Global. I used the term signposts last night and just want to clarify that term.
'Signposts' are like markers on your life pathway. They are the repeated thoughts you have, the little hunches, the numbers that constantly pop up. (I see 777 and 222 often on number plates) Songs come up for me too. Signposts are sometimes the voices of friends, saying 'you should be on stage, you should be a hairdresser, you should work with people' for example. We don't always notice them, but they are always there. We often find it impossible to see our selves sometimes and we get nudges - I call them signposts and they literally say "if you don't like it here - this is the way you can go." For example: You may dislike your work. Nothing really changes, but suddenly it becomes much worse. You share that with friends and they say "I always feel amazing when you help me get through a bad patch, or you always uplift me when I'm down' and you think 'well that's not helping me - I am still having a bad time at work' but your friend has actually just given you a clue about who you naturally are. That clue is a signpost. You get in the car and all the songs are about 'you make me happy' You switch them off in a huff. You're not happy. But you just missed another signpost. You're back at work growling and all your Angels are around you.... saying 'well we are trying to tell her it's not the right place, we made it feel a little bit wrong, we got an earth angel to give her clues about how well she helps people, and now we are playing her music to cheer her up and tell her but...' Truthfully you always wanted to be a counsellor, a psychiatrist or an occupational therapist, but when you suggested it, someone (often a grown up) poo-pooed the idea and so you went into something else that seemed more sensible. This happens to countless people, and one of the reasons why is fear, another could be timing wasn't right, and of course, nothing is the wrong thing - everything gives you experience, it all brings new people to you and helps you along your path. It's never too late to train though - and the good news is you can study a raft of things to enhance your own natural gifts. It takes time to build into something new, but if your eyes are open and you are willing to be moved into your right space, little courses, classes or amazing books and mentors will show up. With practice you will notice your signposts more easily. With practice you will accept them (the ones that feel most relevant to you), take the small opportunities and maybe some large ones - and allow them to unfold on the path that best resonates with who You are - naturally. Life is what you make it. Who are You? Deb X 021 726 276 - prev blog post - fears, phobias, PTSD here 'Deb I had to get hold of you and tell you about my back and what the Chiropractors have said.
As you know I've had many crashes and injuries, broken my neck twice, and my back has been terrible. I've had between 12 and 15 spots on my back that go out all the time, and because of this, I've had ten years of twice weekly chiropractic work just to get through a week of manual work. Since I had those two sessions with you, I've been back to both Chiro's and they can't believe it's my back they are looking at! Both have checked me out and remarked that my whole spine is totally different - it has stabilised up and realigned itself - in just over a week!! All the heat has gone out of my spine. I have recently been working long hours on ladders again, and it's an absolute miracle that this is possible, because I have not been able to do so due to the extra strain put on the back when you stand on a ladder rung. I'm rapt with the result, not to mention how pleased I am at saving a massive amount of money and time. It's like I have a new back. Well actually, it's really like I have a new body, I'm absolutely over the moon. Thank you so much, I have referred you to a few people, I really hope they come.' - Davo, Auckland As you can imagine, I am so pleased to receive this feedback. David was referred to me. When he arrived, he told me he was a bit of a tough case. And then proceeded to say he had been in a string of accidents, broken his neck twice and taken three months to recover in a hospital from a car accident. He is an incredibly hardworking tradesman who has been looking after himself the best way he could, while carrying on with work under difficult circumstances. I'm so pleased he came and had the opportunity to have his back restored. For bookings or if you want to know more about how my work can help you call me or text on 021 726 276 Deb X Do you resonate with this?
You've dragged yourself to work, aching and knowing that you really shouldn't be there, but you are scraping through hoping you'll make it to the weekend. It's only Wednesday and everyone is looking at you as if you are a leper. You have 'the guilts' and are being eyeballed as a risk to everyone's health, while simultaneously cursed, because nobody wants you to take time off. You are wishing you were at home in bed anyway. You somehow find a hidden reserve of energy and make it through the afternoon, go home, and in the morning you just can't do it. Your worry about the cost of a day off, of healthcare, what other people think about you spreading bugs and being a general inconvenience has melded with your feeling like crap and something has tipped the balance on your scales. You decide not to go into the office today. You don't really like taking pills, but if you have to, you will take them, and you're not getting any better, so you go to the Doctor - because you can't take time off work without a medical certificate. Sitting in the waiting room, you pray that other peoples bugs don't jump on you and so you shallow breathe and cringe slightly. You watch, privately shuddering as small, slime encrusted children share their slime with toys and books, and you wonder to yourself about how potentially hazardous it is to collate a whole lot of buggy people in one space. The Doctor is running late. More buggy people arrive. You succumb to the allure of the 2 year old House & Garden - to discover the recipe of your dreams in its pages. Your morals say no to ripping out the page - and the recipe is a long one. You are halfway through frantically scribbling when the Doctor calls your name. In his office you breathe again, mentally testing yourself on his eye chart, and wondering how tall you are now, while you look at the measuring tape on his wall. He takes one look at you and says "You're not well." This is not news to you. (Doctors are amazing people, and they work brilliantly with body mechanics and clues. Thankfully some very fabulous ones are getting into natural therapies and so can offer a range of services - however - I am not talking about them - this is just an experience.) He is not sure what it is. You and your body presented him with clues, and the clues seem to indicate it could be a virus. However, just in case it's something he can kill - he gives you a prescription for antibiotics and your 'get out of jail free' card - the You Are Medically Unfit for Work certificate. Off to the chemist, you wait again, and the total sum of your trip is around $90 - $100. You go home and eye the antibiotics suspiciously. They appear to be baiting you and they just feel like chemicals and giving in. Thinking that you normally get well anyway in about 3 days, you put them on top of the fridge. With the other old unopened antibiotics. Somewhere you read about them killing good bacteria anyway. You are definitely off to bed, but first you have a glass of water because you are dehydrated from all the running round, you put on a load of washing, clean some windows, wash the kitchen floor and catch up on a few jobs that you haven't done around the house. Later you feel much better. Even though you didn't take the tablets. Why? You moved out of work energy - your body was telling you to leave and you listened. You moved into the energy of 'I am now seeking wellness' - the Doctors Clinic - and it was crucial, because the Doctor gave you a few minutes of his time, checked you out, reassured you slightly and gave you permission to be off work. (the recipe is completely gone from your memory) You went to the Pharmacy even though you don't really like taking medication, because you are a person who follows through with things, and you still do believe medicine has some kind of role to play. (in some cases and for some people, it does) Your body said no to the medication (I CAN DO IT was kicking in) and that's why (despite that nagging feeling your mother would growl) it's on the fridge. Your teaspoon of stubbornness (that will stop you from telling your mother you're sick) that busted through and said 'NO' has helped you to flip some kind of hidden switch. You achieved something that, while it was just getting housework out of the way, was actually a 'weight off your shoulders' too. You feel lighter and a bit fresher, and also, in a small way, successful. You moved energy in your house. You go to bed, but don't feel as sick as you did. In the morning you feel much better, better than you did when you were dragging yourself to work, but you stay home - just so you can have a day off that actually means something - because you have a certificate. (You can clean out the bowl on top of the fridge another day.) Consider this: All the things you did that made you feel better - were things you were doing just for you. What if you just gave yourself permission to take time, enjoying the nurturing energy of a natural therapy? Natural Therapy tends to boost you and shorten healing time. That $90 - $100 is a great investment in a session of clearing, healing, moving stuck energy, maybe even including house and office clearing too. Your session runs to the clock. You enter a peaceful 'bug free' haven (or even stay home, saving gas and travel time and have this healing via Skype) and as the energy is cleared round you, you are lifted into a space of freshness. Your equilibrium is restored. You have a whole hour all to yourself. No antibiotics, just pure energy boosting, undivided attention that is all about, and all for you and your wellness. Nurture time is GOOD. You feel more like You when you are finished/leave. Enhancing wellness helps removes the need to heal unwellness. Regular energy work helps you be more connected to the way your body feels, functions and how it speaks to you. Science actually says the body - despite the fact that you can push on it and it appears to be solid - is an energetic instrument. So this is why time and time again, physical illness is removed in ways that seem impossible, with energy. And because it's just energy, it works on body, mind and spirit - not just the mechanics. Deb X Bookings & availability text: 021 726 276 (c) 2013 Sessions may include and are not limited to: Clearing and release of unwellness from illness or injury (new, old, or chronic) Clearing of stuck energy in home and office Relationship Healing Cord cutting and removal of old energy from past relationships Family healing, clearing the air and basically the removal of (and freeing up of energy around) anything that is weighing you down. Clearing the energy around projects, situations and more. Other posts: 50+ways my healing has helped people Deciphering your body code: Pain |