The Disappearing Self

The Disappearing Self - when you morph in relationships and take on the energy of partner/friend or overgive, never making a choice for the group or the couple. It's all about going with what they want.
The ability to say no grows weaker without practice. 
After a while, you start to realise you are everyone else's somebody and your own nobody. And if you have an opinion, it's overlooked because they are used to having it their way. 

Result: You feel disempowered, unheard and maybe like they wouldn't notice if you weren't there.
Sometimes people just live with that, thinking they've made their bed and they have to lie in it. Sometimes it feels too hard to stand up and say 'HEY!' to everyone, and so there is a big period of time of just going along. What happens to change this, if you don't do anything with it, is that your body - on some level - could be physical, spiritual, emotional, mental or even at work or in relationships, gets to the point of no return and has some kind of blow out. Too much time spent out of balance is just too much for the body. 

If you check in with yourself and you know you are getting to the overwhelm or blowout stage, but you have no idea where to go or what to do - then you need to know this one of the things we address in the program. I've experienced it, walked the long walk out of that space, learning all the way, then - used the lessons I learned to accelerate shifting my clients out, much faster and more powerfully. 

Want to talk about that?
Deb x
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