I got the message to share posy, a bunch, a collection of blogs together, so here we are...
Love is Easy here What are Signposts? here Find out how past lives can create unwellness or phobias here Using your will for wellness here I love a healthy sceptic here Davo's Back Restoration feedback here Unnecessary Unwellness - is this affecting you? here Windy's feedback here Deb X Private sessions - Speaking - Events Skype: deb_wharfe ph + 64 (0) 21 726 276 Auckland. New Zealand. Global.
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I used the term signposts last night and just want to clarify that term.
'Signposts' are like markers on your life pathway. They are the repeated thoughts you have, the little hunches, the numbers that constantly pop up. (I see 777 and 222 often on number plates) Songs come up for me too. Signposts are sometimes the voices of friends, saying 'you should be on stage, you should be a hairdresser, you should work with people' for example. We don't always notice them, but they are always there. We often find it impossible to see our selves sometimes and we get nudges - I call them signposts and they literally say "if you don't like it here - this is the way you can go." For example: You may dislike your work. Nothing really changes, but suddenly it becomes much worse. You share that with friends and they say "I always feel amazing when you help me get through a bad patch, or you always uplift me when I'm down' and you think 'well that's not helping me - I am still having a bad time at work' but your friend has actually just given you a clue about who you naturally are. That clue is a signpost. You get in the car and all the songs are about 'you make me happy' You switch them off in a huff. You're not happy. But you just missed another signpost. You're back at work growling and all your Angels are around you.... saying 'well we are trying to tell her it's not the right place, we made it feel a little bit wrong, we got an earth angel to give her clues about how well she helps people, and now we are playing her music to cheer her up and tell her but...' Truthfully you always wanted to be a counsellor, a psychiatrist or an occupational therapist, but when you suggested it, someone (often a grown up) poo-pooed the idea and so you went into something else that seemed more sensible. This happens to countless people, and one of the reasons why is fear, another could be timing wasn't right, and of course, nothing is the wrong thing - everything gives you experience, it all brings new people to you and helps you along your path. It's never too late to train though - and the good news is you can study a raft of things to enhance your own natural gifts. It takes time to build into something new, but if your eyes are open and you are willing to be moved into your right space, little courses, classes or amazing books and mentors will show up. With practice you will notice your signposts more easily. With practice you will accept them (the ones that feel most relevant to you), take the small opportunities and maybe some large ones - and allow them to unfold on the path that best resonates with who You are - naturally. Life is what you make it. Who are You? Deb X 021 726 276 - prev blog post - fears, phobias, PTSD here Hot on the heels (I know, I couldn't resist it) of last nights dream about sandals... comes a story of magical manifesting and surprise.
This is real - but it's also a fairy tale manifestation, and it just may have a gift in it for you - so I will start it the way all good fairy tales start. Once upon a time... when I was a struggling single mum, I wished for a pair of shoes. Not just any pair of shoes, actually I really wanted boots, and I had an idea of the boots that I wanted. They were brown and had white stitching on them. At least mid-ankle length and as I had next to no money at all - I had no idea how I could possibly end up with them. I considered they were a pipe dream, but all the same, I wished for them. I had a picture in my head and I don't know what made me do it, but I said 'Dear God, I would LOVE a pair of boots like these. I have no money to buy them, but I would LOVE them, and I don't know how they could be mine, but I would just love them.' And I completely dismissed the idea and went on with my life. A couple of weeks passed. I had to go pick my children up in Tauranga (they had been away for a few days) and asked my friend Liz if she would like to come for a ride. She was up for it and so off we went, leaving Auckland early enough to be in Tauranga about lunchtime. We got out of the car, gasping for coffee and headed off up the road to find a nice cafe. About half way up the first street, the footpath was clogged with a group of women and we had to almost 'swim' through them to get past. (Just quietly, I was a bit annoyed.) We were hailed by a lady with a microphone and asked if we wanted to join the queue to "win' something. Ever the sceptic - I said no, and prepared to carry on, but she persisted. "You REALLY want to do this" she said. 'Oh yeah' I thought to myself, but gave her a brief window - just a few seconds of my time, for the benefit of the doubt. She came through with flying colours. It was a radio station/shoe store promo called..... Cinderella for a day. They even had a throne. Participants were to choose a pair of shoes to try on and if the shoes fitted - they were a gift. I asked her how much it cost, because I couldn't believe it was really free. She said it was free. Seriously. Waiting in the queue I had time to watch girls ranging from roughly 15 years old trying to cram their feet into shoes that were too big and too small and thought they could have done with looking at the sizes on the boxes. (Older Cinderellas might be a bit more wily...) I was a size 39. I did a double-take when I saw there was a pair of brown boots with white stitching sitting beside the throne. I sat down and looked at the box. It was size 39. 'There is a God' I said to myself, and requested them, giving my friend Liz a nudge towards the red shoes next to them (she was next in the queue). They fitted me and they felt like I was walking on air. Liz fitted the red shoes - they looked gorgeous. We left the store and literally danced up the road to a cafe. Cinderella indeed. Between us we were holding over $500 worth of shoes. I simply cannot explain to you how that felt. Those boots lasted for ages and they were soooo comfortable. I mentally, humbly and profusely apologised for being such a sceptic and vowed to return to Tauranga. I haven't been back... BUT... I'll be there again soon - on September 13th, I will be at the Tauranga Yacht Club, in Sulphur Point from 7:30pm, BRINGING MIRACLES - telling stories of amazing spiritual experiences, speaking about healing and the simple ways we can heal and empower ourselves and our children, saving a huge amount of time, stress and money in the process. My work is defined as profound, stunning, inspirational and life changing. I'm a teacher, speaker, healer, humanitarian, a survivor, a changemaker and so much more. Every day I help people make changes in their lives and many of my clients call me their miracle lady and there are testimonials to some of the miracles here. I'm a humanitarian too, so I would love to give back to the people that helped clean up the oil spill there and also would like to offer an opportunity to caregivers. If you are one of those people and would like to claim a subsidised ticket - please contact me directly here. If you have a special friend that you would like to nominate a seat for - please write to me about that here. The eventfinder ticket link for standard price tickets is here. I'm looking forward to creating miracles for you. Deb X 021 726 276 If there is one thing I have learned, it's that all of life is about energy.
The body is a constant process of renewal, not a structure as some people believe, and in it, energy never stops. Our whole body - it's complete cellular make up, including all organs and the skeleton, is replaced within one year. So what are we feeding it? And I'm not talking food here, I'm talking energy and power. Do we enable? Or disable? What we observe becomes us. What we hold close becomes us. It literally does rub off. People that are close to us are oscillating in our field, the same way as we oscillate in theirs. It is actually impossible to be alone, because not just energetically speaking, but scientifically speaking too -wherever we go, we take people, trees, sky and plants with us. We inhale each other and all the energy that is around us. This is why we are sometimes referred to as One. So when people 'get sick' in any way, what they are referring to is an imbalance of energy - whether it shows up in a physical way or an emotional way - it starts with a flattened/squashed/ or grey energy. I have lost count of the number of people who tell me that they have had 'this thing forever' so they are 'stuck with it'. In a short time, these same people have been free. Energy can be moved in a moment, and your pain, no matter how old it is, brings me joy. Why? Because my gift is the gift of turning pain to wellness. Your physical, spiritual and emotional pain - to me - is an opportunity to exercise my abilities to bring you liberation, wellness and skills to help you and to change your life. So educating you and freeing you, is not only my pleasure, it's the icing on my cake. If you are carrying pain (no matter how old it is), you probably don't need a pill, what you do need is TLC, a clearing and then, energy tools. Simple, effective, and powerful. Mainstream media mostly tells you that pain is a part of life. The cost of believing that is massive, and they are right until you stop resisting the power that you have within you and allow it to wake right up. And that is most definitely a gift. If you have a group, I have speakers rates available. I am currently taking One on One clients, locally and world wide - either in person or via skype, and my next shows are scheduled in Hamilton - August 3rd, Tauranga August 23rd, Auckland Sept 6th, Nelson Sept 20th, Wellington Nov 28th, Auckland Dec 13th. I have been asked to speak in Dargaville and am arranging that. My Christchurch show is to be advised - I have plans afoot for something super special... sending as many goodwill vibes as possible so it comes together perfectly. I'm looking forward to giving you my simple tools to create an inspired, fabulous life, because it's my heartfelt wish to have a radical, positive effect on your life, and on the wellbeing of your family. Are you ready to meet your brilliance? Deb X
Maybe you are a healer…? How would you know?
We are all healers in some way - but some of us do resonate more with our abilities, or could do with awakening to our abilities so we can use them to enhance our lives and the lives of others. Here are 15 Tell Tale Signs to watch out for... When I first started my work, I was completely blind to many of my gifts, and only over time, did they become obvious to me. For example, I was told by people who did readings, to stop doing readings for free - I was just talking to people and had no idea I was having some 'mystical conversation' with them, it was a natural part of my life, me being me. Apparently I was also a 'healer' - and if you are an 'entry level' person you will resonate with this word - as 'healer' means 'person that makes others feel better'. The following list may bring an AHA moment or two, plus answer the odd question you may have. It all relates to my experience and what I have witnessed through my work. Knowing how to use these gifts has changed my life completely. It can even become an income, and may indeed be your life’s calling. How many can you tick off this list? Share with me - I'd love to know. It's my absolute privilege to teach healers, to help them start on their healers journey or help them grow their business. If you are ready to take a next step, you can let me know here and we can make a plan. If it's useful to you, please share with others. xx
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In many cases ONE Energy Healing session can release ALL your pain. can cut the distance between You and Your Healing into minutes. Pain, stiffness and tension are all energy blockages - even pain due to injuries - and energy healing clears this. Why do I think energy healing is great? These are results...
and... helping plants grow. (You should see the size of my jade plant leaves!) So what else is possible? All these things have happened for my clients, their testimonials are here. I was a sceptic who regularly took Panadol and other painkillers for a chronic sore back. I had phantom pains, a broken heart, felt depressed and had low self esteem. I recovered from a prolonged series of traumatic life events that brought both extreme pain and around 30 years of fear. I still am partly sceptic and that's why I love to see and hear results. Every day, people are helped by this work. It works over the phone, via Skype, anywhere in the world. Some people are helped in ways they never dreamed possible. Are you ready to believe that you can let go of pain?
I talk about the Heavenly DJ a bit.
And many of you know what that is. Some newbies however, might be wondering, so I will explain myself. My Heavenly DJ is the source of the songs that just show up in my head. I get LOADS of them. It's a gift and a 'channel' lots of people can access, some people call them 'earworms' but they are important - and if you have a problem with them getting stuck in your head - listening to them, understanding and saying thanks, helps them to go.. I have had some terrific messages from the songs that come through to me. Often the song is obscure and I have to do some research to find out what it is - then have a listen. (This makes it difficult if the song actually has words like na, na, na, na in them, which one did recently.) I am often wowed by them, because it's so apt for my particular situation. I use the words/phrases God, The Big Guy Upstairs, The Universe and so on intermittently, and the Heavenly DJ is the music department of that... And how do I know the Heavenly DJ/God has a sense of humour? There have been various jokes played over the years, but the most daft musical pun I've received to date goes like this... James and I were cooking dinner tonight. I am fluffing about at the bench, and he wanders off from his soup and then says "Hun can you stir my soup for me?" Like a flash of lightning in my head - seriously - oh so fast - I hear a 70's song. 'I'll be your substitute' I hear the band singing in my head. (At this stage I don't know who the band is, but that's irrelevant as the full message comes through.) 'I'll be your substitute?' I think/say in my head to the Heavenly DJ... 'Umm - I don't understand THAT message??' There is a pause and a feeling of mirth presents itself.... another pause. I get this reply..... 'I'll be your SOUP-STIR-tute.... wooHOOO...' and I can hear laughter. Listen to the song. You'll get how well it fits. Took me half an hour to shake it back out of my head. My apologies if it gets stuck in yours. Obviously the Naff jokes department night shift were on duty, or some angelic smartypants was messing with the intercom. (God knows it's important to have a laugh.) And here it is, for your listening pleasure....: Clout 1978 I'll be your substitute. EnJOY. Deb X -next blog post Cameron and the phantom pain Do not complain about your life until you investigate the ideas you have. Make sure your ideas serve your wellness - if they do not - THROW THEM OUT. Get new ideas or leave room for the birth of inspiration. Bitterness will never make you better, or better than anyone else. Avoid toxic conversations and situations. Understand that when two people are angry and you don't like it - you are the one who needs to do something about it. More anger feeds the war, put your weapons down. And leave the battleground. The idea that someone has wronged you is sort of spiritually flawed because every step of your journey has been your teacher, if you did not learn from it - it's guaranteed you have another lesson coming. Learn fast - requiring the same lesson over and over is not bad luck. Know that if 'love' requires selling yourSelf short - it's not love - and do something about it. Be a friend to yourSelf. If you have no friends and you don't like yourSelf either - you know where to start. Embrace every day as a delivery vessel for new possibilities. Recognise and honour your values and your virtues. Dream a dream and take some steps towards it. Be just a little braver than you think you can be. Feed your inner child as often as possible. Light a candle for yourSelf every day. (or when you remember) Find something to be thankful for. Do something for somebody else. Make praise one of your hobbies. Speak your truth. If you love someone - tell them - a moment of such courage could change your life forever. If someone doesn't love you - move on. The person who will love you is waiting. Taking the ghost of your old partner into your new relationship is one of those ideas you need to examine. Remember you have a purpose on this planet. Know that miracles already surround you. See the beauty in small things. Heal yourSelf in nature. At least go for a walk, hug a tree, swim in the sea or lay on the grass. Laugh uproariously. Share your stories of hope and love. Inspire. Act on your hunches. Smell the roses. Paint with your hands. Meditate and rest when you need to. (you need to often) Love wildly, passionately, deeply, gently, loyally and often. Give your smiles away. Surrender everything you can do nothing about. And surrender all your pain and all your (perceived) unhealed relationships. Find out who you are. Do that NOW. Your joyfulness heals the planet. If you don't know how to start finding your joy - observe puppies and small children playing with water. Get over yourSelf. Give with grace. Receive with grace. Be pleased to know the end of the world is not today. You have both less time and more time than you think. So hurry up and... slow down. Eat honey. If 2000 year old honey is still edible and if 'you are what you eat' is really true, then honey IS the bees knees. You are each and every one of you a gift filled with gifts. Treasuring yourSelf will help you to honour your gifts. Drink more water. (The 42 Commandments are now available as a pack of cards @ just $42 NZD a pack plus postage. To order yours, click the picture or the red link below to go to the webstore.) I'm wishing YOU a miraculous day!
Here is a little dabble with 'what we put up with' from negative people. If people don't like you or if you have a consistent experience that feels sharp, pointy or draining with a friend - I give you permission – in case you are not - o relieve yourSelf temporarily of your good manners (just put them to one side) and take a good hard look at a couple of things: A. Why your 'friend' (and we could insert family member or partner here too)
feels the need to download on you or bring you down. B. Why you are allowing it to happen. Because here is what I have learned... Someone once labelled me a 'people pleaser' and I felt it was a very negative judgement. I worried about what was wrong with me and after I investigated myself, I realised the lady who called me that, was a negative person and was challenged by the fact that I liked people and people liked me. She was a grumpy lady. Not to everyone. To me. All I was doing was making her a cup of tea - I wasn't deliberately trying to 'please' her. And nothing I did was going to please her - she wasn't WIRED for it. Ejecting her from my field eased life immensely. I continued to do nice things for people - I am here to share kindness - and eventually realised that she had given me a gift. My boundaries weren't strong enough and I was an over-giver. Giving to a person whose hobbies include ungrateful fault finding is not necessarily helping them or you. I had the right to be who I was and she had the right to be who she was. If she wanted to be different or happy, that was her responsibility - not mine. If she could label me - I would not label her, but I could certainly define her role in my life. Name calling isn’t nice, but definition gives you a platform to work from. It was a relief for me to let her own her own grouchiness. And I could step back from it. Maybe she might learn from it too, maybe not, but - and this is crucial here - her learning was not my responsibility or any of my business. Neither was helping her and so stepping back without being unpleasant, was best for me. In ejecting her from my field I had exercised my right to be selective over the good manners I had, good manners which were causing me to believe that I should stick around while she was being awful. These were simply my programming and beliefs disempowering me. Once I stood up and internally said “Hey Honey – that’s not my stuff” I discovered my internal compass worked better. Another gift. The unpleasantness ceased to flow over me. See how this works? And now, I can say thank you for her gift. It helped me discover a stronger part of me. Are you doing your ‘duty’ sticking around with a consistently negative person, and blaming yourself, when you could just let them own it, deal with it – (or not) and be free to be yourself? Or are you raining on someone else’s parade because of your own pain? Can you stop and investigate what your real issue is? There might be a good opportunity for growth in it. Are you no longer a match for the friends around you? People do leave your life. Sometimes letting go or stepping back necessary, but painful, - it doesn’t mean you don’t love them, it just means it’s time for you to broaden horizons and have different experiences. Don’t cling, there is always a gift in letting go - it opens your arms to receive more. And as you know when one door closes another door opens and it's true what they say "what other people think of me is none of my business." If you are having trouble letting go or wanting to grow stronger boundaries in a painful space - I work with that. Email me for more info via the button below. Deb x Florence Scovel Shinn passed away in 1940, but before she did, she wrote some of the most transformational books. Her books formed a strong base for today's life coaching. Her writing was recommended to me and so I bought 'The Wisdom of Florence.' It was explained to me that she was very 'Gody' in her writing - there were a lot of biblical references, but that they were a solid practice and contained manifestation principles for abundance, health and more. I read it, and loved it. And took it to Australia when I travelled with my friend Mollie a couple of years ago. We were shopping in Melbourne. It's fair to say we helped out the Melbourne economy and they would probably love to have us back. During an 'attack of the shopping guilts' on the fourth (and last day) we were there, I decided to meditate to 'ease my troubled mind.' It was morning, and as our body clocks were on kiwi time, we had an extra couple of hours to fill before the shops opened. I decided to bathe in the energy of Florence's book, and put it on my chest while I meditated. My 'bridge over troubled water' showed up and I had a vision of a very radiant Christ, holding his arms out wide, who said to me "Adorn Yourself." Startled because that was not my usual thing at all, I turned to Mollie and told her what had just happened and she immediately said "There you go - Jesus Christ says you should keep shopping!" All I could think of was going back to jewellery shop that I had bought a couple of things in, there was a cross that I loved there. We arrived and I went to the cabinet. It was still there and as I looked at it, the owner came to my side. I told him I might buy it and gift it to someone, as I couldn't stop thinking about it. He looked at me a bit funny and said "No, it's yours, it's for you." I told him I had already been shopping and bought all sorts of things, so couldn't buy it for myself. He said "No - it's yours, I'm giving it to you." I stood there for a minute, not comprehending that he would do such a thing, but sure enough, he meant it. It was AUD$80. A heck of a gift from a stranger, but he insisted. I came away from his shop shaking my head, wearing it, and it has been a constant source of support for my work ever since. Later I realised that a woman had come into my shop about a year prior to our trip, and had drawn a picture of it for me, saying that when I got bogged down with life and forgot who I was, I was to remember that I was the cross that was 'shaped like this.' (Sometimes I have met spiritual people and wondered where on earth they got their ideas from, and although her words were kind, they were a bit weird, so I had disregarded them) It was an amazing experience that continued to unfold though, as I used it in a healing - my friend was in hospital and when I showed it to her, she asked me if I got it in a little alley in Melbourne, in a little shop, and described the shop exactly. I confirmed that I did, very surprised, and she said she was there two weeks earlier with her son, who wanted to buy it for her, but that she had told him it wasn't for her - someone else would come along soon and get it. She had lent me a book by Kathleen McGowan about Christ and Mary Magdalene and in it there was a story of a lady who was gifted a very antique ring that symbolised Mary in a shop. I read it just before I went to Melbourne. Still shaking my head about the whole thing, it felt like a weird dream, and to be honest, with the work I do every day, creating, or being a part of miracles for people, it's pretty much on going. We all have the capacity to create miracles and now and then, when I forget that what I do makes a difference, I try to remember that the gift of that ability is a miracle in itself. Sarah MacLachlan sings 'it's not that unusual, when everything is beautiful - it's just another ordinary miracle today.' I know my kind of ordinary sounds extraordinary to others, but it's only the surface. If the seemingly impossible is possible - and I constantly see that it is... What else is actually possible? To look at life with awesome wonder is the least I can do. Deb X
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