Inside it, you pop little pieces of paper with your skills and attributes, little compliments and kind messages others have sent you. You put in ideas about things you might like to do, places you would like to go, notes about how far you have already come and other things that feel relevant. Brainstorm to get your notes, ask your Angels and your Human Friend Angels too for help and once you get started, you’ll get prompts, pop-in thoughts and little memory reminders of all sorts of lovely things. I would like to go to ………. Someone said ……….. A miracle/synchronicity/meaningful event…. I can ………. I overcame/used strength or courage ……… I am grateful for .......... My goal is............ When you are feeling a bit low – test yourself by holding the Love Tank. If you feel closed off from the Love Tank Blessings, you are in some way holding resistance to the good in your life, you could be tired, need some time out or some self nurture. Drink water, walk, go for a swim, get some fresh air play beautiful music, take a bath, light a candle - and hug yourself. (Or a friend.) Reposition yourself gently. Hold the Love Tank. Close your eyes and breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Allow the energy of the blessings, wishes and dreams in the jar to flow into you and draw strength and courage from it. If you are really feeling low, take a good look around at life and see if you can think of some more blessings to pop in, or take out the blessings that are already in the Love Tank, read through them and enjoy them all over again. Daily (or when you feel like it): Pick up the Love Tank, hold gratitude and feel/send love, joy and excitement to all the things held within. If we have to have 'rules', here are three rules with the Love Tank. 1. Never to throw away a blessing, no matter who it came from. 2. Every time you put a blessing in the tank, your blessings are multiplied. 3. Your notes must always be written in the spirit of love, kindness and positivity. Now and then you might like to keep a blessing with you for the day - that's a great thing to do, then pop it into the Tank. Tips: - A jar is a great idea because you can see into it all the time. A box is good if you want to keep it private. -You may like to start a Love Tank for a friend, putting little compliments and blessings into it. - A Love Tank would be a GREAT gift for your children - A Love Tank would be a GREAT, budget minded personal Xmas gift from the heart. © The Heart Crown graphic is one of my t-shirt designs. You can order this here. For other spiritual resources, on past lives, healing, colour healing, creativity, inspiration and more, have a browse through my other blogs. :)
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When you feel like you can't do this and you can't do that, it is a massive sign that your energy is off balance. When you feel like you're not yourself, or when you are feeling overwhelmed, you need a reset. Through my childhood I was constantly told there was no such word as can't. Every fibre of my being hated hearing it, but it has set me up for a life of overcoming obstacles. I pushed through all sorts of things that others find incredibly daunting. I could. And I did. And now, as I work with energy, I know to the very fibre of my being, that when I feel like I 'can't' do something, I am not only wrong, I am carrying 'can't' energy. And 'can't' is an actual energy that debilitates our bodies and makes life feel stuck and stifled. Healing helps 'can't' to be released and for all your I CAN DO IT's to come back. If you are currently saying can't to things in your life, give me a yell. I CAN help.
RAMBLE ABOUT CRAPOLA: Do you sometimes wish you could give someone a good old shake and say "I understand you are freaking out, but please just shut up for a minute and listen to me?" This morning I have witnessed a big bleargh in the Facebook newsfeed, with someone directly insulting an ex. It's all good be honest about how you feel. And believe me, I do know sh*t happens. Been on both ends of that. But threats and insults are SUPER unattractive and a bit of a hint that some help with seeing how energy works could be useful. When someone treats someone else 'badly' there is a lesson. Lessons bring gifts and growth and they might feel painful but they are GOOD. Get the lesson fast. Breathe, ground. Remember life is not always simple. There are bumps, curves and the odd pothole in the road. Be less affronted and front up more. Say "Yes Life, you slippery little number, I see you are testing me again - well I AM STRONG, so I'm sucking it up and moving FORWARD and GROWING." And even love it a little. Penalising yourself and others for perceived 'mistakes' when in fact, you are just learning and growing, can lead to bitching about the treatment you got. And if you do that - it means you haven't understood the lesson. Sometimes that means you'll get it again. That's entirely up to the individual. You get bitter or better (with wisdom, kindness and gentleness) and YOU are the timekeeper on that. Breathe life into your drama OR breathe life into your life's greatest work. Sympathising with the 'bitcher' helps them remain in a place of bitterness and confusion and it also offers them a great big chunk of your lovely energy to munch on. That energy often goes straight out of your gut. You might feel tired, panicky, hungry, like a gap needs to be filled or like something is missing. Not everyone has a lot of extra energy to dish out, and empathic (feel a lot, give a lot) people can get caught up in the dramas of others quite easily. If you're paying attention you'll notice some people will continually create the drama in order to keep getting the energy. Sometimes they are completely unaware they do this. Commenters/judgers jumping on the bandwagon and wishing someone who has wronged others unwell can end up with a similar lesson. I know that we want to protect, it can be so irresistible and you just feel like wrapping your friend up in your arms and chasing away the baddies, but there are positive ways. Gossip energy is very detrimental to your field too. Offering a view from a distance, so they can step back and see the big picture is very valuable. If you are giving a load of your energy away, to friend or family try empowering rather than endowing. This helps them step up. There is a difference and the difference is that empowering another, also empowers you. You may not be popular for a short period of time, but the phrase 'what did you learn from this?' is a good place to start. Picking out the parts that were good and blessing them, saying thank you for those little treasures, and then allowing the rest to flow away - is priceless. What's crapola? Here is my de(b)finition: crapola /krapːəʊlə/ casual or unconstrained conversation, drama or reports about other people, typically involving details which are one individuals side of the story, when there are in fact, two hurt parties to take into account. *Nobody is the bad guy, but everyone is pointing the finger. Synonyms: muck raking, tittle-tattle, tattle, rumour(s), whispers, stories, tales, titbits, gossip and even possibly bollocks. The only way is up baby. May your day be informative, fabulous, filled with radical gorgeousness and a dash of something sparkly, scribbly and wondrous. MWAH!!! Deb X Life Whisperer, Coach, Ladybug Lover, Constant Evolver ps. Sometimes I'd love to comment on people's drama on their page, but of course you know it's never going to be well received, and it's just me feeding them my experience for free. Better to create something with it and offer it so you can find it useful. So it's me turning a reaction into a positive gift for you. If it helped you - please SHARE it with my blessing. <3
My God the road to love can be fraught with peril can't it? When you just hope so much that this next one is The One and you try so hard to be confident but underneath your knees are knocking. There are so many scenarios I have been through, trying to get the right guy 'in the box.' You know, the imaginary box that your mother wants someone to be in so she can finally breathe a big sigh of relief and know you're going to be looked after. She can put a tick beside your name on the list. And if she hasn't got a box for that special someone who-will-make-you-happy-and-look-after-you to go in, you do. It's all very well getting advice from people with partners too. After a while you can feel like you are on the outside of a big plastic bubble that excludes you while everyone else walks around being smugly married or wrapped up in each other. And then the media, bless their hearts, tells you the world is a TERRIBLE place and that there is a Man Drought. Sod it all, as if that wasn't enough. And if you're a woman looking for a guy, the best guys are gay, and all that stuff. I know. I've been there. I got chewed up, spat out and a whole lot of other things by the dating game. Then I stopped looking. I hung up my dancing shoes and went home. All my friends were annoyed with me and everyone said I would never meet the man of my dreams in my lounge. But I did. On Facebook. And he wasn't one of those scammers who professes deep, deep love as he is enraptured by your charm and winning smile. He was real. Tell you what almost stuffed it right up though - MY BAGGAGE. We went out for coffee in broad daylight. And that was a bit scary because of my baggage, but it was broad daylight in my local village, so I was ok. (I was told he was the one by my guides, which freaked me out.) Then he freaked me out, by asking me out for dinner and I said yes - when I really meant 'I'm scared', which freaked me out further. Tuesday night. During the day on Tuesday, literal shakes and cold sweats - I was confronted by all my baggage leaping up and down and basically screaming at me. I wanted to curl up and die instead of going out for dinner. Men hurt. Here we go again. Too scary. My experience in life said 'If I give my heart to someone he could stamp on it. He could be a rapist, a stalker, abusive. He might rip me off financially.' And my paranoid other voice said 'What-if-he-is-the-one-and-I-stuff-this-up? He might be the one, he might be the one.' (That voice has caused me no end of pain, excusing bad behaviour, and heartache - hoping and hoping.) I know, if you have been looking for love for a while, that you know about that voice. Anyway. He was the one. Even though my fear monsters tried to drown out my inner voice, my inner voice was right. BUT I almost didn't go out for the dinner. Mid afternoon sometime, I managed to get out from underneath the 'what ifs', and the memories and ghosts of my past, and then I was ok. We talked about fear over the next few days and I confided in him that I almost didn't go out because of my baggage. He said that he had tried dating websites, but he felt so awful because he met ladies who were sad because of the way life had worked out, and that he felt so terrible, because he knew when he met them, that because of the sadness, he wouldn't be asking them out again. I felt sad for them, thought about where I had been, and totally understood where he and they were coming from. That's hard. We talked about energy healing and how it helps to release old sadness and make people feel fresher and I considered offering Goddess Packs - Healing for the new life, saying yes to love in ALL areas, not just relationships, self discovery as a woman, process and release of old hurts, stress and fear, and self esteem building. But I didn't do anything about it till now. Now we are getting ready for 2015. And I believe as much baggage as possible should be liberated. Washed away, burned, brought out into the light and set free, so we can all be free, because having love in your life, love for yourself, lovely experiences and a love, not just for one person, but for all (or certainly most) people, is definitely the answer. We can't carry our old stuff with us. It stuffs up our NOW. And even though Then caused us pain, hurt and drama - NOW is all we've got. So if you are trying a dating website or dating generally, and you are fearful you are going to meet the same sort of guy, (instead of knowing that your champion can come) it is an indicator that you could do with healing, and releasing that 'baggage'. What we think about comes to us. NO new guy, has anything to do with the 'old guys' behaviour. And if you go to him holding that and actually say "Because JOE BLOGGS treated me like this, I am going to offer you a shadow of my former self and be scared that you will leave me." He may say (and rightly so) "I don't even know who JOE is, why are you making me him?" When we are free, we are ourselves again (and so is everyone else). Energy work frees us to be stronger, calmer, lighter and more ready to take on life's challenges, opportunities and invitations. It's a peaceful release. Once you have burned off/released the baggage you don't need, acknowledged that No new person deserves to carry the perceived mistakes/wounds/trauma/fear that you went through with some other guy, and you don't want to hang on to it any more either, you will allow love in on many levels. And it will breathe life into all sorts of wonderful things. It will bring you back to you and that's the someone you most needed to find in order to experience ALL the love that is everywhere for you. Then, you are ready for someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated, and not the way you were treated. Or maybe you will be so happy doing your own thing, you'll think about whether you have time for all that, and go on some amazing adventures. Never mind about the 'not many men around' thing. You have lit your own candle and you can just radiate. The lovely men are real, they aren't all on dating sites, they are in ordinary places where life just happens too. And you are open to GREAT opportunities. Is it time for the Goddess in you to be free?
I like the article I've linked here. It humanises things. And maybe it could show some people that they don't need to be so mean to each other in the name of God because even an Archbishop can have questions. The God or G.O.D. as I sometimes refer to it, is within and around us. G.O.D is the Grand Orchestrated Design. Here is a little of my 'design' for you. Remember when I was talking last week (on Facebook) about my healing being called Hand of Christ? In a nutshell, someone came to me and told me that when I forget who I am, I am the cross that is shaped like this (demonstrating a cross that was long and fluted out slightly at the ends) - I was a bit taken aback. Then I went off to Australia, meditated and was told by Christ in my meditation to go shopping. When I went shopping I was gifted a cross by a jeweller. Worth AUD $80. A stranger. (There is another layer to this story which makes it even more compelling, but I will leave that for another time.) I get home to New Zealand, and in the course of my healing one day, a lady asked me what it was called and the guides told me it was called 'Hand of Christ'. For me this was not necessarily helpful - I already have to explain energy healing to sceptics who don't understand how someone can wave their hand and release pain in a moment, and Christians who sometimes like to believe their Jesus is white, neatly packaged as a deceased and resurrected carpenter who, although they want him to return, could only return as a neatly packaged white carpenter belonging to their Church, or else he is not real and anyone 'claiming him' or claiming to 'be him' (which I am not) without the umbrella of their particular church might be a bad guy. This is why I believe it's the illumination of kindness within us that is the Saviour of the World, I think if Christ showed up, people might tear him apart and pop him in tiny jars (just like they do with relics) so they could have a piece of him. Or worse, lock him up. Apparently there is a mental asylum in Jerusalem for people who think they are Christ. Well, if you're still with me after all that.... the other Friday when I 'came out' on FB, I didn't tell you that I had painted a healing hand with hearts on it the day before and my Thursday client saw it, and said "Deb, that's the hand of Christ right there." (I was being doubtful about my artwork, so haven't shared it with you - I told you I still need to get over myself.) That client triggered the coming out of the closet thing on Friday and Friday brought a major gift. Friday went like this..... Me: Coming out of closet, then leaving FB and getting on with the day. Tentatively thinking I may have left a small can of worms and challenging stuff open on FB, I saw some clients, then my 3pm lady arrived. She had been referred to me. Her session was fairly huge and amazing and just toward the end (obviously in context), I found myself telling her that my healing was called Hand of Christ, the way the name showed up, the gifted cross and that today felt a bit special because I had come 'out of the closet' on Facebook. My client wrote down her email address so I could add her to my newsletter list. And as I looked at it, I recognised the business name and my eyebrows almost went into my hairline. A huge rush of energy followed. She just looked at me. I explained her that through all this journey I had also been asked to write a very special book. And that I was guided to go to a particular shop in Auckland to buy a journal to write it in (it was handmade, leather, horrifically expensive and Italian) and at the time of purchase, the lady who sold it to me said, "this is a VERY special book, what are you doing with it?" and I had said, 'I feel silly saying this, but I have been asked to write a kind of modern day Gospel of Christ for 'normal' people, whomever and whatever they are.' The deja vu feeling hit both of us at the same time. We looked at each other in recognition and amazement as massive energy and the penny dropped for both of us. On the day I came out on Facebook....? My 3pm client was the lady who SOLD me the book! Sometimes I just shake my head, but apparently I am supposed to nod and get on with it. Whatever 'it' is.
Years of conditioning can shut us down to who we are. And sometimes we don't realise it has happened. To you... "Shut up." "You're only a child, what do you know anyway?" "We are listening to important people, be quiet." "Shhh, I'm on the phone." "I'm the man of the house and what I say goes." "Do this, do that (nag, nag nag)." "You don't know what you're talking about." To others... "He's an idiot, he doesn't know what he's talking about." or... "She always rabbits on about crap." There are a multitude of ways we are told that what we say does not matter. Our voices have traditionally been shut down by a society that always said 'children should be seen and not heard'. These days we are starting to watch the ideas of children with wonderment. Thank God for technology. A 15 year old has invented a test for pancreatic cancer that cost just cents to make and takes moments to do. Jack Andraka's invention is here. A girl has invented a way to make plastics out of banana peel - Elif Bilgin was awarded $50,000 for the ongoing development of her invention. I'm so thrilled to be able to see these amazing inventions via the web. However, what I see most often are people (in my day job), who are unexpressed and just needing a wee bit of self validation in order to come fully into themselves. As we come through childhood and into teens, we are forming the way we stand on the planet, and that conditioning of 'children should be seen and not heard', can really stick. We must perform 'the right way' for people to approve of us, and while that's ok for many people, some gentler souls are really knocked off their perches by it. Sometimes as a result of this, people don't know who they are because they have been pressured to be someone that fits a 'suitable' or perhaps even 'correct' mould. And this can put us into a space of overwhelm that we don't necessarily come back out of. But there IS a way out. You know I am speaking from my own experience here. It took me a very long time to find my voice. And starting a blog was a major step towards it. I write this post for you with the conviction that some of you will read it and think "AHA! that's why I find it so hard to say how I feel!" and I only have that conviction because I started to share my opinions. I initially thought it was stupid, but I had to practise writing somewhere, I felt dumb doing it, I thought that my writing would be read by nobody - and people started reading it. Actually thousands have. If I didn't start, so many people who needed help would still be walking around feeling sore and foggy. And many of them would still be heart broken, or insomniacs. I've learned a few thing, and one is, if I quote other people too often, I am ignoring my own valuable voice/opinion or experience. When you are busy with what everyone else says, maybe you lose what you say, modify or even shut down what you think or feel. Experts, might become experts by studying other experts, but someone had to have original thought somewhere in order to even start heading toward expert status. A pioneer/expert is the person with the balls who said 'I think this.' And then went ahead, validated and built on it. If that expert doesn't ever give life to that original thought - the planet misses out. You've got to start somewhere on the road to being an expert. And YOU are the expert in your life. Sometimes OUR original thought goes unheard in our rush to conform and listen to the opinions of others. Don't think you've got one? Like I said, neither did I. Sometimes we bottle it, and that's not healthy for us - we are channels, meant to enjoy things that pass through, not hold them stuffed down and stifled. When we always lean outward to learn from others, or wish we had what they had, as a result of being conditioned that our opinion or voice doesn't matter, we miss our greatest teacher of all - our own spirit. Each of us does have really amazing gifts. And right now, if you are saying "not me" THIS is exactly why I am writing this post. In order to listen to our own spirit, all we have to do is trust, arrive/be present and say yes. We may feel there are layers of sh*t built up over the amazingness locked within us. Perhaps it seems thick, but it's not and you have a big old kick ass spiritual digger if you need one, to pull those layers off. There is a spiritual quote somewhere which goes 'in order to find yourself, you have to lose yourself'. And it's often true - sometimes we have to get to a point where we have been pushed just enough to YELL out and say I AM WORTH IT!!! Because until we get to that place, we are not ready to swap the ordinary for something extraordinary. That comfort zone can be a 'good enough' trap sometimes. You can uncover your voice by yourself. You are already here, and you have everything you need. The thing is - sometimes you don't believe that. You just might need to say 'no' sometimes when you are saying 'yes' to please a crowd or someone else. You can express your opinion and when others disagree or over run it - you can repeat yourself, or tell yourself it's ok to be different. You can sit still for a moment, instead of reaching out for connection with others, say 'where am I?' and connect with yourself. Locate yourself, rest, place your hands on your heart and send yourself love. Practice saying what you feel, small steps first. Work to clear your throat chakra. Listen to a free 30 minute self healing meditation here. If my post is resonating with you and you feel like you would like to release some past hurts in order to help the process to uncover (and trust) your voice, I have private sessions to help release the 'compression/repression/suppression' that has been placed upon (or absorbed by) you.. Join my email news to hear more about the magic we do here.
Argh!! 'spiritual' people. Yet again there is another one chucking horrible stuff out. I just removed a boa constrictor from a lady who really could have done without it. It was squeezing her enough for her whole body to be sore and for her breathing to be affected. She's been 'sick' for days and just realised she needed help. After removing the snake that was squeezing her (which fitted all her issues to a T), minutes later she felt like herself again. Not nice for anyone, but especially not nice when you're pregnant and the mother of young children. I sincerely hope the lady responsible drops the desperation energy and stops being a taker. Why oh why do people think it's ok to wish someone UNwell? EVERYTHING IS ENERGY. If you're in a bad mood with someone and you work with energy, confront it, own it, release it, go jump in the sea and have a scrub, ground yourself, let it go, send your bullshit on for healing, take no for an answer when it's given to you, learn to celebrate the good fortune of others, and for Gods sake as well as your own - just don't fling it where it doesn't need to go. In case you didn't get it the first time... EVERYTHING IS ENERGY. If you want prosperity, don't complain about lack or be a taker - prosper others. If you want kindness, don't complain about lack of kindness - be kind to others. If you want more peace in your life - BE IT. If you want more love to go around - BE IT. I'm thinking it's simple, but maybe it's not. Bless, bless, bless, bless, bless. End of rant.
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There are times when we talk 'about' people. When we are seeking to understand them, when we are supporting them, when we are inspired by them and also when we want to rip them down because we are triggered by them. We are responsible for all these times. All these times are an investment of energy. There are wise investments and investments that say a lot about where we are at. What people do, say, wear, and choose to do are all individual things. In no way can we choose for another. We are not made of their chemical, energetic or personal composition and to judge them in any way is an indicator that we have a problem with their freedom. Don't lock yourself up by holding negative thoughts about anyone. The more you celebrate their worth and wellness, the more you are free to celebrate your own. One moment spent thinking unkindly is a moment investing in an untruth. The truth is, we all are amazing. And thank goodness, we all are amazing in different ways, so together we can create a wonderful balance. Life can be a tightrope, or we can swing gently in the breeze. Let go. Be free. And just love the wrinkles. Love IS Easy.
FREE HUGS - International Peace Day is Sept 21st. Be the Change You Wish to See in Your Country.9/9/2014 FREE HUGS IN AUCKLAND & SOME TIPS: Yesterday Nicole and I went for a bit of a ramble in Auckland. We hugged hundreds of people outside Britomart and around the lower Queen St area, and I just wanted to share with you a story (or two) from the morning... One man who did not speak English walked up to me and gestured that he wanted to know what we were doing. I demonstrated from my heart to his and a sign of peace. His eyes went wide and he stepped into my hug and remained there for a few moments. We hug with our hearts, real and strong. No patting on the back, no rigidity, a big beautiful hug. He drew back from me with big tears in his eyes and then overcome, he hugged me again. He bowed as he left. I had to take a few moments to process the tears. Bless him, if he was the only person I hugged all day it would have been so worth it. One guy was on the way to his first day of his new job. Monday morning hugs are non toxic, alcohol free, no calorie, uplifting, heartwarming and I am quite sure they go a long way toward curing Mondayitis. I recommend you find a friend you trust and who gives GOOD hugs and take him or her along for a couple of hours. People will ask you why you are doing it. If it helps - this is what I say - I tell them that it's because we need touch and connection now more than ever in our world and because people are AWESOME. Nicole and I also met some hilarious Hug Avoiders. I will save that story for another day. There are a few things that are useful to know when doing Hugs in your community. 1. NEVER hug a child that is pushed towards you. Children's boundaries are SO important and we always honour them. Parents who are a little nervous sometimes push their kids forward. It's important not to curb their natural instinct to keep themselves safe. If it feels right, give them a high five instead. Now and then, a child will openly come and say "Yes I would like a hug." Those ones are just fine. 2. Banter is good - gentle, non invasive, lightheartedness. No bullying anyone into a hug, personal zones MUST be respected. (3. This should be fairly obvious, but I've seen otherwise, so no touching below the waist.) 4. If you can hug in the open air with plenty of space around you and enough time for people to deal with their risk or resistance - the 'shall I or shan't I?' you are more likely to get a yes. Include everyone in your offering. 5. You'll get loads of No's. Deal with it gracefully and instantly. (If this is a problem go straight home. The streets are ok without you.) The No's are not about you. At no time make fun of anyone - this should also be obvious - but you are being a role model for people around you. Some people you are sure will decline you, will surprise you and say yes. 6. Some people will think you are nuts. You are. It's great. 7. Some people haven't been hugged for years. Once someone told me she had not been hugged for 10 years. That's why we need touch. Of course I hugged her twice. 8. Some of the people you will hug have been hanging by a thread. Your hug is their lifeline. Don't underestimate it. Love each person you hug, big golden, sunshiny love is good for all of us. 9. Hugging is not a business opportunity. Over time I've hugged thousands of people and have given out very few cards. Sometimes I take them with me if people want to friend me on Facebook or get more hug pictures. If you are really hugging - you are holding a moment of time, not having a conversation. It's not networking - it's HEARTWORKING. 10. Too many people giving out hugs can be quite scary - three is plenty - so split up or spread out. 11. Keep your arms out wide and SMILE. Pack away all handbags and extras so you are totally able to be present and play!! 12. Be prepared to have your heart melted. International Peace Day is on September the 21st. Want to make the world a better place? Grab a friend or get a group together and go DO HUGS FOR PEACE. Past hugging days: There are more tips and a couple more stories here: http://www.debx.co.nz/blog/10-top-tips-for-free-huggers Be the change you wish to see. Deb X You can follow me (or friend me) on Facebook here
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