Empaths & Narcissists

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I have a strong opinion on the wave of empath/narcissist memes that are shared around (often passive/aggressively) on Facebook.

Why focus on narcissists at all?

Finger pointing doesn't heal or help anyone.

More helpful is to identify (without blame) what it is about empaths that makes them overlook their intuitions, work against their truth and make them make choices that are not in alignment with their value.

Sometimes the override switch is flicked in very early childhood. Sometimes it's educated out at school and in the workplace. Now and then, it comes through lineage/family tree/past life and parental programming.

Let's fully take back our power and responsibility.

Narcissists, should we focus on them, may end up (by default) creating a pity party in a really disempowering way. We want to step away from that energy altogether!

Traditionally, empaths can be seen clubbing together, licking their wounds and talking about the power of narcissists, but I've yet to meet a healed empath who does it more than once in a blue moon. If you are expecting to spend the rest of your life hiding from narcissists, you may need to rethink where you're getting your advice from. 

If I focus my energy on people with narcissistic behaviours I distract my energy. It is a far better use of my time to completely connect empaths to their power and remind them not to use their journey with a narcissist to turn into one themselves (because that does happen sometimes).

No relationship has an insurance policy - an empowered empath will simply move away from a narcissist and know they are not a victim. They will stay connected - they will remain supported and they will not roll over for deal breakers in relationships. 

There's also a tendency for plenty of gentle people to point at others and call them narcissists without a real basis. Sometimes people make choices we don't like and it doesn't give us the right to finger point and draw a good guy/bad guy line.

We don't get it right all the time. We're humans. We are not meant to. We're not living on a pompom. It's a planet with trials and lessons and gifts and all sorts of wonders. 

Our job is to remain open and let the wonders in.

OPEN to miracles. OPEN to love. OPEN to growth. 

I'm not overlooking the pain and trauma that goes on when a relationship is destructive.

But empaths and sensitives are not victims when they are empowered.

When we shift our vibe by working with regular, consciously empowered positive action and take full responsibility for ourselves, we can move mountains.

And we will.


​Deb x